losing or may have already lost my mind?

Question

ok so i am head over heals in love w/ what i thought was going to be my fieance. the other night she went out on "ladies night" and came home smelling like a a coors light and a bottle of jovan musk put together, hint 1. about a half hour later she checks her voicemail, and theres a totally unappropriate message from her "friends boyfriend". it was def. one of those dreaded messages, hint 2. she has cheated in past and i like an idiot forgave her. now i feel like an *** if i ask to see her phone. and she refuses, hides it at night, and is always on vibrate or off. i would do anything for this girl, anything. i love her to death, and could not even begin to think about a day without her. what should i do? i have not slept or eaten in five days now, and this is eathing the **** out of me. HHEELLPP

Answer 1

what can i say, you have fallen for a scumbag!

Answer 2

Sorry to have to say it but this is not the girl for you and you need to realize that. She seems very decieving. She has cheated on you before and you forgave her. Well most people when given a second chance dont do the right thing. They go back to the way they were. If she wont let you see her phone and hides it from you then she is definately hiding something from you. You need to let her go. Eventhough its going to be very hard and hurt very much you need to do this for yourself or you are going to go crazy and hurt yourself. Look at what this is already doing to you. I know it might not seem like it now but you will find the girl that will do anything for you and realize how love should truly feel.

Answer 3

Have somebody drive a rail road spike through your head. It'll feel better right away. It is this way, if you stay it's cause you like it. If you don't mind her excesses, she shouldn't mind yours. There is some freedom in an open relationship that cannot be obtained by any other method. but your way too uncool for this girl, she's a mach 3 interceptor and your a DC-3 cargo hauler. It's a bit of a mis match. I doubt if you have any excesses. Let her come and go as she wishes until you have found another, and then don't let her park that red hot bottom in your hanger anymore.

Answer 4

You may be head over heels but she's not. She is treating you badly and you are accepting it and staying with her. Stop! If you think you're in love now, just wait til you find a woman who will love you the same way back. THEN you'll know real love. And if you think you're hurting now, wait til she finds some idiot who steals her away from you for good. She is simply staying with you until she finds someone else. She's not good enough for you. You deserve way better. Go get some confidence and self-esteem and dump that girl before she hurts you again. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Answer one question: is this how you want to live your life? Do you like the way you're feeling now, and are you ready to continue feeling this way (on and off) for years to come? If the answer is no, then leave her. You said it yourself: you were an idiot to forgive her the first time. So, what are you now? A total dumba** who deserves to be treated with such disrespect because he's putting up with anything and everything? If you don't leave, you will become just that. Don't waste your time.

Answer 6

You're not an idiot for forgiving her. But I also beleive "screw me once shame on you, screw twice shame on me." Last year I had heard a rumor that my husband cheated on me. Before this happened I never suspected him of cheating, and since I havent either. So I beleive my husband. But if you know that this girl has the potential to cheat and it's obvious she is hiding something from you, I'd say get out. Think of this way...would you want children with her and risk that she do later in life and break up your family? Just think about it...it'll all work out!

Answer 7

The only way a cheater can regain your trust is by being totally open and honest about everything. That means if you want to check her phone, she should show it to you. Nothing should be hidden.
Her secretiveness shows that she's hiding something and doesn't care about making you trust her again.
You need to get out now before you get burned again.

Answer 8

Dude, I know this is not what you want to hear but I have to be honest with you. You need to move on and find another girl. Save yourself from further heartbreak. You deserve way better treatment than you are getting from her.

Good luck to you. Hope you find someone else for your own sake. There are LOTS of fish in the sea.

Answer 9

okay...reality check! You may be head over heels in love with her but is she ready to settle down and be married or is adultry in her future? She sounds like a little party animal and when people drink...they get flirty....Not everyone, but most women. And if you cant trust her with the whole phone thing, and she hides it from you...then there is obviously something that she doesn't want you to see.....

Answer 10

i have self belief in ghosts, and your position will be haunted, or have spirits, or demons, or regardless of. i do not imagine you're imagining issues (listening to song, etc), distinctly because you and your husband have both experienced it! there's a teach i watch sometimes on the discovery channel reported as A Haunting (i have self belief) and it really is about peoples residences being haunted. now and again (maximum of them i have seen), the family contributors receives torn aside (because the spirit is needing this for regardless of reason) so in case your husband or little ones commence performing hardship-free, or develop into finished of rage commonly, i'd develop into apprehensive at this element. if no longer something undesirable is going on, i'd purely attempt to brush aside it (yet be weary of stating it for your persons, or they received't pick to go back over - or imagine you're loopy). if it contains the point of you're afraid to stay there, sense threatened, or get attacked on your sleep, etc. search for the internet for someone to go back for your position and eliminate the mission it really is there. who's conscious, your tale will be placed on television. and do not imagine i'm loopy for saying a lot of those issues. those are really my concepts and that i'll stick in the back of them. good luck to you! and what i have seen from the television teach, a clergyman blessing the homestead isn't adequate

Answer 11

if you think what she feels for you is love than you have lost your mind. this lady is definitely not ready to commit to a life with you.even just one "cheat" should have been enough to clue you in to this fact. do you really want to live a life with her never knowing for sure she is going to be true to you? it is a hard thing to face for sure. something many do not want to admit that the one you love is unfaithful and untrue. you have hard choices to make. end the pain and frustration of not knowing now or try and make a very uncertain future that could be more painful and frustrating than it is now. i wish you well and good luck.