Who should I choose...my spouse or my girlfriend?

Question

I made the mistake of cheating on my wife. My wife knows about the affair. I didn't expect to fall in love with my girlfriend but I did. I have a 6 month old child with my wife but not sure if I love her anymore.

Answer 1

Only you can answer this question...if you do nt love your wife anymore, it is not fair to her or the baby for you to stay..on the other hand, you should think long and hard about what you are giving up....if there is any chance that you still love your wife, you should stay and try to work it out and leave the other woman alone.

Answer 2

You said it yourself you made a mistake. If your wife is willing to work through your mistake maybe you should at least be willing to give up the girlfriend and work it out with your wife, you did make a vow. If your girlfriend knew you were married that shows that like you her morals were compromised and probably needs to be re-looked at. If her morals are low what is it to say she won't cheat on you as you did your wife. Think about it "grass isn't always greener on the other side" And the feeling of being in love.....news for you that is the exhilarating feeling of doing what your not suppose to be doing like an adrenaline rush. Don't mistake the two. If you really truly try and things don't work out with your wife and I mean 100% try then when your child grows older you will be able to look that child in the eye and honestly say you tried.

Answer 3

I think you should have long talk to your wife . You say you made a mistake of cheating on her .That means you wont do it again . When your wife found out about your affair. She thought it was over . You should had told her that you had feels for other woman ..You told your wife it was a mistake that's mean you have love for her still but the love life is not like it use to be . It because she had your baby . You think since she had the baby she don't have time for you . She loves you and wont cheat on you. the only thing she is thinking about you and your baby . I think the only thing you love from your mistress is sex. You need to grown-up take care of your responsibles.

Answer 4

Do her a favor and allow someone to give her the love that you can't. Another man's junk is another man's treasure and she has a right to be accepted for who she is and cared for in the right way. You need to stay with your lover now because the choice has already been made. I would never want someone to stay with me if he wasn't there and this you are not. Your wife means nothing to you or the fact that she carried your child and brought this precious baby into the world for you. How sad to create a life and abandon your committment with someone else. Your lover deserves you and you deserve her you evidently do it for each other. I am sorry but this is terribly sad and you broke your wife's heart. Just when she needed you most you turned your back on her to satisfy your own selfish needs. Cheating is never a mistake it is a choice.....and your girlfriend won the prize. Maybe you will do her in when you get tired of her or she gets pregnant next? Good luck to your wife and baby when she is finally free to find a real man in their lives.

Answer 5

You did not make a mistake. You had a lot of fun screwing around. You want your girlfriend because you don't have her. You are a cad and a wretch. You took wedding vows and you are now breaking them and you are wondering if you love your wife. Grow up and accept your responsibility as a husband. You are young and have little to no experience of life. You are "off" your wife because she has a new baby and is no longer sexy for you. Sorry but you come over as being selfish and you asked for answers so choose your wife and thank God if she will have you back.

Answer 6

If you are not happy with your wife, leave her. However you need to be there for your child whenever possible. Just because people are married does not mean that the are good parents. When my parents got divorced, things were so much better for our family. My mom and dad fought all of the time, it sucked!! With that being said you must take care of your wife and child financially, and your child emotionally. The people who are telling you to go back are crazy!! Divorce if done correctly does not ruin a Childs life, in fact it can make it better

Answer 7

In the end, women are all the same - as men are all the same. Trade one in for problems, well you get another new and different set of problems with a new woman. The girlfriend thing is hot and sexy, but the marriage is suppose to be through thick and thin. Marriage takes work to be sexy, but one day the girlfriend thing with die out to (in the sexy hot way). It takes a lot of courage to stick with a marriage when it cools off. I just think you need to prioritize what is important to you. Do you want to be selfish? Maybe your wife is a dud - hmmm, but you have a new baby. Stick around a while and give it a fighting chance. It's OK to tell your wife that you like it when she... takes care of herself, looks pretty, does this for you...

Answer 8

--You made "a" mistake? It sounds like you made quite a few.
--Sorry to hear you don't love your 6 month old child anymore. (read your sentence)
--I definetly think that the gal that slept with you knowing you were married and had a child is a real find and I can see how you could fall in love with such a person.
--personally I think it is your wife that has the choice weither you will stay or go, not you.

Answer 9

k you have a 6 months child with your wife and you didn t expect to fall in love with your girlfriend? right . I think that you should stay with your wife and tried to work things out with your wife. Your girlfriend isn t worth losing everything .

Answer 10

First of all, let me say that I think you're a pig. Cheaters never prosper, they say, and I think that applies no matter what you're cheating in.

Now, to actually answer your question:
I think you should stay with your spouse. She may not ever forget what you've done, but eventually she will regain her trust in you and forgive you for it. Think about it -- you have a *six-month old child* with this woman. How can you even consider leaving that child -- who has half your DNA, by the way -- for your own selfish desires? I don't mean to be rude or abrasive, but you should really take a step back and look at the bigger picture here. The decision you make is going to affect your child's life. Please, be smart about it and do the right thing.

~Remi