the fact that my husband irritates me on purpose to get a rise, I have been ignoring him when he does that and he just gets moody or snarky accusing me of cheating...he is 32 and im 27.
2006-11-30 07:37:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him, Yes dear, I am cheating - and it's wonderful. That's why IM STILL HERE IN THIS MISERABLE DUMP A_HOLE! - IF I WERE TO CHEAT ON YOU I'D LEAVE YOUR POOR DRUNK AZS FOR SOMEONE MY OWN AGE YOU WRINKLY OLD BASTTERD!!!! Then, Blow him. that should cool him off.
2006-11-30 07:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rod Farva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how long he has been doing this--or if this is something that has been going on from the beginning. How long have you been together? Any kids? If this is something relatively new, they say that the 'extremes' are red flags...The attempt to get a full blast argument going, or the sudden splurge of gift giving, sweetness etc. He is hiding something serious, and can't tell you straight out what it is, so he is going this route. Have you picked up on any other things--now that you think about it? Like, late nights, work schedule changes, new clothing for himself, different music, different or the use of after shave/cologne?
You need to look at everything here. Then decide how and when you are going to get him to talk--really talk to you about what has been going on. He is clearly unhappy about something. Good luck.
2006-11-30 15:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage,,,,,, life!!!, should be fun..... that's the purpose of life. If you two are snarky at each other, moody, and you are serious about making your lives, your love and your marriage better, more supportive, then get into a few sessions of counseling, hon. Marriage is respect, admiration, passion, trust, and all sorts of warm fuzzies of companionship, pleasing each other...yadayadayda.... So, it looks like firstly both of you need to grow up. And secondly, find out why you married, and what it ought to be. If the above makes any sense at all, as to what you want out of life, learn what you are doing incorrectly, so your love CAN be nice, and warm, and delightfulllllllll..................
2006-11-30 16:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to think about the fact that he could be cheating and he could be accusing you of it out of guilt. Also, consider that he may be starting fights in the hope that he can end the relationship without having to come right out and say it.
Why are you with this jerk? Don't you think you deserve better?
2006-11-30 15:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did that in order to get us both mad enough that he could walk out. Sometimes he stayed gone a few hours, others a whole weekend. He has some things he wants to do obviously and picking fights with you justifies those things for him. Don't allow him to piss you off. I know it's hard but just ignore him and walk away. If he follows you around with his fussing, just keep walking, eventually he'll get tired of trying and leave you alone. I've actually done this and it really screws up their plans when they can't make you mad!!
2006-11-30 15:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Dr. Laura (she's on right now....1-800-D-r-L-a-u-r-a)....or go pick up one of her books. Seriously - if you can't stand her....it's because you haven't listened to her enough. Get her on the phone and tell her what's going on and she will get to the root of it. She's very frank and straightforward.....she's not a feminist....
ANyway - she says that men are basically very simple creatures...they want food, admiration and lovin'....they have that and they'll swim through shark-infested waters to bring you a lemonade. So either you married a BOY (and not a real MAN)....or you maybe need to adjust a few things to make him happier (and those things that may need tweaking are usually SO little!). I can't tell you how much reading "the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" - one of her books...has now gotten my previously porn watching jerk of a husband (of 12 years) eating out of my hand and eager to please ME!
OK - I've rambled on enough.......good luck.
2006-11-30 15:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jeniphish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if you are not cheating and he is accusing you tell him he needs to STOP, accusing you will just make the fights worse. it's hard to constantly ignore someone you live with especially your husband. sit down with him and have a long talk.
2006-11-30 15:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We get angry when we don't find any reason to our brain when ever some body says or commands to do any work. Try to think on particular issue for a while why he saying so,and also think that work is for good or bad. In this analysation if you feel that work is for good cause you'll never get angry. Whether you do that work or not that is another issue.
2006-11-30 15:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by kasula j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant IGNORE it, you live together. Thats really a bad situation if he purposely tries to fight with you. I think everyone will say to leave him. Of course its easier said than done. But that situation seems like you have to resolve it quickly one way or the other.....or else it will just fester till you explode.
2006-11-30 15:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by curiousguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 32. Forgive me, I thought at first you said he was 3. Because that's how he's acting -- like a three year old. He is manipulating you for his own enjoyment. He needs to grow up and stop this crap.
2006-11-30 15:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋