My husband has been acting weird these past weeks. We live in apartments where a bunch of crack head people live and lately i have caught him having conversations with them.Not only that but he also gives them rides supposely to get something to eat but during midnight i find that very strange and i ask him and he says that he only took them to get food and thats it.Anyways before me and my huspand got married he was selling drugs then stopped and the whole time he was doing it i didnt know cause he also had a job but a lot of people would call his cell phone and then he confessed to me that he was in fact selling but that he stopped.So now this is going on and i am 30 weeks pregnant with our first child so i am always home how can i find out if in fact he is selling drugs again? And our income is still the same wouldnt it be more is he is selling?I need to find out cause i am not going to have our baby around any of this.
2007-05-02 09:57:27 · 22 answers · asked by Mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just ask him...I'm mean you are married. you should be able to communicate.
2007-05-02 10:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He isn't selling or perhaps he is...he will keep the funds well hidden from you... but it is obvious that he is using again..that is for sure. IF you do not want to have your baby around any of this, wise up girl...he is not out eating anything, no one is that good a friend to haul their butts around at midnight to find a hamburger. You don't really fall for that, do you? IT is time to move on in life, for your husband is moving backwards into his past. IF you do not want to be dragged down into the dirt, no money, visiting a prison ...then run, don't walk to the nearest exit. Honey, it ain't gonna end well for you. Get child support in place tomorrow, but leave today. This has gone on long enough. Good luck, and watch out..he may not be the nicest guy in the world if he is high.
2007-05-02 17:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry. It sounds like all the signs are there. If you two live together then you have a right to know what's in your house. It may sound terrible but, I'd do some serious digging. Look in his drawers and underneath the mattress. If he's making extra money on the side he probably just keeps in cash some where. You could also go through his car or his pockets and wallet. I know, nobody likes a snoop--but we're talking about DRUGS here. YOU could get in serious trouble if there are drugs in your home and the police search it. You may also want to see if it's possible to move to a different neighborhood. Take no prisoners on this one.
2007-05-02 17:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by grumpyetal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you better leave him before your baby is born because the STATE will take your baby away from you if your husband is doing and selling drugs around your baby when its born and there won't be a thing you can say about it because the STATE will make sure that if you and your husband choose to live a lifestyle which includes drugs the state will make sure that your baby is with people that will take care of him this is just how it is so leave him.
2007-05-02 17:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust your instincts. If something doesn't seem right to you, it isn't. I find it very suspicious that he is taking casual acquaintances for food at midnight. With a baby coming the temptation to make more money may have been hard to pass up. He was fortunate that he wasn't caught when he sold drugs before, but he may not be so lucky this time.
2007-05-02 17:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lorie M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, he is up to something I know because I was there. Taking them for food? sure . Do you ever see them come back with drinks from the place? If you are really concerned the is doing drugs then ask him and if you still don't believe him Drug test him it does not cost that much money. good luck! Wake up you need to take your unborn baby away from those people before something bad happens.
2007-05-02 17:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although you income is the same he could just be hiding the extra. Confrunt him and also the neighbors. I find that other people like to rat to see a fight break out. More than likely the neighbors will spill all and tell you the truth. Go to them before you ask him and if their stories match then he is probably telling the truth. He wont expect you to go ask them so they wont have a story already put together.
2007-05-02 17:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it certainly sounds suspicious and as a soon-to-be-mom you have every right to know. First of all you must talk with your husband. give him the benefit of the doubt and give him a chance to explain himself. If he denies everything then ask him about his suspicious behavior and what exactly he is doing. If he lies or hedges arund the issue then you need to hire a private investigator or get out of there. as for the money he would have made if he is selling drugs - he wouldnt tell you would he ? he could be doing anything with extra money from seeing prostitutes to using other drugs to starting a savings account for your baby. who knows ? he does. ask him.
2007-05-02 17:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by bbq 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You married him so you owe him one chance to come clean. Ask him very directly what he is up to and what he is doing. If you are not satisfied that the answers you are receiving are the whole truth then you go to the police. Explain your concerns to them and chances are they will watch him for you and arrest him if it turns out that is what he is doing. Sounds a bit harsh, I know, but as you said, you can't have your baby around any of this.
2007-05-02 17:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by a1mandrake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sorry 4 the bad news
but crack heads dont eat at any time
so tell him if he dont stop all the bullsiht that u will leave w/ ur unborn faster then a bat out of hell
and just leave cuz even living poor w/ ur baby is better then b around them kind of people cuz u never know what they will steal from u or even do to ur family
2007-05-02 21:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is up to no good....and with the past you described I wonder why you even married him!!!
What happened? Did you actually think he was going to change...? Oh dear.....!
Maybe you are right for each other. He is the abuser and you are the victim.
I am so sorry that you are pregnant.
I feel sorry for this baby.
2007-05-02 17:05:42 · answer #11 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋