i am trying to work on a holiday visitation schedule with my kids father and i dont know what would seem fair. for the last 6 yrs i've had my child every holiday in the a.m. hes gotton her by noon and returned her by 5-6pm that way shes with my family for a few hrs in the am and his in the afternoon. fathers day he has her and mothers day i have her. now we have to talk to my childs guardian ad litem regarding this because he wants more than that which i think is more than fair, but his new fiance doesnt. can someone help me and please help me find a fair and resonable solution!!!!! thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-14 06:46:58 · 11 answers · asked by shanluvs423 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just to clearify this as people are responding not so nicely his new fiance is pushing him to go for more its not that she doesnt want my daughter there shes just trying to take over and me and my ex boyfriend have had this holiday schedule in place for 6 yrs and now hes trying to switch it.
2007-05-14 07:22:25 · update #1
How it is suppose to work is you switch off every other year so that he also gets to play Santa, ect. You are far from being fair if you never allow him alternating times. Be happy she has a father who truly wants to be in his childs life.
Learn how to bend where they are concerned and get with the program. Did your parents not teach you how to share when you were little? Good luck!
2007-05-14 06:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that you have got a guardian ad litem involved, your input is not going to mean much. But you might suggest alternating holidays on alternate years and see if the guardian ad litem goes for that. But -- for real -- something went way wrong for a guardian ad litem to have been appointed. So your input won't mean much at all.
2007-05-14 14:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visitations should be worked out BY two people---the EX husband and Ex wife without consideration of any added Adults in the picture.... The schedule should be to both THEIR mutual benefits and any 3rd party adults should adapt to the visitations as set forth by JUST THE PARENTS OF THE CHILDREN. I hope your EX thinks long and hard about making this "fiancee" his wife because she sounds like she could be trouble not only with relationship to your KIDS, but with the EX as well.... SHE should have NO say in the matter when it comes to the kids---she isn't even his WIFE yet... and if he is SMART, she won't be because she will continually get between HIM and the kids...and it's not fair for you EX to have to chose between a controlling "soon to be wife" and his own flesh and blood kids.... The KIDS should win every time and that would cause plenty of trouble with the "soon to be"... hopefully it will turn out that she will become a "soon NOT TO BE"....
2007-05-14 13:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are only 9 very important holidays...
New Year's Eve~one gets the child this year
New Year's Day~whoever gets her/him on NYE should keep the child unless until noon on this day
Mother's Day ~your day
Memorial Day~your day
Father's Day ~his day
Independence Day~ his day
Labor Day ~your day
Thanksgiving~his day
Christmas Eve~your day..(see what i said about NYE. same rule applies)
Christmas Day
Mother's and Father's day cant change, but the other holidays can alternate each year.
2007-05-14 13:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you get the kids all morning, then again all night? No, that isn't fair. Not sure why you think it is...(well wait, you get more ofthe time)
Most divorced families go odd & even years...switiching off holidays (full holidays with overnight stays) If one gets thanksgiving, the other gets christmas that year....birthdays switch each year, depending on odd or even...etc.
there isn't any set rule you have to have christmas on christmas, or easter on easter...if anything it is to a kid's delight and advantage if they get to celebrate (and get presents!) more days than traditional families.
Stop being selfish, this isn't about you and your ex, this is about your child, who deserves to be with mom & dad equal amounts of time.
2007-05-14 13:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-16 17:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have my husbands kids every other vacation for the whole week and in christmas we split the day in ha;lf but whoever gets them in the evening gets to keep them, if his fiancce doesnt want them, its too bad, and he shouldnt be with her then. Th kids should come first
2007-05-14 14:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by debbie v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I did it, He got her Christmas Eve 6 pm to noon Christmas day odd years. Even years noon to 8. Thanksgiving was odd years him, even years me.
2007-05-14 13:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not rotate years? For example. This year he gets all the holidays, next year you get all the holidays and so on.
2007-05-14 13:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by Virgo27 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most couples i have come across usually alternate years.... 2000 x-mas with dad and new years with mom
2001 x-mas with mom and new years with dad
and so on.....
2007-05-14 13:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋