Is this wrong?

Question

Well i'm married and pregnant. i was just wondering is it wrong for a married man to text and call his ex girl friend or am i just being selfish. he tells me there just friends and i really should trust him. but i personally think its wrong. is it?

Answer 1

I agree with you, its wrong. He wouldnt like you texting an ex boyfriend im sure

Answer 2

Hell no! it is totally inapropriate, I would want to slap him. Seriously though my husband and I have had conversations about this vary thing and the conclution was that having friends of the opposite sex is one thing which is sitll touchy but friends of the opposite sex that you have had sex with is a definate no no. I mean come on, maybe they are just friends right now but how easy it would be especially since they have already did it i'm assuming. Especially now in your condition he is being really stupid. I would deffinately set you foot down and do it now, let him know your not going to put up with this by giving him a consiquence. Are you living together? If so give the silent treatment or no sex (not for long) until he gets the picture. Ask him how would it make him feel, and explain the stress right now while your pregnant could harm the baby well atleast it wont be good. He must be young still huh. good luck Kim oh if you dont set these ground rules now he'll always run over you, again point out "would he like it"

Answer 3

Yes it is wrong!!!! If they were just friends then why did he break off with her? You should be his best friend now!! What would they have to talk about? Maybe you should have a talk with him about it and tell him that your not liking this at all and you feel it's wrong. If he continues to disregard your feelings then maybe you should find a male friend to have conversation with. But what does the ex think about him being married and starting a family now and still keeping in contact with her. You must put your foot down and try and put a stop to this before it gets worse.

Answer 4

Personally, an ex is someone I choose to pretty much have nothing to do with, especially if i'm in a new relationship.
We broke up for a reason, why would I want to hang around them or talk to them?

I would be feeling the same as you, perhaps just bring this up with him in a non-confronting way......there are rare cases where ex-es really can "just be friends"......but like I said...it's very rare.

Answer 5

Honestly, I think it's a bad idea. I have been married 14 years and have 2 kids. I have only seen my ex-girlfriends when I have accidentally run into them or seen them at class reunions. I did send my ex-girfriend and her mom and brother a sympathy card when her dad died (suddenly from a heart attack, was in great shape) but that was the extent of it, and my wife knew. She actually thought that it wasn't a bad idea, a gesture of good will in a tough time. I got a thank you card back, but that was the extent of the contact. In your case I think that your husband is wrong.

Answer 6

Yes- if its upsetting your relationship with him- then its wrong- you and him should come first.Anyway- why? does he find a need to keep in touch with her? he must have other friends- so can manage without her,that's not selfish of you at all- what can he tell her-that he cant tell you?- unless its about you-in which case-he shouldn't be discussing anything about your marriage to an "ex".Have time out to cool down,then sit and talk it over with him,tell him how you feel,he should honour and respect your wishes- he promised to-in your wedding vows.Hope you can work it out before it blows out of proportion, best wishes.

Answer 7

OK look what you have to do, the first think is to know if you have conference with the person you love, that means with good communication and understand your man and you self, you can make exercises with you boy for make a text what he wants, what the most part he love you, and you do the same thing and don't forget and the end you start taking about and you will feel conference it will help you for get out your questions and the same thing will help for relationship, and he want make the attention what you really want, if you need help with it let me know i will help you..([e-mail]) good luck

Answer 8

Your being pregnant might have something to do with your feelings. You do need to trust him. If what he says is true he might want to consider showing you a message to ease your mind. I have never been able to have a good friendship with an ex, but I suppose it is possible for some.

Answer 9

I don't know.....that is a hard question because it kind of depends on the person. I mean I have had exes that I did not mind had girls and ex-girlfriends for friends and others that I would not trust to save my life. I guess you have to ask yourself how strong is your relationship? Have you had problems in the past? You can be the only one to truly know if you can trust him!! Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Because it bothers you it is wrong.
My ex called his affair just friendship. We are now divorced, the frienships start out that way , but turn in to affairs. Its called friendship with benefits. My ex was going with my youngest sister. I did not want to believe it either. It took me 10 years to finally say enough friendship. People will not tell you that they are having an affair , I don't know why. Afterwards, they will tell you they knew of the affair.
Tell him to stop . If he loves you he will understand

Answer 11

You have every right to be asking questions and its not wrong. Like the first person stated, if they share a child then i wouldnt lok to much into it but if not you need to keep an open mind. Does he tell you what they talk about, seen a text message she has wrote to him, or sharing the his thoughts with her??