I'm not perfect, nobody is, but I have been VERY good to my wife for many years and I have not gotten half back from her of what I give out in love and care and I guess I finally got tired of it - I have a broken heart. I was not looking for anyone, not looking to fall in love or anything like that. I realized I could not go on like this and that is when I started to look for counseling and then this person came into my life and I have VERY strong feelings for her, I am very confused, torn apart and sad. Why her? It could have happened with other women in the past but I would turn the other way and be a "good husband." But something happen with this one, is like I fell into a magic spell and I cannot get out of it. I TRULY wish I did not feel like this about her but I just can't as much as I try. When I am around her I feel like my heart wants to come out of my chest. Is this stupid or what? I need some good advise please.
2006-11-30 07:23:18 · 11 answers · asked by sadinmiamifl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I always get a good laugh when I read "I was not looking for anyone, not looking to fall in love or anything like that." Yet you go on to say "When I am around her ...." which means you are allowing yourself to experience this. You are allowing yourself to be tempted. You are doing this. There are thousands of women you could fall in love with, if you let it happen. As people get older, they experience different things in life. They grow. Some couples grow together, some grow apart. If you are that unhappy then get out of it, then you will be free to persue another relationship with out the guilt.
HOWEVER, keep this in mind. The grass is always greener on the other side. Have you lived with this new woman? Do know what her morning routine is? Does she snore? Does she run up credit card bills and then not pay them for months? Does she burn water when cooking? What do you really know about her? It is easy to love someone when you know little about who they really are. It is when the cloud of passion clears that you will know true love.
2006-11-30 07:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give love and care to your wife if the only reason you're doing it is because you want it back. That's not sincere and it's not good for either one of you. It sounds like you are being clouded by your expectations without ever having defined or asked for your needs to be met.
Have you tried to work things through with your wife?
Does she even KNOW that you feel unloved in this way?
I think that you are feeling very love starved and that that will cloud any decisions you tried to make regarding this situation.
If I were you, I'd take space away from the woman I feel this for until I can get my insides all in order.
First figure out what you can do about your marriage. Is it mend-able? Do you WANT to mend it? Does your wife?
Involving another person in this situation is only going to make things ugly for everyone. Step away from it until things are sorted.
2006-11-30 07:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by It'sme! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your wife isnt making you happy (anymore). And you feel like you have giving more then 100% in current relationship. Then I would talk with the other women. If she feels the same. File for divorce. But before you do all that. Weigh out the pros and cons of both women. Analyze the relationship with both. I mean dont just think ooh it will be great. Just think about the whole concept.
It also could just be lust. Just a temptation.
2006-11-30 07:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by d2poolplaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry but you will need to stay with your wife. You gave your life to her when you were married and she gave you hers. So if she does something with someone else then by all means feel free since that is free of any cost. but otherwise just stay the path
2006-11-30 07:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by fuderpod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 23:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get no love from your wife, than why not get love from someone who actually cares. I's hard b/c you are used to having your wife but somtimes we must let go for sake of our own sanity.
2006-11-30 07:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by lloroensilencio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may just be in lust.....make sure your feelings are genuine before acting on them...you are married...remember...if you really cant shake the feelings for the other women then get a divorce. Then explore your options...
2006-11-30 07:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that... Been there, done that... Bet you find that when you see her, you have the STUPIDEST smile on your face and just love being close...
Does she feel the same though???
2006-11-30 07:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r in deep love
look do what ur heart guide u
2006-11-30 07:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is over; get a divorce.
2006-11-30 07:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋