Marriage & Divorce - 30 November 2006

phychological effects and mental health emotions when your partner continually cheats.

2006-11-30 08:10:03 · 21 answers · asked by trying 2

lately ive been getting the feeling my husbands cheating on me. This girl he works with has lately been calling my house and my husband would sneak off into a different room and start wispering...then the other day I looked out the window and he gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek..then I found a letter in his pocket from her that said she wants to take him out to lunch one day and then she said sweet dreams because I know you will be in mine...love always and then her name... I dont know what to do...He denies it and the worst part of all is we got married april 29 2006 and we have a 3 month old baby together. Please help because im really sad

2006-11-30 08:09:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

the one i loved is marred...thts not all.. i will have to see him on almost daily basis ....it sucks..im lonely ..

2006-11-30 08:09:03 · 18 answers · asked by barley 2

I have been married for 7 years. My husband and I have four children, and he is the only one who works. I have to ask him if I can use any money.
Today when I told him that I wanted to rent a carpet scrubber (which is only 20.00) we got into an argument and he accused me of "blowing his money". I hardly ever buy anything for myself. almost everything I "blow money on" is for the home, and are trivial . For example, I "blow" money on....the "good" toilet paper, decent haircare products for myself (think Dove not Paul Mitchell), and I bought garland for my Christmas tree which were 3.00 a piece (I bought 3 of them).
I have asked to get a job for almost 5 years now, and everytime I bring it up, he tells me that it is not the right time, I should be home with the kids, he doesnt want them in daycare, it is pointless because I will make no money after childcare costs, etc....
I am at my wits end at this point. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like I am living in a prison.help!

2006-11-30 07:59:41 · 19 answers · asked by lonijean 3

2006-11-30 07:59:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i may be getting divorced pretty soon and would love for someone to explain Maintenance to me....did i screw up? Before i got married i was well off on my own...had my own house and decent (not great but decent) job and then i got married and had one child with him (i had one before) eventually i quit my job and became a full time at home mother...well...things havent been going on good for a long time now and 2 months ago i got a part time job doing what i did before...is this going to hurt me in the long run? I dont make enuff at my job to support my kids...what should i do?

2006-11-30 07:58:19 · 5 answers · asked by Lisa 5

Thank you all for your answers. I understand that in order try and concentrate on my marriage (trying to save it), I have to leave this other person "out" which is much easier when I am not around her, I TRULY try to keep her out of my mind but when I see her at work from time to time, is like all the progress I have made during the week goes "down the drain." In the past, with women who have made advances towards me, it was purely physical (sex) but this time, it was different. She wen after my heart and I guess because (as some of you mentioned) I was vunerable and "love-starved" I developed "feelings" for her. I REALLY don't want to feel anything but I don't know how to make it stop because when I do see her, it all comes back in a flash. THis situation is driving me nuts! I wish this other person would leave NOW and never come back. Why did she have to "mess" with a married man? Yes, she may have not known that I was unhappy in my marriage but I was still married. I get mad!!!

2006-11-30 07:57:34 · 6 answers · asked by sadinmiamifl 1

I'm a 31 year old mother of 3 children , two girls ages 9 and 2 and a 2 month old boy. My husband is a over the road truck driver and is home once a week for maybe a day and an half to 2 days. I feel that since he's away all week, that it's important that he spends time with the kids. Also, I work 3 days a week, so when he gets home, I'm ready for a break from the kids. My husband is usually asleep before the kids go to bed at 9 pm and then the baby doesn't sleep through the night yet. He always asks me why I didn't wake him up after the kids go to sleep, but he never gets up in the middle of the night with the baby when he is home and so when the baby goes to sleep...I go to sleep.
Does anyone have any good suggestions?

2006-11-30 07:57:29 · 4 answers · asked by morningglory 2

Was it??

2006-11-30 07:55:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2006-11-30 07:54:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I married my bestfriend of 2 years about 3 months ago... i havent seen him in about 2 mths because he is in the marine corps ... when he was in basic (bootcamp) he wrote me everyday telling how much he loved me and much he wanted to marry me and have children with me it made me so happy to read that he told me to stop taking my birthcontrol cause we wanted kids so i did i went to his graduation and he was so in love with me he always was but i could really tell ... anyways sept. 1st 06 we were married and happy he was so happy and then he had to go back to cali for schooling and i couldnt go but the thing is , is that there are girls there and he told me there is one he likes a lot but he loves me ... he doesnt know this girl and she doesnt know him and now he wants to go home with her for a few days before he comes home to me and this is A LOT of stress i dont need cause i am now 6 MONTHS PREGNANT WITH HIS SON... I dont know what to do i know he loves me and i love him but why ?

2006-11-30 07:52:30 · 12 answers · asked by mguerra 1

I'm 37 and I'm from CA. My husband wants to move to Augusta, GA *(Orig from Iowa) There doesnt seem to be much to do there other than eat at buffets, look at muesums, and shop at Walmart. I feel younger than I look and it just seems there's nothing to do there unless a person wants to start a family and i doubt that's going to happen anytime soon. We've been married 9 years but he made the decision all by himself to take a job offer there and didnt wait even a week (after we got back from visiting there) to accept the job and he told me he's leaving and if I want to come with him, then i will. All my family is here and i'm emotionally detached from my husband. Someone give me advice??????

2006-11-30 07:51:36 · 6 answers · asked by cottontail34@sbcglobal.net 1

2006-11-30 07:49:07 · 48 answers · asked by broj7400 3

My wife is 5'1 and three quaters 105 pounds of sexy hottness and she is the love of my life and in a hour and fifteen minutes i get to make hot passonate love to her when i get off work, who out there thinks im the luckiest guy on the face of the earth???????

2006-11-30 07:49:07 · 14 answers · asked by mustang64093gt 4

I know this depends on the individual but I'm just wondering how many of you out there have cheated in the past, & down the road when you met someone you really cared for & they asked the dreaded "have you ever cheated on someone" question, you actually answered honestly. Or did you lie so they would'nt hold it against you?

2006-11-30 07:46:46 · 25 answers · asked by Ashley 4

I want to Rock my boyfriends world and take him on a date that he has never been on before!

2006-11-30 07:45:05 · 3 answers · asked by myka bellisari 1

if i get married this will be my life: stay at home all the time, only go outside if husband is with me, can not stay in one place for one minute without husband all over me hug and kiss, u know, never talk to no guys except husband,barely talk on the phone cuz husband only wants me to talk to him, if i want to sleep he will be hugging me all night,never let me go or stay away from him, pray together stay together ,eat togather ,talk together,he'll give me everything as long as im tru and good as i am, but this marriage life is it good or bad thing? now i m single and he wants to marry me cuz hes crazy for me but he luvs me more than i luv him but hes so good to me, i never got married b4 so im scared. any advice on if this is a happy sounding life or would u feel smouthered if this was your type of marriage result? would u want more space or freedom or whats ur thoughts on this? or would u rather b single?not that im against all this, no im just wondering if this is like normal marrge

2006-11-30 07:42:53 · 10 answers · asked by looking for knowledge 1

the fact that my husband irritates me on purpose to get a rise, I have been ignoring him when he does that and he just gets moody or snarky accusing me of cheating...he is 32 and im 27.

2006-11-30 07:37:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were at a girlfriend's house when I had too much to drink and started having sex with the girl. My husband watched and got a bj but couldn't have intercourse. We were begging him but nothing. Why would this happen he had expressed to me he wanted one?

2006-11-30 07:36:07 · 14 answers · asked by sesa 2

I am married to Lesley and her twin sister Lesleigh is unmarried.

I think they are taking turns at sleeping with me. My wife will not swallow when we have aural sex and is adamant she never will but every so often she does swallow and when I mentioned this she said she loves to swallow. I reckon the non swallower is Lesley and the swallower is her sister Lesleigh, also my wife depletes her body hair and two days after doing so we made love and she had quite a bush, when I mentioned this she said Red Heads hair grows many times faster than normal!

How do I find out for sure if I am sleeping with both of them?

2006-11-30 07:34:46 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I still have needs and my husband says he is just too stressed out about life, his job, raising children, and paying bills to have the time, interest or energy in sex at the end of the day.

What is right?

2006-11-30 07:28:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mum passed away due to cancer 1 1/2 ago
my dad has new girlfriend and shes trying to replace my mum and i dont like it, i dont find her a nice person is this because i miss my mum or because she really isnt a nice person? help what can i do?
much appreciated xx

2006-11-30 07:25:41 · 22 answers · asked by priddy_lucii 1

I'm not perfect, nobody is, but I have been VERY good to my wife for many years and I have not gotten half back from her of what I give out in love and care and I guess I finally got tired of it - I have a broken heart. I was not looking for anyone, not looking to fall in love or anything like that. I realized I could not go on like this and that is when I started to look for counseling and then this person came into my life and I have VERY strong feelings for her, I am very confused, torn apart and sad. Why her? It could have happened with other women in the past but I would turn the other way and be a "good husband." But something happen with this one, is like I fell into a magic spell and I cannot get out of it. I TRULY wish I did not feel like this about her but I just can't as much as I try. When I am around her I feel like my heart wants to come out of my chest. Is this stupid or what? I need some good advise please.

2006-11-30 07:23:18 · 11 answers · asked by sadinmiamifl 1

2006-11-30 07:22:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I see that they cost so much less than using a solicitor - is there more risk involved? Are they to be trusted? Any (serious) information gratefully received!!

2006-11-30 07:16:47 · 11 answers · asked by GreatWestern 1

Is there anyone else who married young, and later realized that they had little in common, and loved each other, but weren't really in love?

2006-11-30 07:14:50 · 8 answers · asked by Nitris 3

we agreeded to have shared custody and with her spending half of the month with him and half with me. And he was to also pay child support of 300 dollars a month. And to also to be able to claim her every other year on our income taxes. In the three years since he has remarried a woman with 2 children. she abuses our child mentally and physically. My daughter does not feel safe staying with her farther being that he does not protect her from this woman flipping out on her. she has lived with me for the past year and my ex is not allowed to spend anytime alone with her per his new wife. He still pays the childsupport, and I pay for everything else which was to be shared. and it is his year to claim her. He makes tripple the imcome that i do. In the past year I have gone through all of my savings and have max out my credit. I requested from him for me to be able to claim her. So that I would me able to buy her an car. His reply,no. Please help. And how do I do an discovery4^support

2006-11-30 07:11:41 · 8 answers · asked by nurse2hope 1

When my cousin got her marriage license she got married in city hall but somebody told me that if you fill forms that's enough.

2006-11-30 07:11:39 · 5 answers · asked by Angel 3

I have been unhappy in my marriage for a while, to the point of thinking of divorce. My wife and I just can't seem to get along. We just seem to be very different people. To make a long story short, things that she did early this year really made me sad and made me realize that I need to do something. So, I started to ask a couple of very close friends about if I should seek counseling to try and save my marriage (and part of me still does) but then I met this lady and something happened that I think I have fallen in love with her or if not fallen in love, something very close to it and I cannot stop thinking about her. This is tearing me apart, yes, I have been very unhappy in my marrige but at the same time I still want to save it but then what do I do with my feelings for this person? When I'm not around her I do good (not great) but when I see her, well, I can't stop trying to look at her and get all nervous. This could have happened in the past with another woman, so why now?

2006-11-30 07:11:00 · 4 answers · asked by sadinmiamifl 1

I give it three months

2006-11-30 06:58:56 · 31 answers · asked by BOOTS! 6