It's not that i don't want to get married. But we're still young, i feel there is more to do. She's been pressuring me because of her family. Should I just propose anyway since it's sooner or later.
2006-11-30 16:02:28 · 24 answers · asked by ## joh ## 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you think she's the one and want to be with her forever and yall feel the same way...then yes...GO FOR IT
2006-11-30 16:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If her family is pressuring her now, they will still have influence over her when you are married. So, in fact you will be marrying them too. And when arguments occur it's you against them. Fair? Is that what you want? To live your life on someone else's decisions. If not, then don't marry. But perhaps the reason you haven't made the move towards marriage is your relationship is comfortable. You aren't having to work at it, it just flows. You say you're young. In the scheme of things, we are all young, no matter how long ago we were born. Are you finishing school? Are you trying to improve your financial position in life? Are there things you want to do or accomplish before you marry? If you think you do, in fact, want to marry, why? It has to be more that you love her. Thru out everone's life we fall in and out of love. You need to be able to tell the difference between the relationships that are love for a while ( 6 Years?) and love for a lifetime (55+ years). If you feel that this is the beginning of a 55+ year relationship......Congradulations!
2006-11-30 16:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by koko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, ever make the decision to marry someone because you're being pressured. If you feel you have more to do then do it. Plus, she's pressuring you because her family is pressuring her. That's not a reason to get married. If she can't stand up to her family and tell them to mind their own business, then she's not ready to get married.
Don't propose; you don't know what life will bring. When the time and circumstances are right, you'll know what to do. It may or may not be this girl...like you said, you're young.
2006-11-30 16:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can decide when you are ready to marry. and just because you have been together for six years doesn't mean you HAVE to get married. frankly, her pressuring you, i think is wrong. i wouldn't want to marry someone i had to pressure to ask me to marry them. as for her family, they should just stay out of it. cuz if you guys do get married, they are not the one that are gonna be involved in every little detail of your lives.. like paying bills, deciding whether to have children or not, finding a place to live. sure, they can have an opinion about things, but in the end you and your girl are the ones that have to live with the decisions you make. i hope it all turns out for the best. good luck.
2006-11-30 16:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by menolikey811 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooo way! You need to think about yourself too! If your not ready then her and her family should be willing to wait. Marriage works both ways you know. If there is any doubt at all that you think theres still things to do, places to go, or your just too young, then you should not give in. She should respect your decision either way. And her family shouldn't be butting into your relationship!! Theres some people that end up dating forever. My sister has been dating her b/f for 7 years and her b/f won't give in and propose cuz he knows that shes just not financially ready for marriage.
2006-11-30 16:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by JA+JH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont believe you should propose to her just because ur under alot of pressure... i believe if u really want to make her ur wife and u can see her in that way then u will know when the time is right.....yeah so what u've been dating for 6 years i mean if u dont know by now then u need to think abt things a bit deeper
2006-11-30 16:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by NEFRA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF ur heart still not prepare yet then dont. keep steady with ur decision on her, and make sure what ever happend u can coop with her. dont regret after the marriage later u want to divorce.
6 years is nothing compare with my neighbour. they know and dated each other for 11 years before decide married last year when they already can get enough money to pay the house and car's installment. (they were dating since high school)
they look like more like friends instead of husband and wife, they know each other very well and they seems very happy togather. so decision to marry or not is not base on NUMBERS but on urself, are u ready or not?
PS. something funny to share with you. I were never ready to marry my husband if he didnt force me to marry him, and until now i still learning to know him. i knew him just 2 years before we decided to marry
2006-11-30 16:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by simplelife76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask then you're not ready. Dont let noone pressure you into anything. When its the right time for you you'll know it. Marriage is a 100% commitment...not 75% now and hopefully I'll be ready next year.
2006-11-30 16:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Carmela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my boyfriend of 5 years did that, we ended up getting married even though there is a nagging feeling that we should wait and do more in life first. Guess what??? we were divorced two years later and i wished i have listen to that nagging little voice in me then...
2006-11-30 16:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are ready and want to spend the rest of your lives together- after 6 years - I would think you would know if she is the one- propose because you want to and you love her-take care-D
2006-11-30 16:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel its what you want then go for it. there is nothing saying that u have to get married straight after u propose you could wait a few years to get married and save for a bit longer
2006-11-30 16:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋