Marriage & Divorce - 30 November 2006

I feel stuck in my current relationship I have been with this guy for a long time now. It's not that I dont have love for him, I do. It's just I know I wont be happy spending the rest of my life with him. He cheated on me twice (been together 7 1/2 years) he lies all the time even about little things that dont matter. Problem is we have a child together and our child is disabled, he is good w/ our son however we are in our 20's (he still wants to party alot) and I know he is not going to take a big part in his life if I leave. But then what? I worry about finding someone else to spend my life with that would accept my child it might sound silly to others not in my situation but actually think what you would do. I am not financially able to take care of him by myself either. I was 16 when I had my child his father was 20, I am only 22 now and between his 4 therapy app. a week and different dotors app. all the time It is hard to work at a decent job. Any advise?

2006-11-30 06:58:20 · 16 answers · asked by Confused 2

I did, and now I'm thinking I should have listened to the little voice in my head. Is it too late to change my mind? I signed the papers, but they have not come back from the judge's review. I have no lawyer, my husband does, and he talked me out of getting one to save money. He is military and I am the dependent spouse.

2006-11-30 06:58:04 · 13 answers · asked by Evil Wordmonger, LTD LOL 6

2006-11-30 06:51:21 · 16 answers · asked by thetruth 2

2006-11-30 06:45:26 · 14 answers · asked by Terri R 2

My fiance' and I got engaged about a year ago and we just started planning for our wedding 2 weeks ago. He told me last night that he is scared of not being a good husband and a good father and kind of scared of the phrase "being with the same person for the rest of your life." I talked to him alittle bit about it but i just don't understand and i don't think he is telling me everything....we have been together for almost 4 years and were going to get married next year....i've been married once before and he hasn't and i also told him that i am scared as well but alot of people go through it....it's a big step.....is it normal for guys to go through this and should i be worried that he might have someone else in mind other than myself?

2006-11-30 06:41:04 · 17 answers · asked by lorpee1 1

She lives in a different state. I wont be able to see her for xmas, but I'd like to send her a christmas present. I asked her what she wanted for xmas, her response was " I just want my family". My mom is going thru alot. An asshole 2nd husband who's hardly home (i wont be surprised if he doesnt come home for xmas), no family near her. All she have is my 10 yr old sister other than myself living very far from her. Any suggestion that would make her smile for xmas? Thanks..

2006-11-30 06:37:18 · 8 answers · asked by BeBe b 2

Hi i am 23 years old and in public relations job and my bf is 14 years older than me.We have been together a year we started dating the second year i was working there.Even though when we first met i was 19 and an intern but nothing happened because of my age.I love him so much he is hot and he takes such good care of me buying me nothing but the best of everything and going to Paris on vacation as well as other great places.Weird thing is he is a partial owner of the firm i work for and i dont now if that is moral or if that would change things after we marry?We will be getting married in the spring i am so excited but friends say i am just in love with an image.?He was also known as a ladies man before we met but never married.

2006-11-30 06:33:56 · 14 answers · asked by Athena V 1

i am in love with a man that i am not married to. i love my hubby dearly but there is this other guy that i have never fallen out of love with. i wish that i could tell him but i am worried that it will ruin my marriage. what should i do???

2006-11-30 06:32:54 · 28 answers · asked by welshwife 4

which one of these is most important to you in your life and why?

2006-11-30 06:32:28 · 9 answers · asked by *KiM* 6

Can anyone tell when emotions stabilize after a break up? I'm getting really sick of this. I'd rather feel one way or the other all the time. *sigh*. I just want to know I'll be normal again. It's literally an everyday thing. One day: Wake up happy, drive to work belting out songs on the radio, get to work, get things done, chirpy... all of that. I think of the ex, but they're normal thoughts like "I know I can do better next time...". Another day: Alarm goes off and I don't want to move. My heart is heavy, my spirit is weak.. A commercial that I've heard a million times reduces me to tears because I heard it with 'him' before.. Work is a drag, I'm checking my phone a thousand times, heart sinking even lower when I have no missed calls... It's so frustrating and tireing. Does anyone know when it ALL ends?

2006-11-30 06:29:33 · 12 answers · asked by monie0078 2

he makes me so happy........

2006-11-30 06:25:06 · 7 answers · asked by LilMama 1

something pretty but not too expensive

2006-11-30 06:24:49 · 9 answers · asked by ledonslady 1

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c_1rdLl3-l8

In this martial art demonstration 2 girls (about 110-130 pounds) jump on a guys stomach from a chair.

How can he take that?

Thanks

2006-11-30 06:21:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-30 06:19:07 · 23 answers · asked by James_Bond 2

I have an ex-boyfriend that I was madly in love with when we dated. However I relationship ended because he was not ready for the type of relationship I wanted at that time (1996). Anyway, we remained friends. Years later (1998), my best friend invited some relatives to move in with us. Her two cousins moved in and all was great for a while. After some time, I moved out and into another apt bldg in the same complex. Shortly after I started dating a co-worker and things progressed until I moved back home in 2000. Four months after my ex called me to advise me that he was dating my ex roommate. My ex roommate called me upset and irrate becasue she felt like he was asking my permission to date her. Anyway, they got married two years ago and had a baby two months ago. I was the wedding decorator, and the hostess for the baby shower (at her request). She continue to be suspicious of our friendhsip, with no reason for concern. Why does she continue to invite me into her life events?

2006-11-30 06:16:43 · 9 answers · asked by Jay 2

this isnt black and white she obviously wasnt happy in first place or i wouldnt have been given the time of day!we have been on holiday with kids and never had a crossed word! at the moment she is currently buying his half of the house but is still struggling with wether she needs to stay with him and be miserable for the kids or move on be happy but split her family. the kids are fine and i have experienced a good relationship with them! and to the fella who said he must be her pal if he wont leave her alone,you are a jerk as if you love someone you dont make them feel so rotten and miserable he knows how she feels he just ignores her and plays with her mind

2006-11-30 06:12:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our husbands work together and are well respected public figures. She has told me very detailed encounters of him punching her in the head, putting his hands around her neck, spitting on her, pushing her down the stairs when she was pregnant (causing a miscarriage). He has even done this in front of her mother, cousin and his own father. I understand this should be clear cut BUT she says she wants to work things out and that she loves him and he loves her. How do I handle this? I don't want to get in the middle of their marriage but if he kills her . . . I would not be able to live with myself.

2006-11-30 06:05:59 · 14 answers · asked by Nezz 2

We have been fighting for weeks, (actually years) about the same subject (see my history) and right now I cannot even look him in the eyes. I dont know if I am angry, sad, or just disgusted. maybe even feeling guilty ?

what causes this ? I need to get to the bottom of this..

Thank you

2006-11-30 06:03:32 · 19 answers · asked by WUDDALIFE 2

2006-11-30 06:02:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently got married.I dont understand where my jelousy came from.When I was with my ex he used to be the jelous one.I used to be a very cool girlfriend.I didnt care if he wanted to go out with his friends.I would push him to have fun in the club and to look at porn if he wanted to but he wasnt into that.Now Im with this guy (my hubby) and I became the REALLY jelous girl and he is the cool laidback guy just like I was.I feel like I have turned into a Pornophobic person.He says he only watches porn with me which is ok and he doesnt hide anything from me. I know where all his porn is (which is not much) and he tells everything.I like the way I am and I know he would never cheat on me but I feel like jelousy is taking over and I feel like its taking away yars of my life.I want to be the way I used to be.I loved it and Im sure he would appreciate it too but I cant.hes gone to 2 stipclubs.i was there with him once.i cant handle it.he tries to help me but its hard.why do i feel this?

2006-11-30 05:55:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

after 6 months she told her husband about me and for the following 18 months we have been together off and on,she keeps telling me she wants to be alone and we dont see each other for a while and then it seems she falls in love with me again and its all back on!when we see each other its fantastic we enjoy each other so much,but the problem is her husband, he lies uses her family and sends her on guilt trips over the kids he also visits her every night and is very good at making her believe she wants her old life back basically he dont leave her alone. She says she dont want to live with him, go anywhere with him and most certainly doesnt want to sleep with him and loves him like a brother and as the father of her kids.i know she loves me and when we are together it seems so right she says the same.Currently she feels as if she knows what she wants but he and her family are dragging her back. she isnt a lier and i know she loves me but she is finding it hard to move on can anyone help

2006-11-30 05:52:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

he lives in virginia and i live in miami we always talk seeing each other again but we dont have enough money to see each other right now.

2006-11-30 05:50:56 · 13 answers · asked by Henrriette S 2

i feel like im pushing him away.when ive ask him about it he says nothings wrong,trust me,i know tension when i feel it.whats strange is he can get on her and answer all kinds of qusetions,why not mine.also i have 2 kids and he has 1.to put it nicely my kids fight alot and get on his nerves.please help

2006-11-30 05:42:55 · 7 answers · asked by starr67 4

2006-11-30 05:41:51 · 9 answers · asked by jasmine f 1

2006-11-30 05:41:48 · 9 answers · asked by 2strongfor2long 3

I am going through a divorce, my husband had a restraining order taking out against me for a year. I want my name removed from the deed of the house we brought together. Is that possible?

2006-11-30 05:41:44 · 8 answers · asked by slim25female 1

I have been w/ my wife for 10 years, married for nearly 3. Last March I found out that she had been having an affair with her high school bf for 2 mos. She said that she loved him, but agreed to stop seeing him so that we could work on our marriage. She said that I didn't spend enough time with her, so I pretty much quit the one hobby that I had, to spend more time with her. Then in Sept I find out that she is back with "him". I tried to work it out with her, but ended up moving out in Oct. I still have feelings for her, and she says that she doesn't know what she wants. She won't go to counseling, and I have paid a retainer to an attorney, but now she says "hold off" and is being nice to me. We have a small son together. I know that I can find someone else, and am not afraid to be alone, but what if I am doing the wrong thing? She is still seeing the bf. My friends say that she is playing me to keep me around in case the other relationshop doesn't work out. What to do?

2006-11-30 05:41:43 · 21 answers · asked by derby_guy_73 1

how can i stop the wife from nagging at me, even when im on my best behaviour too :( can someone tell me is this a woman thing..??

2006-11-30 05:38:04 · 28 answers · asked by stevejulie 1

i'm 18 and my bf is 20. my bf is wanting to have a sex with me which i refuse it. this coming saturday, he invited me for a night swiming. i'm afraid for what he plans. how do i scape it without hurting him. why those guys hurt when we (girls) refusing what they want. i'm still a virgin and i never never surrender my virginity to the man before wedding because it is sacred to me.

2006-11-30 05:31:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not talking sexually, I mean she just won't go to the movies or go grab coffee or anything. She has no problem driving for hours to go have a night out with her friends doing stuff that she says she doesn't like but barely even tries to find a baby sitter for us and that's only if I bug her about it. We've only gone and done something once this year and that was because her mom offered to come watch the kids. I'm not a bad guy and have always been EXTREMELY loving and understanding (when her friends complain about their husbands/boyfriends they say they wish they were more like me) and happy to do things that she wants. She still acts very loving at home but just won't go out with just us.
Its gotten to the point to where I don't have any real desire to do things in the bedroom with her at all because I don't know if she's that's bored with me and/or she's so boring she's unattractive to me and I've gotten to the point I just don't even care anymore.

2006-11-30 05:27:17 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous