I am suffering enough as it, things are terrible in my life, I would just like honest opinions from WOMEN.
My ex-gf got married 2 months ago to another guy. I was with her for 4 years, but I think she just got tired of waiting for me to marry her. We had a temp breakup, she met some guy and 3 months later they married. Rebound? I made many mistakes in the relationship and feel so guilty and regretful for this, various times in the years I told her we would get married, then got scared and told her we would wait. I think she was in love with the idea of getting married, not in love with him, but he was willing to marry her, something I WASNT READY to do before. Her best friend told me that she is not happy bcs. she always thinks about me, tries unsuccessfuly to forget me, and is suffering SO MUCH bcs. she knows I am upset and suffering also. Do I have any hope that she might realize she made a bad decision,divorce,and come back to me? I realize she just got married but I LOVE her.
2007-05-02 07:52:34 · 24 answers · asked by mano 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just want what you can't have. Leave her alone and find someone else. No matter what her reasons for marrying this guy so soon, the point is she is still married. You missed your chance.
2007-05-02 07:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My own personal feeling is that you can't be sitting there waiting for her to "realize", to "change her mind", to "come back" etc. You will wait your life away. The reality of it is, she is married to him. She chose to marry this person, she's choosing to stay married. There's not a damn thing you can do about it. Ask yourself - how long are you willing to "wait"? A month? A year? 10 years? It's impossible to say if she will choose to give up on her marriage, and when - or to stick with it. I think, in your situation, if things don't resolve in a month or two, you have to abandon hope and move on. You have your own life to live; I'm sure you will learn good lessons from the experience, and will eventually meet someone else. In relationships, things don't work out sometimes. It is something you have to accept, and not waste your time on a dead end. Good luck.
2007-05-02 08:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theirs a chance she will realize that she made a mistake A BIG 1....cuz that's not something 2 play with...this is a long term commitment!!! She was definitely IN LOVE with the fact of being married but now she is married 2 the wrong guy(Cuz I'm sure she is still in love) (U cant get over a relationship of 4years just like that) This is FUNNY let her know that u will pay for the divorce fees cuz those fees be up the roof!!!
2007-05-02 08:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ms A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this one.. My cousin did the exact same thing, wanted to be MARRIED.. she settled for one that wasn’t compatible with her and stayed married to him for 10 years. NOW she sees it…. It was a marriage for “appearance sake” and she wanted it so badly for all the wrong reasons. This is a catch 22 really.
Well I hate to do this but I would interfere with that relationship. Tell her how you feel dam it… This other guy needs to know she will never really love him. It’s a no win situation. After all this was a total rebound. My god what was she thinking. What was he thinking??? She wanted to hurt you for making her wait and feeling insecure about your relationship. Yes.. Yes everyone makes there mistakes in a relationship… who doesn’t.. but some are worth fighting for, and if you feel this way do what you have too.
Normally I wouldn’t advise a person to break up another marriage but reading what you wrote it’s a shame 2 people are hurting over it... and soon another to find out it was a lie.
I know some people do get lost in the married idea.. really want it. Which is something she is set upon. It shows. Your best bet really is to tell her how you feel.. do what ever it takes.. but please make dam sure this other guy KNOWS why… just out of courtesy and respect.
2007-05-02 08:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking women to try to get a glimpse of what she might be thinking or how she might react given the circumstances. She's married and she has to live with that decision. You didn't want to marry her yet, but I think deep down you wanted her to wait until you were ready. So what do you want to do now? Do you honestly want her back if she were to go ahead with the divorce? Are you sure you are just not hurt b/c she found someone else so fast as opposed to realizing you actually do love her? Sometimes its our pride that is hurt as opposed to our heart. There is a lag time between what our brains think and how our heart feels. Dont wait for her, b/c she got tired of waiting for you.
2007-05-02 08:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything to upset her life, be sure that you love her and want to marry her. Don't hurt her again. Do you just want her now because you can't have her? Why does it have to come to something like this to make us realize that we were happy with what we had? Maybe she did react too quickly in marrying this other guy and she is sorry. She did not give herself a chance to get over you. But she is married now and has to settle that first. She has to get out of her marriage if that is what she wants and then you two really have to make it or break it. If it is what you both want - I think you can make it but you really have to be ready to commit to her.
2007-05-02 08:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am pretty much in the same position. My boyfriend of 6 years has yet to propose to me. He always says he wants to marry me, and that we will get married. We picked out rings 3 years ago..lol. There have been many times I have wanted to leave to try something else. But when it came down to it, I love him and am willing to wait
I think she loves you and was in love with being married so she took the first chance she had. I am sure she isnt happy without you, and realizes that just because she is married doesnt make things perfect. I think you should go to her, and tell her you love her, and tell her you want to be with her and spend the rest of your life with her. tell her life is so short to not be happy. Tell her you want to marry her and have babies and grow old together. I will pray for you both. I wish you the best...keep me posted. =)
2007-05-02 08:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by kittygirl454 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should of made more of a commitment to her. It is hard to say how she feels, maybe she got into the situation and everything moved so fast and sounded so good at the time so she did it. You might have a chance but you should leave her a lone for now and let her find out if her current marriage is what she wants.
2007-05-02 07:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as how i might want to be an undesirable man or woman if I did certainly falsely accuse a guy of raping me, i imagine detention center is better than honest. Agreeing to be raped and brutally beaten...uh if the guy develop into possibility free contained in the first position and then agreed to brutally rape and beat you later on then he's not precisely a superior man or woman both. 2 wrongs do not make a perfect.
2016-12-05 05:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her, just let her go. She made her decision, whether it was just to make you jealous or not, she did it and now that she is married she has to live with it. If you weren't ready to marry her yet, and she moved on, that probably just means it wasn't meant to be. I am sorry things worked out this way, but even if the opportunity presents itself, please do not have an affair with her, it'll only lead to more hurt and you deserve better...best of luck to you.
2007-05-02 08:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by SND123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋