Why do people cheat?

Question

Is it just because some people are that way inclined, or is it because they've been misunderstood, not having their needs met etc?

Answer 1

I think it's a combination of their physical and emotional needs not being met by their partner. They have either fallen out of love with their partner or/and their sex life sucks so to speak. They have no open lines of communication so they don't talk to each other about their feelings. Thus the
"cheater" turns to someone else to fulfill their needs.

Answer 2

I am married to a woman that I love with all my heart. She is great all except for the fact that she just has no desire for sex. Everything started off great sexually, but went from 2-3 times a week to 1 time a month if I'm lucky. I have talked to her more than once about it. She always says that there must be something wrong with her but won't go see anyone. I am as loving and thoughtful to her as humanly possible and still nothing. I have never griped at her about this issue or tried to make her feel bad about it as I know most men would. I love her dearly but know that given the right circumstances that I would cheat on her as bad as I don't want too. I am not getting something I need from her.

Answer 3

People cheat for different reasons. Men cheat for different reasons than women. A boyfriend cheated on me once with a girl that I knew. She had been wanting to date him the entire time he and I was together. Finally she came on to him when I was not there and well, he cheated. Men are not very capable of resisting temptation. Men also look for the oportunity to cheat without having any strings attached. The chick at the office wants to have a little fling with him but says all she wants is sex... men jump on opportunities like that. Women on the other hand cheat usually because they are not getting something at home. Usually it is the sweet compliments that they get from the "other man". Some just really miss that feeling of being wanted by their husbands. Some men get caught up in work and after being married for years, they forget to keep things sweet and spicy. "Other men" can come right in and sweep a girl off her feet. Boost a girl confidence that she has not had boosted in a while and you can almost have your way with her.

Answer 4

Cheaters cheat for one of two reasons. They cheat because they do not respect their spouses. These are people who grew up seeing one parent in control of the other. If they did not see their parents this way, they either saw another couple with a dominant member or they were coddled by their mother.

The second reason for cheating is that the person is unhappy in their relationship and is unwilling to face the issues with their significant other. Usually this type of person refuses to face their issues and looks for happiness elsewhere.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 5

Some people truly have a sex addiction. And some people are too immature to be in a monogamous relationship.

But I think that most of the time, people cheat to get something they aren't getting from their partner. It could be sex, attention, or romance. But it is never justified. Instead of cheating, people should either try to improve things with their partner, or break up with them.

Answer 6

* lack of respect for their partner
* lack of self-control
* conscious choice to hurt their partner
* unsatisfied needs


I don't think it's an inclination, unless it's an inclination to be self-centered all around. Cheating is something that a person *chooses* to do, not some gut-instinct inclination.

Answer 7

It's when he or she comes along. You got to realized it always start in the mind and heart first, before the action take place. The desire is always there before the action. It usually start quite innocently, with a little glace here and there and then it just compounds.

Answer 8

There is no one reason why people cheat. Every situation is different. One thing is for sure though, Cecilia M must have really gotten screwed over by her man! Calling cheating a "mental illness"? LMAO!

Answer 9

1- needs are not met and are not ready for a break up
2- people just need to find a spice in their life but want to have a emotional partner by their side like back up

Answer 10

Men cheat for the same various reasons that women cheat. They're not happy in a relationship but are too cowardly to leave it and be alone. Low self-esteem and self-destructiveness. A simple lack of morals. Emotional problems that lead to impulsive behavior ; they like the excitement that goes along with such affairs; they are incapable of committing to just one person; they have a true mental illness that compels them to have sex with multiple partners.

As for whom the cheater loves, I actually think it's himself/herself. People who run around like that are often narcissistic, insecure and looking for excitement.