My fiance and I are moving in together. We have been together for a while, but he has never left home until now. He's expessed that he's nervous, and stated a few things that he will lose, but has yet to express any excitement. Should I exnay on the moving in together, exnay the whole relationship, or is he just being "a guy?" I really feel like I'm half-intruding on his life, and becoming more of a burden with me and my son moving in with him. I want to be with him, but then I don't want him to feel pressured to be with me. His brother says its just a "guy thing" and its no big deal...but why in the process of his stupid "guy thing" should I feel like I'm some sort of intruder instead of his future wife?
2006-11-30 16:44:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
unfortunately, we live 300 miles apart and living seperately means not getting to see each other a whole lot > ^..^ <
2006-11-30 16:52:58 · update #1
It is a guy thing but I also think you should drop the moving in thing. It sounds like he really isn't ready. If you push the issue then he might go ahead and move in with you but feel resentful later and that could cause a break up. Better to wait a while. I have experience at this: I pushed my husband to move in and marry, 4 months later we were seperated. He wasn't ready. Well, it did finally work out for us after an 8 month seperation. We are now married almost 14 years. But it was scary for a while. Dont push your guy!!
2006-11-30 16:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is acting like you are intruding then maybe you two need to live alone and live together once you are married and give him a chance to get over this phase he's in. Personally i think it sucks and he needs to get over it. Tell him to grow a pair and quit whining about not being at home with mommy and daddy.
2006-12-01 00:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Future wife ?
No wonder he is nervous. You have his life planned out for him.
I hope he listens to his feelings and put a hold on the moving in until he feels better about it.
2006-12-01 00:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it for a minute.....You're moving in with your son. He's moving in alone. How do you think you'd feel if he was moving in with a son or daughter? And YOU were moving in alone.....
2006-12-01 00:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋