I always figured I would. Both of my sisters did. His last name is . . . . easily subject to many very stupid jokes, but I like the way it sounds with my first name. At the same time, I teach, and I like being Ms. and not Mrs. in the classroom because my marital status isn't any of their business. I also really like my last name, and I have a lot of pride in it. On the other hand, it can be a real pain in the a**. Just can't decide.
2006-11-30 16:53:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's no wrong answer to this, provided you pick something that makes you happy. Heck, I'm a guy, and I took my wife's name (because it was simple and easy, and mine was a pain in the backside.) Did I suffer for making such an unorthodox choice? On the contrary, every woman I've met has thought it was a generous gesture, and every guy who knows what my last name used to be said "good idea."
At the same time, I have a certain amount of pride in my heritage, so I stuck my last name into the middle name position when I changed it. It's still there, on my driver's license and whatnot, but never comes up in day-to-day activities (and so ceased to be a pain in the backside.)
As for the Ms. thing, you can be married five times and still call yourself Ms. -- as you say, your marital status is none of their business, and Ms. is generic ("Miss" is unmarried, "Mrs" is married, and "Ms" is either.)
2006-11-30 16:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hyphenated and it is a pain in the a**. Your name does not completely fit on a credit card, saying your name you have to mention the hyphen if on the phone, your asked which is the married name, etc.
2006-12-01 00:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make up a new last name, a combo of yours and his!
I think it's legal, but check it out. Either that or choose some other name that's meaningful. I'm not a fan of the hyphenated version bc it's so cumbersome.
2006-12-01 02:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hyphenate. You are getting married to this man and that involves taking his name... How would you feel if it was the other way around and he still wanted to hang on to his past life? There are other ways to honoring your family. And btw... kids dont care either way what your name is they are going to call you 'ms' no matter what.
2006-12-01 00:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've always thought hyphenated names were silly because I never understood the point.
2006-12-01 01:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you thought about asking him? If you are going to marry him, then I would think his opinion should be the only one that really concerns you.
2006-12-01 00:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back and think about it some more, write it over and over.
2006-12-01 00:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it just easier to remain single???
2006-12-01 01:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by Married Male 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
either take his name or keep your own,hypenating is stupid.
2006-12-01 00:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋