My boyfriend's family is way different than mine. His freely cusses, pulls practical jokes, & has no problem telling dirty jokes. I told him his parents make me feel a little uneasy... like when his stepmom sometimes rolls her eyes when she sees me.
They also know I'm a virgin because they ask him, "So you gettin' any?" OMG we're young (not in our teens). Plus, I'm waiting till marriage. That's how they are... his family is infamous for having babies before marriage. I don't care they know I'm a virgin... it's just something personal...
And when it comes to after marriage, our plans are also opposite. Just the little things.. like he wants dogs, wants to pee in the shower, wants to wear shoes in the house, etc. & this thing about "touching his money"... I don't know if he was really kidding or not...
Have you ever had opposite family members & little things about future plans than your significant other? Any advice? What was it like once you got married? Was compromise hard?
2006-11-30 15:07:58 · 5 answers · asked by ( Kelly ) 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
everyone is different. but some are way too different. its not wrong if you dont get along with his family. there is no perfect family or person. just picture yourself when you are at the altar. is this the person standing across from you? If you continue to be with him and get married, they will be your family too. unless he chooses never to see them again but that probably will never happen. As long as you continue to be with him, you will have to at least pretend that you get along
2006-11-30 15:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect !
You at lease know about your soon to be divorced husband before you marry him, now you can make a very informative decision on whether it is worth it or not.
Please don't marry the guy you think he can become but marry the guy you see now doing the same thing, talking the same way for years to come.
Believe me "little things" are not pets, urinating in the shower, dirty shoes on your new carpet, finance, etc. These are big things and it will get worse.
Good luck.............please walk away or at lease ask yourself "Why do I want him for my husband?" and the words "Because I love him" is not enough. !
Also ask your parents/family/co-workers/friends on how they feel about your friend
2006-11-30 23:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing to consider in choosing a partner is FAMILY LIFE. Another is RELIGIOUS LIFE. However, I don't believe that you in love, you must ignore your heart and use you brain. We all know that in loving, the heart is used but you must use your brain as well. You musn't change him when you're already married. Change him now or never. If you can't change him but you still stay with him, you'll end up with a messed relationship. I believe you're already there now.
2006-12-01 01:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by jelleygayceniza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away or there will be lots of problems in the future.
2006-11-30 23:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by morganslilone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so if his family is so discusting to u and so is he why are u still there. it sounds like u r using him for something. leave him be and find someone who will fit in ur perfect, prudist, preppy world and leave real people like this man and his family alone.
2006-11-30 23:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋