So, what should I do?

Question

I have been unhappy in my marriage for a while, to the point of thinking of divorce. My wife and I just can't seem to get along. We just seem to be very different people. To make a long story short, things that she did early this year really made me sad and made me realize that I need to do something. So, I started to ask a couple of very close friends about if I should seek counseling to try and save my marriage (and part of me still does) but then I met this lady and something happened that I think I have fallen in love with her or if not fallen in love, something very close to it and I cannot stop thinking about her. This is tearing me apart, yes, I have been very unhappy in my marrige but at the same time I still want to save it but then what do I do with my feelings for this person? When I'm not around her I do good (not great) but when I see her, well, I can't stop trying to look at her and get all nervous. This could have happened in the past with another woman, so why now?

Answer 1

You need counseling, not another woman in your life. And if you think you might still want to work on your marriage, you have to cut off all contact with the woman you've become infatuated with. You can't work on your marriage with a third person involved. It will never, ever work.
So give your marriage one last, fair shot. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work, and you move on.

Answer 2

If your marriage is not working, you have every right to move on with your life. But don't do it because of the new woman, she could be a crush or just something new.

Answer 3

Dude,
You need to drop this new woman out of your life and fix these problems with your wife. You'll regret it forever if you don't address the problems, and will probably lose your wife forever. Start communicating with your wife!!Figure that out first.

Answer 4

You should learn to make your queries more brief.