Any stay-at-home Moms that are surviving divorce?

Question

I am a Mother of five, I have been a stay-at-home Mom for 12 years and I am about to get a divorce. I have 106 college credits and we own five small video stores and I am just wondering how I am going to stand on my own two feet and still be there for my children. They have never been in daycare and I have been here for them. I know I can do this, I have to (husband and my best friend were cheating for a year), I was just looking for some positive support! Thanks and I am sorry for any of you that are in my shoes.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry you are going through this. My mom isn't going through a divorce (yet) but, my dad did the same thing (not a best friend) and my mom has stayed at home since she was sixteen and homeschooled our large family and just found out this year that he has been unfaithful for the past several years. She's looking at getting a degree too, but still has some of the kids at home so is looking at keeping the marriage together until she can support the remaining family.
Pray it all works out for you and don't be afraid to go to churches for help. Our church offered to pay the divorce fees and support us if it was needed because, it isn't uncommon and don't be ashamed you weren't the first and definitely won't be the last to have this happen to you. It's not your fault God has a plan for you. God bless you.

Answer 2

I'm very sorry to hear this! I always take one day at a time, If you need some help there are programs you can use to give you that extra money support for a bit until you can get back onto your own. Your children may have to be in daycare and is a hard transition but just explain to them that its for the best and you just need to think about being able to keep a roof over them.
Good luck!

Answer 3

You can and will survive. You have to for your children, and I think you really already know that. You can just deal with one day at a time. If that gets to be too much at times, deal with an hour at a time. Then the hours will turn into days, and then weeks, and then months, and then finally, years! And you'll stop and think, "Wow! I did it! What was I so worried about?!" And believe me, I am telling my self the exact same thing right now! "Almost" the same situation. I wish you luck. God Bless.

Answer 4

I was an at home mom too.....but like you my ex cheated on me and we got divorced. I went back to work and my kids when to daycare(daycare is a tax deduction by the way). I believe daycare made them a little smarter. My sons new a lot of things before they started school. They were advanced more then the kids who stayed at home....keep your head up you can do it_

Answer 5

well i know at least a little of your pain. only i have one child and divorced. i have no job or a college education and cant afford daycare. my baby is 2 months. she has no father. only thing i have is my parents support. i live with my mom and step dad. my real dad pays all my bills. he doesnt believe in a mom going to work. i really cant give you any advice but just know that you will make it. there is help out there. go to you local dss office. they may be able to help with daycare, medicaid, food stamps, utility assistance and rental assistance if you need it. dont be ashamed to take it. if you dont someone who doesnt need it will

Answer 6

sorry to hear that you had a bad Friend and husband , must be so scary to have your whole life change, but you sound like a strong woman and i wish you so much good luck , though as a stay at home mum myself i know how much strength and determination you must have acquired already.

Answer 7

Well good luck and yes you can do this. What were your collete credits for?
Take the **** for as much money as you can, child support and alimony, get the stores too.
Best of Luck to you in the future.

Answer 8

YOU CAN ALSO GET SOME FREE HELP WITH GOING BACK TO SCHOOL AND CHILD CARE. YES, YOU CAN DO IT AND COME OUT OF THIS A BETTER PERSON.