What do you do if the guy you have 3 kids with(unmarried) doesn't want to fix the 6 year relationship, we have. and just wants to leave?? does this mean he is doing something behind my back? or is trying to test me? we fight over going out and bitchin, and stupid other stuff.
2006-11-30 16:51:26 · 8 answers · asked by blue_lollypop4422@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he wants to leave then let him. Dont keep a man that doesn't want to be kept. And he's not testing you, guys dont have the time or mental capacity to "test" someone. It's too much work. Let each other go and it will give you both time to mature.
2006-11-30 16:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by mzagge06 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy you have 3 kids with and you are unmarried and he wants to leave I say let the chump leave. No need to fight for a man who is threatening to leave. If he's testing you tell him to get out and pass the test!!!
2006-12-01 00:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just means you deserve someone else. It just means he doesn't want you, probably can't face responsibility, but there are a million other guys that would love to be with someone like you. What I have learned through the years is that there isn't just one person out there for us, there are several. So you have several chances of love, several chances of finding a guy who makes you the most important person in their life. But one thing, do not let this guy walk away without paying child support. You need to make sure he does that. If he gives you the run around then contact children services or the people who handle child support in your town. They can actually take it out of his pay or future pay.
2006-12-01 00:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
blue: Like the thousands of girls on this site, who post their sex before commitment (marriage), you are in a real bind. This problem in your relationship involves 3 others (children), who will pay the price psychologically for you and your guy's choice to bring them into this world and demonstrate, right in front of them, the contempt you both have for one another. Your man is, no doubt, on the move and don't expect him to stay around when he finds a new girl to bed down. A woman is in a very vulnerable position when she decides to trust a man and bear his children. There are far too many guys out there, who exploit this vulnerability and leave the woman left, high and dry ! Your man is a real creep for doing this to both, you and your children. Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 01:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is tired of the fighting. Maybe he needs some space. Maybe he has been trying everything possible to keep things togther, and he's just not the guy you want and so he is frustrated by always letting you down.
Have you tried to seek proffessional help? If you cant afford it, many churches can direct you to this sort of thing.
2006-12-01 00:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wants to go let him, tell him to make sure he always has contact with the kids(very important).you can not make him stay and you shouldn't want him to stay if that's how is going to be the fighting is not good for the kids or you. It will be hard very hard but will be much easier doing it now then later.good luck
2006-12-01 00:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by feelingstupid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he wants to leave what's it matter if he's doing something behind your back? I would call his bluff, ever heard that saying let it leave, and if it returns to you it's yours to keep? you guys need to learn to pick your battles. but if he doesn't want to fix it, let him leave, he'll learn the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Good luck!
2006-12-01 00:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by justadream 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you guys shouldnt be together for awhile. see how things go and maybe if its ment to be after that you can reconsider your status with him
2006-12-01 00:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by suz-e-baby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋