Me and my wife separated 3 months ago. We was married 8 years and were each others first love. She met a guy a couple of weeks after we separated. He has been staying with her for the last 3 weeks or so. She tells me she thinks she is done but don't know for sure. She also told me that the first big fight they get in to he is gone and she will give us a chance. We have 2 boys together also. I know I should move on but giving the chance I would give it one more chance. And I will say I did have some problems that I took care of at around the same we separated. She has seen that and knows I have gotten better. She also tells me she is happy but that she is also not. I think we could have a good marriage now and she thinks the same to. But she is still not ready to work it out yet. She also tells me that she mite wake up one day and want me back. She don't know what to think right now and I can see that. I know non of you know what she is thinking. Just tell me what you think.
2006-11-30 16:37:48 · 11 answers · asked by William T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She wants a backdoor in case this relationship does not work out? And your OK with waiting? That's crazy, just move on.
2006-11-30 16:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by AMC615 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not enough information to give a good look at this. I really don't have any idea what your real situation is with your wife or this new guy. Here is all I can say and I hope it helps.
Hopefully you and she married because you both had respect and love for each other. Hopefully there were good things specific to your spouse that were reasons for your choice and visa verse. It's those good reasons that are the ties that bind in a relationship (assuming of course that nothing new comes in to break those ties: an affair, domestic or drug abuse, or anything that robs one spouse of being able to trust the other).
It is also those reasons that you have to remind yourself about whenever you have doubts about your relationship. It's like a little test.
If you can still remember the good reasons why you married her (and she you) then those reasons will remain a foundation for you and she to build (or rebuild) a relationship on. If you can't remember them, or they don't exist anymore, or they were false reasons to begin with, then I'd say you two have a problem. I hope you both can make it work.
Good Luck my friend
2006-11-30 17:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by tcb9020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry babe yet she isn't with this guy because of the fact he reminds her of you however the alternative. whilst my husband and that i've got been relationship we broke up some circumstances, for the period of that element i exchange into the two involved in or dated men who regarded/acted like him. in assessment to you my husband exchange into fortunate that he exchange into the unique authentic love and not some alternative. If she comes decrease back to you (which I doubt) she'll merely use you until eventually she reveals somebody extra effective. merely take her to family individuals courtroom and take care of your rights until eventually now it particularly is too late. Marriage is a sacred bond(what God joins jointly permit no guy turn asunder or maybe though the quote is), this "Christian" guy is merely utilising the religion for the motives. LOL you're able to continuously bypass and talk over with HIS Pastor to be certain what the bible has to declare.
2016-10-04 14:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is seeing if this guy wants what she wants and is willing to work on a relationship but if he don't then she needs to leave you on the back burner while she messes with him and has you there when he don't want nothing. I think that you should move on and not try to stay in the relationship just for the kids it's not healthy.
2006-11-30 16:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL IF YOU AND YOUR WIFE ARE NOT TOGETHER
AND SHE ALL READY LIVING WITH SOME ONE ELSE. THEN
THATSOUND LIKE SHE ALREADY MADE HER DECISION/AND
FOR YOU TO WAIT UNTIL SHE AND HE HAVE A FIGHT THEN
SHE IWLL GIVE YOU A CHANCE.. IT SOUND LIKE BOTH YOU
NEED TO GET SOME SERIOUS COUNSELING FOR THE
SAKE OF YOUR CHILDREN.BUT DONT LET HER STRING
YOU ALONG EITHER. THAT WHAT IT SOUND LIKE SHE
TRYING TO DO. AND YOU AND YOUR SONS DESERVE
BETTER THEN THAT. GET THE COUNSELING BUT DONT
LET HER MAKE THIS YOUR FAULT. IT TAKE TWO TO MAKE
]IT OR BREAK IT.
2006-11-30 16:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She hasn't given up on you just yet. Just be there for her in anyway you can and especially for your kids. You have a very good chance to save your marriage. Good luck!
2006-11-30 16:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You F--ked up.
Let her have a good time with her hot thing right now.
When she is ready to return let her without guilt.
When I see questions like this I can't help but think about what you guys must have put these women through for them to want to leave and when they leave you want them back, for what, more hurt and pain.............unbelievable.
2006-11-30 16:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the ball is in her court and the best you can do is let her do all the contacting. Obviously you want her back, and I think she gets that. Her knowing that doesn't necessarily work in your favor.
2006-11-30 16:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for your children SAKE
2006-11-30 16:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by vertigo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give her space
2006-11-30 16:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋