lately ive been getting the feeling my husbands cheating on me. This girl he works with has lately been calling my house and my husband would sneak off into a different room and start wispering...then the other day I looked out the window and he gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek..then I found a letter in his pocket from her that said she wants to take him out to lunch one day and then she said sweet dreams because I know you will be in mine...love always and then her name... I dont know what to do...He denies it and the worst part of all is we got married april 29 2006 and we have a 3 month old baby together. Please help because im really sad
2006-11-30 08:09:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Simple...next time he goes to sleep, super-glue his pecker to his belly.
2006-11-30 08:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't already cheated on you then, it's on the way. Some women are just bi*****. They see a guy who is married and the 1st thing the do is go after him and instead of being strong minded they think with their d*** and ruin a great marriage. I'm sorry to hear what is going on with you. It is apparent that there is chemistry between these two and you should be concerned about it. Of course he is going to deny anything that you ask him now especially the letter and I'm sure that things are gonna be different for the 2 of you. He may start to come in later, give you gifts out the blue, say that he has a business meeting or something to that affect. I just say pray about it and ask God to reveal to you if he is cheating or not. As much as you love your husband and if he is cheating, don't say with him for the sake of the child. You aren't helping the situation by staying together for your child's sake you are only making it worse. I hope everything works out for you but it just seems like he is looking for sex in all the wrong places and it could possibly because you just had a baby and you aren't ready for sex just yet.
2006-11-30 16:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know love is tough!
Tell him it is you or her! That he has to still do all the finacially respnsibilty, and let him get his wild oats out!
But all benefits of being married can not be, he has to be out of the house, and have no say what goes on in your life.
You're still young, let him see what he is missing by not having you, start dating, afterall, he made his decisons of being with her!
he still has the right to see your baby, and be in the baby life, but, you have not been married long.
Let him babysit the baby, and see the guys you are dating while he baby sits, why should he have all the fun to cheat, and do what he wants without the responsbility!
Then, if he fully jealous of your relationships, and wants you back, then you have to work on forgivng or just work on getting the divorce, and still see this no good husband as an ex, for the next 18 years!
2006-11-30 16:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he deny after what you found? Well if you can't talk to him i'd go seriously warn off that girl he works with. (but that's just me) But that would only buy more time to find a better solution. All i can think of is marriage counceling but it can be expensive... and does he only "let" her do all these things or do you know if he's going forward with it too? Some guys are just to flattered and shy to tell off other women. But the hug and kiss... It's hard to discuss this if he won't even admit, which could at least let you know what is going on. You seriously have to talk to him and ask him if he really wants to jeopardise his family -and couple- for something like that. Personnaly i would corner him until he admits but then again, it's a question of opinion. Good luck, and if he can't commit, he doesn't diserve you or his baby!
2006-11-30 16:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see everybody in this world has an opinion, and they are not afraid to express it either, but here is what I have learned, You cannot make someone love you, you cannot let people(both of them), disrespect you like this, someone like that is most likely not going to change for a long time if ever. I have found very few men in life that are not cheaters, Satan is collecting his armies, and adultery is a sin, but it is one thing that happens all the time, I really can't give you any other advice, you have to choose what you want, to stay and be disrespected, means that you accept his behavior, the only way to show him it is not acceptable is to leave, and maybe he will change after losing you for a while. I would simply tell him you want to separate for a while, give him the space he needs to figure out what he wants. It sucks, but you can't let people treat you like that. Good Luck in whatever you decide to do
2006-11-30 16:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by tammy_l_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask people he works with what is going on. Call her directly and ask her. It might be innocent, but it doesn't sound like it from what you've said. On the other hand, she could just be going through some very personal problems that she doesn't want him telling other people, and for some reason she trusts him. Maybe he's "safe" because he's married. I've been in that situation before, and sometimes people would think I was having an affiar with someone that just found me easy to talk to because I was "safe." Ask him what is going on, rather than asking him what isn't going on.
2006-11-30 16:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard cold cruel facts are you don't have a husband with "natural affections". He is likely a sex addict and you know that as long as he loves his sins more than his relationships, he doesn't deserve to be rewarded with having his cake and eating it too. NOW is the time to separate. He can either get help and earn your trust back after a sufficient trial period or he can refuse help and you can sue for divorce. Helpful information and a forum for this situation is found at "A woman's healing journey.com". Only God can change an impossible situation or help you to cope with it whether your cheater ever chooses God or not.
2006-11-30 16:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her up and invite her over for dinner with you and your husband, but tell her it's just because your husband talks about her so nicely and you decided you'd like to get to know her better. When she arrives, be sure to parade your baby in front of her; if you're feeling bold, even ask her to feed the baby a bottle while you finish up dinner preparations. At the dinner, after a little polite chit chat, pull out the letter you found and "innocently" ask her what that "you'll be in my dreams" comment meant. Her reaction and your husband's reaction will tell you volumes. Additionally, she will know you're on to them, and she'll feel guilty because you have made your baby real to her.
2006-11-30 16:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me there is no if..he's cheating, but you dont want to see it. Im sorry that you havent even been married that long and have a kid too. Maybe go out on a limb and talk to the chick in quesiton. Tell her the situation if she doesnt know and just ask her point blank if they are having an affair.
2006-11-30 16:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get the feeling he's cheating on you? What do they have to do, have sex in front of you? Come on already wake up. You now have the right to do anything you wish to catch him. Follow him. Surpise him at lunch. Listen in on the phone. Just because you just got married doesn't mean he is a good guy.
2006-11-30 16:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by javelin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say hun...he is wandering. Time to sit down and put things on the table..either he stops or you are leaving him and he will support you and the baby...dont settle for that crap..he is not much of a man in my eyes to do that...stop being sad....get MAD ..dont let this continue for 1 more day..
2006-11-30 16:19:08 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋