Marriage & Divorce - 30 November 2006

It has come to my notice that in societies that in encourage arranged marriages, there exists a large number of marital relations between the same two (or a small group of) families which is not strictly inbreeding, but rather a very milder form.

Could this explain the increased occurrences of genetic disorders (e.g. diabetes) in such societies?

2006-11-30 17:13:54 · 5 answers · asked by Louzer 2

What do you all think? I mean, as long as there is no physical contact or desire for physical contact with the stranger.

2006-11-30 17:12:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married and need to be head over heals in love with my husband. Please help I need to make things better.

2006-11-30 17:06:22 · 13 answers · asked by hiall 1

I always figured I would. Both of my sisters did. His last name is . . . . easily subject to many very stupid jokes, but I like the way it sounds with my first name. At the same time, I teach, and I like being Ms. and not Mrs. in the classroom because my marital status isn't any of their business. I also really like my last name, and I have a lot of pride in it. On the other hand, it can be a real pain in the a**. Just can't decide.

2006-11-30 16:53:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do if the guy you have 3 kids with(unmarried) doesn't want to fix the 6 year relationship, we have. and just wants to leave?? does this mean he is doing something behind my back? or is trying to test me? we fight over going out and bitchin, and stupid other stuff.

2006-11-30 16:51:26 · 8 answers · asked by blue_lollypop4422@sbcglobal.net 1

He doesn't make me feel loved and there is no compainship between

2006-11-30 16:46:42 · 8 answers · asked by indiana_ddp 1

how would you forget someone whom you have loved wholeheartedly , but the other person after few days of intimate courtship decides it was a mistake and moves on to someother stranger and later tells you thats the best thing that has ever happened!!!,how would you come out of such a agonising reality

2006-11-30 16:46:38 · 6 answers · asked by bluebell 1

My fiance and I are moving in together. We have been together for a while, but he has never left home until now. He's expessed that he's nervous, and stated a few things that he will lose, but has yet to express any excitement. Should I exnay on the moving in together, exnay the whole relationship, or is he just being "a guy?" I really feel like I'm half-intruding on his life, and becoming more of a burden with me and my son moving in with him. I want to be with him, but then I don't want him to feel pressured to be with me. His brother says its just a "guy thing" and its no big deal...but why in the process of his stupid "guy thing" should I feel like I'm some sort of intruder instead of his future wife?

2006-11-30 16:44:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-30 16:42:01 · 18 answers · asked by confused 1

Me and my wife separated 3 months ago. We was married 8 years and were each others first love. She met a guy a couple of weeks after we separated. He has been staying with her for the last 3 weeks or so. She tells me she thinks she is done but don't know for sure. She also told me that the first big fight they get in to he is gone and she will give us a chance. We have 2 boys together also. I know I should move on but giving the chance I would give it one more chance. And I will say I did have some problems that I took care of at around the same we separated. She has seen that and knows I have gotten better. She also tells me she is happy but that she is also not. I think we could have a good marriage now and she thinks the same to. But she is still not ready to work it out yet. She also tells me that she mite wake up one day and want me back. She don't know what to think right now and I can see that. I know non of you know what she is thinking. Just tell me what you think.

2006-11-30 16:37:48 · 11 answers · asked by William T 1

My ex-wife and I have two children together. I was not a good husband but came to an epiphany last spring. I told her I had changed and all I wanted was to be a family. She said I was too late and she was dating someone now. I do love her more than anything and the kids want us back together. I've tried writing her letters and telling her how I feel about her, but all she says is that I'm too late. I know deep down she still cares, but nothing I do makes her even think about me. We did have ten years together and she left without saying a word. What can I do to get her back, or at least give me a chance?

2006-11-30 16:32:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is me and my husbands first Christmas together unfortunally where going to have to spend it apart.... What can or should I send my hubby for the Holidays to let him know that I'm thinking of him this Holiday season???? Please note that he is deployed to Iraq right now and I know the things they can have are limited, but please if you are a military person or the next best thing...The spouse of a military person can you please help? It would be greatly appreciated..........

2006-11-30 16:28:53 · 13 answers · asked by The'Truth 2

My husband is indeed the Head of the Household, but he does spoil me rotten. If I want him to carry me, like I like, he does it, or we will eat at what restauraunt I want to eat at(if I am not debated by our daughter) and practically anything I want my husband does his best to get it for me:) For example, he got me the jeep I wanted and gets me the type of jewelery I want. He also gives me all the love and attention I crave and need. I feel VERY HAPPILY married:) Do you think this is healthy for a marriage? It sure feels SO RIGHT to me....

2006-11-30 16:28:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is in her early 50's now. She recently has fallen in love with someone else and realizes she never really loved her husband. She has never been unfaithful and says she never will act on her feelings. Her question to me tonight was "When I'm older will I regret staying in this marriage"? Is it wrong to stay in a marriage when you don't really think you are in love?

2006-11-30 16:06:58 · 14 answers · asked by butterflylover 4

I'm not going to attempt to understand this stuff .... To me, any claim that women are innately submissive is b.s. I must be a genetic anomaly to them. To the women who practice this 'LDD' stuff: You need help. If you don't want help - I hope your husband forbids you from the computer so that your naggy questions don't bother me any more... and I hope your spankings hurt. A. Lot.

To the men who practice LDD: I would love to meet you, rough you up .... and teach you the 'joy' of male submission to female authority.

I appoligize for the terse words, all ... but this is ridiculous. Search 'husband spanks' and see what you find. Apparently, some people are still living in the dark ages ....

2006-11-30 16:06:42 · 12 answers · asked by Cristy 3

It's not that i don't want to get married. But we're still young, i feel there is more to do. She's been pressuring me because of her family. Should I just propose anyway since it's sooner or later.

2006-11-30 16:02:28 · 24 answers · asked by ## joh ## 1

2006-11-30 15:56:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

its not like it sounds. we moved into his parents house about 11 months ago( money problems). his dad moved down to this cabin they have so its just his mother who is here. we have a 2 1/2 yr old son and she lets him get away with everything when i tell her not to. i am 9 months pregnant and she tells me that we dont need to have anymore kids and i should have been on birthcontrol pills. first of all i didnt have any insurance then( wasnt married yet and was 19 and off of my moms insurance and wasnt in school) by the time i had insurance and went to th Dr it was to late and i was already pregnant. he said we would be out by the time the baby was born and we are still living here. i know we dont have much money right now. his dad help him out with the money problem but he has to pay him off before we even think about getting our own house. what should i do? i dont need to be under all this stress when im pregnant. some one please help.

2006-11-30 15:54:35 · 7 answers · asked by ncaa_champs_05 2

She's not really a dog, just recovering from rhinoplasty. I feel that the dog owners were cheated. Should I inform them?

2006-11-30 15:48:12 · 19 answers · asked by blondepiaga 1

2006-11-30 15:46:49 · 25 answers · asked by ~ 3

If you have made a conscious decision to never again marry, but your total soulmate of the past nine years has decided that she needs that legal piece of paper to be fulfilled, what would you do? She's honestly the best woman I've ever known-I would feel lost without her, but it's beginning to feel like an ultimatum! My decision to not marry is non-negotiable, because after a failed marriage, I am completely against the concept for many reasons. And she has known this! But if I lost her, I would be heartbroken! Why is that piece of paper so important to some women?!

2006-11-30 15:32:43 · 22 answers · asked by Rebooted 5

I found out my husband sent a message to my best friend on myspace that said "If me and (my wife) ever got seperated would I have a chance with you?". When I confronted him about it he said that he didn't really mean anything by it and I have nothing to worry about cause he isn't going anywhere and he loves me. I was really hurt by this cause it makes me feel like in the back of his mind there is a chance we might not be together forever. It also made me feel like I am not good enough for him and he has found someone who he likes and is attracted too. He says that I am overacting and that i need to quit bringing it up (it happened a month ago) but I feel like I was wronged. Should I just forgive and forget or am I right for taking out my fustration on him?

2006-11-30 15:25:49 · 24 answers · asked by *ilovemybabyface* 2

my girlfriend (platonic) is so harsh. she's constantly putting people off with her reactionary, rude behavior and has consequently been left off some of the guest lists of our mutual friends. when she finds out she's hurt but often it feels like she is attacking me for it. lately it seems like i have to censor what i say to her for fear of being attacked constantly. i want to continue to have a friendship with her but don't feel as if discussing my feelings or issues would actually resolve anything since i've done that before and she just justifies why she behaves the way she does. how can i get her to mellow out?

2006-11-30 15:21:45 · 10 answers · asked by mich 1

I am a Mother of five, I have been a stay-at-home Mom for 12 years and I am about to get a divorce. I have 106 college credits and we own five small video stores and I am just wondering how I am going to stand on my own two feet and still be there for my children. They have never been in daycare and I have been here for them. I know I can do this, I have to (husband and my best friend were cheating for a year), I was just looking for some positive support! Thanks and I am sorry for any of you that are in my shoes.

2006-11-30 15:16:45 · 8 answers · asked by otowndmbfan 2

We been married for 1 year and a half. Please help.

2006-11-30 15:13:28 · 7 answers · asked by Angie 1

he wants to leave his wife becuz they are having major problems. what should he do. and i do. he's not happy with her.

2006-11-30 15:12:36 · 8 answers · asked by hurt06 1

2006-11-30 15:10:37 · 3 answers · asked by shaku 1

He goes out every day of the week. Mostly nightime only. I will call him & sometimes he answers & others he doesn't. I found out that when he doesn't answer is when he's at the dance. Which he denies. If I call him too much then he will hang up on me or just not answer the phone. He sleeps alot on the living room couch. On the weekends he goes out at Friday or Saturday at maybe 6PM & does not come back till the next day @ like 2,3, or 4PM. I am so tired of all this. I have tried to talk to him. I have asked him why & he doesn't want to talk & why he goes out so much, he just gets mad & leaves again. He is always telling me CLEAN THE HOUSE, do this or do that. I have told him that we have 4 kids & the house can not be spottless 24/7. I work full time & sell AVON also. He never wants to help me clean. I had made dinner in the oven the other day & he said that he didn't want to eat sh** from the oven. So what do you think?

2006-11-30 15:10:29 · 33 answers · asked by tigrababy2000 2

I would so appreciate some advice.

We lost the court case against my sister, aformer landlord of ours.

Today we got a letter from my sisters saying we had until 5th December to pay the remaining £1400 or they would get the bailiffs for us.

My wife said I was a coward for paying the £400. She said 'what do I need you for, you caused me nothing but trouble'.

We had a really bad fight, just I feel her views are not balanced. She blamed me again for losing the case.

I wonder how we'll survive this. Or if it is time to call time on this relationship. I mean, my sisters and brother will have won (we'll have broke up) - but if she has such a low opinion of me, what's the point of staying together?

I don't want to lose the house after paying so much money in, less so when I think if I was'nt there, she may move her family in....

I am just trying to think straight. any helpful advice is welcome.

2006-11-30 15:10:08 · 8 answers · asked by Jodie 1

My boyfriend's family is way different than mine. His freely cusses, pulls practical jokes, & has no problem telling dirty jokes. I told him his parents make me feel a little uneasy... like when his stepmom sometimes rolls her eyes when she sees me.

They also know I'm a virgin because they ask him, "So you gettin' any?" OMG we're young (not in our teens). Plus, I'm waiting till marriage. That's how they are... his family is infamous for having babies before marriage. I don't care they know I'm a virgin... it's just something personal...

And when it comes to after marriage, our plans are also opposite. Just the little things.. like he wants dogs, wants to pee in the shower, wants to wear shoes in the house, etc. & this thing about "touching his money"... I don't know if he was really kidding or not...

Have you ever had opposite family members & little things about future plans than your significant other? Any advice? What was it like once you got married? Was compromise hard?

2006-11-30 15:07:58 · 5 answers · asked by ( Kelly ) 7