I have been with my husband for more than four years, and I am very happy with him. We have a beautiful daughter, and I couldn't ask for a better life. The thing is, I think about my ex every day. We were together for three years in college, and he was my first love. What's wrong with me? Does this mean that I love my ex more than my husband?
2007-05-02 07:05:16 · 28 answers · asked by flowerbug26 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I don't think you love your ex more, you just have love in your heart for him. Your first love is special, but your husband is your rock has your back now. Keep your feelings for your ex at a minimum. Continue to let your life with your family grow and may it last a long time.
2007-05-02 07:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Tamara J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Most people don't get over their first love. I am in pretty much the same boat as you. I dated my first true love for 4 years and have been married to my husband for 5 1/2 years now. I still think about my ex once in a while and kind of wonder what if....... But than I think my husband is great and I love him. My ex and I broke up for a reason and I am still with my husband for a better reason.
They say it takes 2x as long to get over someone as you were with them.. In that case another 2 years should do it for you. Good luck and do not loose a good man out of what if's
2007-05-02 07:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by puggylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that you've never truly let go of the past, which is probably causing you to short-change your husband. If you think you couldn't ask for a better life... how much better could it be, if you took all that time and energy daydreaming over the ex, and gave it to your child and husband?
If you can't let go on your own, consider a bit of counseling to move you along a better path. It's not bad to remember the past with fondness, but to dwell on it every day takes away from what you have in the present.
2007-05-02 07:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that anyone really gets completely over your first love. I have a great boyfriend who i have been with for 6 years and from time to time i still think about my first love. I think it is natural. That doesn't mean that you love your ex more than you love your husband. Just try to think of other things when he pops in your head. It will get better with time. Good luck
2007-05-02 07:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you may have been told there is a difference between love and being in love. Well, obviously you love your husband because you are somewhat happy a have a daughter. On the other hand you are in love with your ex because it's been many years and his memory is still in your heart. The person that you are in love with should be your every thought and desire.
2007-05-02 07:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by jtorhyme 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it has to do anything with love. because you are thinking about your ex and not saying I'm going to see my ex because I still love him. it sounds like you may want that same relationship you had with your ex and have that relationship with your husband. but you and your ex broke up for a reason. talk to your husband and get help before you lose your family.
2007-05-02 07:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by friendlygrr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it just means you are really reminded by this guy since he was your first love, I don't think anyone forgets their first love. My mom has been with my dad for 34 years and she can still tell me about her first love and raddle on. Just be happy with your hubby now and let the old man go one of these days. Its like that old friend who made a large difference in your life who you'll never forget but have lost touch with.
2007-05-02 07:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by Emily M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
woman are idiots, I should know I am one. Listen how would you like it if your husband was pining after his old love. You'd hate it and you'd wonder why he just couldn't be happy with the love and life you both created, not too mention your family. Let the past go, you're building a future with the man you actually said "I do" with!
2007-05-02 07:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to figure out what exacly you feel for each
ex: why do you think you love your husband? what about him makes you love him vise versa with the ex. Then you'll figure out if the ex is just a person that you';re either trully in lvoe with and your husband is the family man you need or it could be that you're infatuated with your ex & trully love your husband. So- desypher it all and you'll find out who you trully love and why. It's not possible to be in love with 2 different people either you love one and are infatuated or obsessed with the other or not
2007-05-02 07:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you still must have feelings for your ex and you really have to find out why because its affecting your new marriage and thats not fair to you, your husband or your daughter. He must have done something for you that your husband is not doing.
2007-05-02 07:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋