He goes out every day of the week. Mostly nightime only. I will call him & sometimes he answers & others he doesn't. I found out that when he doesn't answer is when he's at the dance. Which he denies. If I call him too much then he will hang up on me or just not answer the phone. He sleeps alot on the living room couch. On the weekends he goes out at Friday or Saturday at maybe 6PM & does not come back till the next day @ like 2,3, or 4PM. I am so tired of all this. I have tried to talk to him. I have asked him why & he doesn't want to talk & why he goes out so much, he just gets mad & leaves again. He is always telling me CLEAN THE HOUSE, do this or do that. I have told him that we have 4 kids & the house can not be spottless 24/7. I work full time & sell AVON also. He never wants to help me clean. I had made dinner in the oven the other day & he said that he didn't want to eat sh** from the oven. So what do you think?
2006-11-30 15:10:29 · 33 answers · asked by tigrababy2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, he obviously does not respect you or amount of stress he is putting on you and your children. If I were you I would definately believe he was cheating but in actuality you can't be sure until you have definate proof. The main thing right now is his verbal abuse and disrespect of your household. You can't continue to let him to run you in the ground, you need to take charge and demand respect or divorce. It is not fair for you to be treated like you are inferior to him.
2006-11-30 15:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Holly L 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say something is wrong, but not necessarily cheating, most men that cheat (basing this on my ex and some of my friends ex's) are super nice to their wives, too nice if you know what I mean. Maybe he's just tired of the family life, which it's to late now. And some men are real freaks about a clean home, kids or no kids and hate all those easy box meals you can buy now. Try cleaning the house real good (and keep it that way for a week or so) and fixing a nice dinner, see if that changes his actions.
2006-11-30 15:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should read your letter thinking another person wrote it and you will have your answer. Of course he is, life is a lot better than this and don't make any excuses for getting out of this situation. A year from now you could be the happiest woman in the world, living with a terrific husband that really respects and loves you and your children. Go to your local Woman Resource Center and they will help you get off to a good start.
Good Luck
2006-11-30 16:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by MJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but i do think that you guys need a seperation.
As far as him cheating I have no idea. He may have someone and he may not, Could be he is unhappy but instead of talking about it he's out here with friends having a bigtime, but he sounds like he is a rude man to talk to you as he does, remember people treat you like you let them treat you. I understand having the 4 children and you feel you need to be there for them. Now is the time to think do you want them to grow up like this? I'm not saying your husband is a bad guy
at all, he may have some great quaities but, he is not happy there. so I' d tell him, you obviously are not happy so its time for yo u to go. you all deserve better, good luck
2006-12-01 00:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by missy j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is cheating however the question you need to be asking is why are you tolerating this type of behavior do you want your children to grow up thinking it's OK for people to treat them the way your husband is treating you. He has already left you in my mind he is just coming around often enough to not have to pay child support. Kick his butt out even if you love him let him see how its going to be if his behavior continues and maybe he will grow up and come back home as a man
2006-11-30 15:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a very good chance that your husband is cheating if you can't sit down and talk with him then maybe you may need to look at other options for you and your children because u guys deserve better and an explanation for his actions
2006-11-30 15:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by "Said&Done" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, if you loose the patient, just tell him off or tell him you are going out for a date with another guy, since you never get the love from him. Tell him, you take care of two kids and the other two left to him. Let him decide, what he wants to do.
2006-11-30 15:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. My husband treated me like that and after 8 mos. I left. 9 mos later he had a baby boy...with his girlfriend. Just like you I wanted to ignore my instincts and denied the possibilities. I decided that I loved myself more than I loved him and left. Us women have an automatic selfpreservation...its called instinct. If you feel it hes doing it.
2006-11-30 16:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Carmela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seem like he is but I don't want to be the one to judge no one's marriage. But I can give you a litle advice. Don't argue with him, becuz u r giving him what he want. He want to make u upset so he can have reason to leave. So u have 2 b the bigger person. But we cant stop them from cheating but we can try. T he only thing that cabn stop them is the Almighty God. AND HE WANT MISS HIS WATER UNTIL HIS WELL RUN DRY.......
2006-11-30 15:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by hurt06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what i been through sounds like yes if this has gone on for a long time i would not be trying to work it out not even for the kids they dont need to see there mom unhappy they need love too and he is not good enough for yall if he does sh** like that
2006-11-30 15:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by veronica a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋