Marriage & Divorce - 2 May 2007

My husband has been acting weird these past weeks. We live in apartments where a bunch of crack head people live and lately i have caught him having conversations with them.Not only that but he also gives them rides supposely to get something to eat but during midnight i find that very strange and i ask him and he says that he only took them to get food and thats it.Anyways before me and my huspand got married he was selling drugs then stopped and the whole time he was doing it i didnt know cause he also had a job but a lot of people would call his cell phone and then he confessed to me that he was in fact selling but that he stopped.So now this is going on and i am 30 weeks pregnant with our first child so i am always home how can i find out if in fact he is selling drugs again? And our income is still the same wouldnt it be more is he is selling?I need to find out cause i am not going to have our baby around any of this.

2007-05-02 09:57:27 · 22 answers · asked by Mommy 2

Me and my husband have been married for almost a year and a half now and no matter what i say he still goes online and looks at other womens profiles and he tells them they are hot.I have told him it bothers me and it seems to me he does not care about what i think.Is that normal for guys.Am I being paronoid.I just need to know what I should do.PLEASE HELP!!

2007-05-02 09:44:56 · 24 answers · asked by hunnybear737 1

2007-05-02 09:42:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

If someone has an order of protection in place against their spouse...which states they can have no contact with the petitioner or the children for 30 days until the case goes to court, can the petitioner then take the children and move out of state prior to the temporary custody hearing? ...leaving the other party with no evidence of where they've gone?

2007-05-02 09:34:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had found a adult cd (XXX) that my husband has been hiding from me for quite awhile and recently I found that he got another one. I know it's normal and I'm not really mad but a bit upset he is hiding it from me.

It's also a bit damiging to my own ego considering I am now pregnant and don't excatly have a great deal of self esteam on my own body image.

Should I talk to him about it or should I just forget about it and be understanding that he is a human and has his own needs?

If I should talk to him about it how do I bring it up?

2007-05-02 09:32:44 · 20 answers · asked by flygrl 2

My ex-husband still thinks that he is married to me and that he can control me.

He constantly tries to tell me what to do. He also still cares for me in his own way.

Yet, I don't remember any positive good moments from our life together.

What steps can I take to make him forget me? He has tried to move on but not been able to.

2007-05-02 09:27:25 · 16 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My child's father has been threatening me to get cusotdy of our baby so that he won't have to pay much child support. I live in Minnesota. The waiting list for court is a year and I don't have money for a lawyer and he's rich. I don't want him to have any custody, AT ALL! What should I do??? I'd rather go without child suport than have him get any custody. I cry myself to sleep every night!! He's not on the birth certificate and keeps demanding a paternity test so he can have her. What are the chances that an ummarried couple would get shared custody if the mother doesn't want it??

2007-05-02 09:25:26 · 39 answers · asked by Lovemydaughter07 1

We've been together for 10 years and we have a daughter together.
He's been talking about marriage but I am afraid to go through with it.
It's not because I don't love him, I do... very much.
I just don't see the need to get married at this point.
We are married in every way that matters except Legally.

Would you be able to stay with someone forever without marriage ?? or is marriage now mandatory ??

2007-05-02 09:18:21 · 19 answers · asked by M.O. 5

ok so i am head over heals in love w/ what i thought was going to be my fieance. the other night she went out on "ladies night" and came home smelling like a a coors light and a bottle of jovan musk put together, hint 1. about a half hour later she checks her voicemail, and theres a totally unappropriate message from her "friends boyfriend". it was def. one of those dreaded messages, hint 2. she has cheated in past and i like an idiot forgave her. now i feel like an *** if i ask to see her phone. and she refuses, hides it at night, and is always on vibrate or off. i would do anything for this girl, anything. i love her to death, and could not even begin to think about a day without her. what should i do? i have not slept or eaten in five days now, and this is eathing the **** out of me. HHEELLPP

2007-05-02 09:04:48 · 37 answers · asked by pzackon 1

We've been married 3 years and I moved in to his house from another state. Earlier in our marriage when we fight he would threaten to throw me out of the house which he actually did once and had to live for a day with a neighbor. This went on for a while. Asked him countless times never to use this mental game on me, and finally he stopped. He didn't do it for a while until a month ago during a fight he told me that he bought the house for him and his children(from a previous marriage). Now he wanted to remodel the kitchen and expect me to use my paycheck (I make more money than him) to remodel it. I don't trust him anymore after what he's done. I asked him to write a document basically saying I spent money on his house. He doesn't want to give it to me, he said it should be implied that I am part of the house. We share the same bank account and I told him from now on I will separate my paycheck. This is a mess, what should I do? Can I trust him again?

2007-05-02 08:54:59 · 29 answers · asked by MMC 1

What do you think?

2007-05-02 08:47:59 · 26 answers · asked by buggy 1

What did your wife/husband talk about when you first met

2007-05-02 08:42:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

please i need to know if me and my boyfriend get married

2007-05-02 08:41:58 · 20 answers · asked by nakita_scarlet 1

Did I make a mistake?
I got married in may of 2005 to my high school love. Everything was fine. She told me she was talking to another guy but nothing happened. I believed her. Then she became pregnant and My son came which I love 2 death. I bought a house and had the perfect family which I wanted. Them I found out she cheated on me and broke my heart. I also found out before I got married that she did have sex with that guy and the courts asked for a paternity test but I denied it bec that is my boy I know it. But did I make a mistake marrying her? we are in divorce court now bec she wants to be with the guy

2007-05-02 08:31:37 · 25 answers · asked by dirbe22 2

I live with a man. We're not married. We have a 2 year old child and I am a stay at home mom with no money set aside. I am considering leaving him but haven't 100% made up my mind yet. I (we) have a lot of issues to try to work through. I am almost $10,000 in debt, mostly due to living expences and home repairs. The home isn't even in my name but he asked me to put things on my card. He gives me some spending money and pays some on the bills each month. My question...If I decide to leave, what do I do? I have no friends. My family lives in another state. BTW, I am 39 years old so moving home with mom or dad really isn't an option. How do I put myself in a position where I can take care of me and my child so I don't have to worry about him taking her away due to my inability to care for her? My previous jobs were in the bar/club industry and retail. He has offered to put me through school next spring. He doesn't know that I am thinking about leaving. I haven't told him yet.

2007-05-02 08:16:47 · 14 answers · asked by Jan 1

My husband, who is 36 yrs old, lost his mom to cancer last September. A few months after that his older sister stopped talking to him, his dad and their younger sister. A month ago, my husband lost his job. The good news is, he is going back to work with a company he worked at a few years ago - but he has been depressed and I know he is thinking more and more about his lack of family right now. Is there anything I can do to help him? I feel so bad for him and I want him to get happy again soon.

2007-05-02 08:11:42 · 11 answers · asked by Rachel 7

My husband and I have been trying to see the kids (Jordain 7, Jocelynn 5 and Jacob 3) for the past year and his ex will not let us see them! I am his wife and I am going to be a part of their lives regardless...why is she so adement to keep us from them? We love and miss them too!

2007-05-02 08:01:50 · 17 answers · asked by Terry 1

I am suffering enough as it, things are terrible in my life, I would just like honest opinions from WOMEN.
My ex-gf got married 2 months ago to another guy. I was with her for 4 years, but I think she just got tired of waiting for me to marry her. We had a temp breakup, she met some guy and 3 months later they married. Rebound? I made many mistakes in the relationship and feel so guilty and regretful for this, various times in the years I told her we would get married, then got scared and told her we would wait. I think she was in love with the idea of getting married, not in love with him, but he was willing to marry her, something I WASNT READY to do before. Her best friend told me that she is not happy bcs. she always thinks about me, tries unsuccessfuly to forget me, and is suffering SO MUCH bcs. she knows I am upset and suffering also. Do I have any hope that she might realize she made a bad decision,divorce,and come back to me? I realize she just got married but I LOVE her.

2007-05-02 07:52:34 · 24 answers · asked by mano 1

At times when my husband wants to have sex he's already aroused and ready to go without foreplay. Sometimes I'm not even looking sexy at all, for him to get that way...should I think he's getting ready by other methods? He tells me he can just be thinking about me...can this be true?

2007-05-02 07:49:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married in may of 2005 to my high school love. Everything was fine. She told me she was talking to another guy but nothing happened. I believed her. Then she became pregnant and My son came which I love 2 death. I bought a house and had the perfect family which I wanted. Them I found out she cheated on me and broke my heart. I also found out before I got married that she did have sex with that guy and the courts asked for a paternity test but I denied it bec that is my boy I know it. But did I make a mistake marrying her?

2007-05-02 07:46:34 · 8 answers · asked by dirbe22 2

8 months ago I left my husband of almost nine years. It was a verbally and controlling marriage that became physically violent. I had left and then when I tried to set down and talk to him about the divorce he attacked me and physically harmed me. I managed to get him to stop but the next day I left and went to my parents home with our two children. I also went to the police and they arrested him the next day on two felony d counts and a misdemeanor of domestic battery and assault. A few months later he plead guilty to the assault and they dropped the other charges. All he got was a year of probation. He still has my children every other weekend , only when he wants to actually see them. He still gets to travel every week out of the country and state which he says is for business. He went to the Virgin Islands for Christmas and the Super bowel. He still tries to manipulate me on the phone by saying that I am a money hungry *itch. He blames me for all the attorney fees. He keeps trying to get me to settle on things regarding the divorce without my attorney being involved because he says I am taking away money from our children with the fees. But it does not stop him from vacationing. I am living in a two bedroom apartment and he is living in our 42 hundred sq. ft. home. My son has special needs and needs full time care. I can not go get a full time job yet until I find someone who can take care of him. My ex said he will not pay for this and I should have thought about that. He new thing now is that he is moving across the country and will never see the children again. Our daughter is 3 and my son is 7 years old. He is trying to make my life hell. He says once the divorce is final that he will have very minimal contact with us. How do I explain this to my daughter. I don’t want to have her feel this rejection from her father. He has a narcissistic personality and says that because he has to talk to me he can’t deal with the kids. This is the person who tried to harm me in front of her. My son has autism and will still be hurt but does not understand things like my daughter. What can I do to protect her feelings? I love my children and don’t know how my ex could live with out them. Please help! I never speak badly about my ex around my children. But I won’t make excuses for him either and enable this behavior.

2007-05-02 07:45:30 · 22 answers · asked by renee125 2

In the 2 years we have been married she has gained 20lbs. I cannot motivate her to work out and I'm not sexually attracted to here looking the way she does. What can I do?

2007-05-02 07:35:09 · 70 answers · asked by BeTheHammer 2

child of his own with me (I have two child). He can't even be there for my kids, or help with them, or take any responsibility with them. I hate to say it but he's not even a good step-father. He is never really there for them. I know it would be different when it is his own, but still is who he is with children? Should I another child?

2007-05-02 07:19:28 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is a drunk. My little girl has to go over there and he can't stay sober instead he gets drunk and passes out. That leaves her having to do for herself. Not anymore he will have to come see her here in my presents or not at all. At least she will be safe.

2007-05-02 07:14:30 · 9 answers · asked by lauroyou 1

I have been with my husband for more than four years, and I am very happy with him. We have a beautiful daughter, and I couldn't ask for a better life. The thing is, I think about my ex every day. We were together for three years in college, and he was my first love. What's wrong with me? Does this mean that I love my ex more than my husband?

2007-05-02 07:05:16 · 28 answers · asked by flowerbug26 3

Is it just because some people are that way inclined, or is it because they've been misunderstood, not having their needs met etc?

2007-05-02 06:59:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband said is going to leave me if I dont find a job before the end of the month. I have been looking so hard for a job past two months. Why is he acting so much on this and he also does not give me any affection that much anymore. I just dont know what to think about all this..

2007-05-02 06:56:34 · 17 answers · asked by katelynn 2

I've been separated from my wife for 6 months, and we've both realized it's time to start with the divorce. We are very friendly still, so we'd like to avoid lawyers and the courts as much as possible. We've been married for less than 3 years with no kids. Where do we get started to get the papers, etc to file ourselves?

2007-05-02 06:53:42 · 9 answers · asked by Alex L 1

about my curiousity of how it would feel to try her panties on? Im totally straight and totally into her, but for some reason, I'm dying to try on her undies. She has so many great pairs and Ive always wanted to know if they feel as good to wear as they actually look on her. I need to know how (from a womans standpoint) I can ask her about this in a way that won't have a bad result.

2007-05-02 06:52:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

divorced woman who has two children? I'm 38, he's 36. He's never been married and does not have children. He knows about my situation. I really like him but am being cautious. I don't want to ask him where the relationship is heading because it's only been a few weeks. When is a good time to talk about it or should I just be patient and see what happens?

2007-05-02 06:47:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous