He is a drunk. My little girl has to go over there and he can't stay sober instead he gets drunk and passes out. That leaves her having to do for herself. Not anymore he will have to come see her here in my presents or not at all. At least she will be safe.
2007-05-02 07:14:30 · 9 answers · asked by lauroyou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When there is a child involved and one of the parents is a drunk, you need to get full physical custody of the kid and supervised visitation to protect your child. If you do not have the money, call legal aid to help you. The court sometimes gives the child a lawyer also to protect the best interest of that child. You should not let her go anymore. He can take you to court if he has a problem with that and you can tell the courts exactly why you stopped her from going. Sometimes as parents we have to protect our kids from everything that will harm them even if it is the other parent. Been there done that!!
2007-05-02 07:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legal aid may be helpful. So may child protective services. You can find them through your welfare dept or by calling the non emnergency number for your local police and asking how to reach child protective services. If your daughter is old enough she can call 911 and tell them daddy passed out which will bring him an ambulence, provide you with legal proof, and possibly get him busted for child endangerment. You should keep a record of every time this happened. That is for evidence in court bec of course he will say it diodn't happen.
You can petition the court where the visitation order was issued to modify it to supervised viisitation. You can fill out an a paper saying you can not afford court costs. One good place for supervised visits is at a McDonald's play area. For the price of a small coke or yogurt parfait (99 cents) the child and parent can hang out and the person supervising the visit can go sit on the other side of the McD but still see all that is happening. There is a fence so he can't leave with her w/out your knowing and being able to stop him. You can also take a friend with you (female friend would cause less conflicts probably) or a relative to have proof if dad shows up for this drunk too.
Unless he voluntarily agrees or unless there is nom actual visitation order you can't legally just not send her so you do need to take action on this to get itb changed or you could be held in contempt of court and obviously you can't let your daughter keep going through this. Your police dept (non emergency number again) may be able to tell you more of your rights under the l;aws of your own state since states do differ in their laws;
2007-05-02 14:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by A F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can file for a legal aide attorney.If you are low income or no income.But I would advise cleaning everything up in your life before you do.
If he has money he can make it real diffucult on you.If you are working.Keep working.If you are not.Find a job quickly or you wont have a leg to stand on. Just because you dont make as much money as him does not mean the judge wont grant you custody.
Keep records of everything.Every time he promises something and doesnt come through.When he picks up the child.When he brings him back.Was he sober on both occasions.Detail everything that can help you out.
2007-05-02 14:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court probably won't allow you to do this unless you have significant proof. Also, he MUST pay you child support unless you make an outside agreement that he no longer sees your child and he doesn't have to pay support (but that leaves both of you vulnerable). You may be able to prove that he has to have supervised visits but the state will have to get involved, your child will probably be questioned (which is extremely stressful) etc. etc. My sister is dealing with a drug dealing, drug addicted abusive s.o.b. and she has 3 children. He still has a right to custody and visitation even though there are authorities who know about his behavior. It's insane! You would need to have Children's Protective Services investigate him if you already have a legal custody agreement in place.
Best to you. I know it is HORRIBLE!
2007-05-02 14:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by Yogini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney. If you can easily prove what is happening, any good attorney will help you receive full custody, grant him only supervised visitations, up the child support AND (this is the big part) force him to pay for all attorney and court cost.
2007-05-02 14:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by wrkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call someone at your court house and tell them you need to speak with someone that can help you with a custody battle. Tell them that your girls father can not stay sober and passes out while she is awake to fend for herself.
2007-05-02 14:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Record him go over there when you know he is drunk. How old is your little girl next time daddy gets drunk and she is old enough to use a phone have her call you then you call the police good luck!
2007-05-02 14:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a "free" legal aid attorney!
2007-05-02 14:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do it without paying a lawyer
2007-05-02 14:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋