help... dad girlfriend?

Question

my mum passed away due to cancer 1 1/2 ago
my dad has new girlfriend and shes trying to replace my mum and i dont like it, i dont find her a nice person is this because i miss my mum or because she really isnt a nice person? help what can i do?
much appreciated xx

i think they are planning to get married soon

p.s i meant 1 1/2 YEARS ago
sory

Thankyou everybody for your help i will talk to him because i do really want him to be happy just dont want him to forget mum. Thankyou so much everybody u have helped alot! :) xxxx

Answer 1

this is a very difficult situation for you. obviously she can't replace your mum but maybe she can make your dad happy. Talk to your dad about it, try to see it from his point of view and help him see it from yours. maybe even talk to her. she maybe a bit of a witch, but chances are she's nice enough and just wants to be your friend.

Answer 2

Look, you have to grow up. Your dad needs happiness in his life and closure. You need to move on, too and find a love of your own also. Your mother wouldn't want the 2 of you moping around the rest of your lives because of her death. Besides, what do you know if she had told your father to get it on after she left? Thats their business. If this new lady is nice to you, then start being nice back. She knows she cant take the place of mom, but she can be a great friend instead. Besides, you want your father to be happy again, dont you? So wish them luck and start a new life. Not to many people get that kind of a chance. Always keep your mom's memory green, but keep the door open for new experiences. I'm sure she 'd want it that way. I've been there, dear and you'd be surprized how nice a step-parent can be once you and they become the best of friends.

Answer 3

Darlin' I am so sorry, I had a sister died of cancer, she was 3 and this was 19 years ago. Now I have a new baby sis (my Dad's and his new girlfriend) she's wonderful. My dad's girlfriends a right *****, so irritating and annoying she drives me ******* mad. The truth is I think that you just miss you mum Darlin' honest, this new girlfriend might be a horrible cow, but it is your Dad's choice and he knows as you do that no one will ever replace your mum. She is always with you, and never wants you to feel sad, Is your dad happy? if so than be happy for him, I'm sure that's what your mum would have wanted.

Answer 4

Sorry, to hear about your mom. My mom died 2 years ago also. I don't think your dad's girlfriend is trying to replace your mom. I think she is trying to be in your life as well as your fathers. Let's be honest here. There is noone who can replace or erase your mother. You wouldn't be happy if he dropped her and got someone else would you? You'd find something wrong with the next woman as well. It's very understandable, because your still grieving and you don't think his life should go on without your mom. Life does go on. Although hard as it is you have to learn to open up and let other people in. Your mom wouldn't want you to shut down like that. I hope you get to see the friend you may have in this new woman in your dad's life and have a friendship. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!

Answer 5

I'm sorry you lost your mum,it's devastating I know it happened to me.

Your dad has found someone else to love, that's sometimes very hard to do.
It isn't this womans fault that your mum died,and I'm sure she does'nt want to try and take your mum's place,she is a woman in her own right.

She hopefully loves your dad and is trying to build a relationship with you which will make him happy. Give her a chance, she's probably very nice, and although she will never take or want to replace your mum, it's nice to have someone to confide in about female things you know.

Give her a chance as I say, you will reap the benefits of having her in your life, as will your dad, and your mum who I'm sure loved you both very much will want you both to be happy too. God bless.

Answer 6

You are still grieving and your dad needs to understand this. Talk to him and explain how you feel. Even though his needs are being met, he seems to have forgotten how you maybe feeling. Let him know you do not want his girlfriend moving in. Grieving can take a long time. At least try and let her by your friend..don't ignore her give her a chance. You may find that you actually like her xx

Answer 7

i can agree with what your saying my mom died in 79' and im 34 now and my fathers been married and has another girlfiend for the past 30 years and i never really got along with her until recently you just have to talk to her and let her know that you have a mother but lets try and be friends you must be really special if you want to be in my fathers life with all his kids and flaws.take the time to get to know her you may find out thats shes only trying to be your friend good luck

Answer 8

your dad does deserve happiness in his life!!!!

shes not trying to replace your mum, you loved your mother so much and resent any one to replace her, this is a natural reaction
you really miss your mum, but at the same time so does your dad,, your mother is hard to replace, nobody could replace the special bond that you both did share,

Answer 9

I think you should talk to your dad about how you feel. And maybe you, your dad, and your dad'd girlfriend can have a conversation about it. Because your feelings matter in this situation also. And dont ever forget that no one can ever replace your mom. Also, maybe your dad's girlfriend isnt trying to replace your mom, maybe she's just trying to be helpful to the family.

Answer 10

It’s bit hard to mingle with new a person that to the new person is going to take your MoM place. I know its bit hard to believe. But your father has some different wish, you can’t do any thing. First of all talk to your father about the new person. Tell your feelings. Try to understand your DaD. Try your level best to convince him. If not try to adjust with your new MoM. First of all don’t look every thing in –Ve direction about new person. It will lead you in to wrong results. Good luck.