i'm 18 and my bf is 20. my bf is wanting to have a sex with me which i refuse it. this coming saturday, he invited me for a night swiming. i'm afraid for what he plans. how do i scape it without hurting him. why those guys hurt when we (girls) refusing what they want. i'm still a virgin and i never never surrender my virginity to the man before wedding because it is sacred to me.
2006-11-30 05:31:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him "no." If he does not respect that he is not the right person for you. It may be hard to hear that now but it takes lots more than love to make a relationship last.
2006-11-30 05:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't compromise your values for anyone. I recently did that and almost made a serious mistake that would have cost me so much emotionally.
He knows how you feel and if he doesn't respect you now, what about after he convinces you to 'put out'? Do you really think that he will stick around very long? Do you want to risk a pregnancy, std, etc...for someone who doesn't respect your values?
tell him that you hope he can find a girl who can give him the temporary gratification he is looking for, but you are saving yourself for a man who is willing to put you first and respect what you value.
I am so glad you have this standard. It is refreshing to see that there are decent values still left with the morally corrupt society we live in. I know how hard it is. I was a virgin on my wedding night. I got alot of flack, but I am glad that I waited. now I am divorced and will act the same as if I were still a virgin and not have sex with another man till I get re-married.
2006-11-30 06:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! I waited until my wedding night and I am so grateful--it was the best decision I ever made. I am absolutely sure that I would be with a different man (i.e. the "wrong" man) rather than the amazing husband I have right now. We got married in January.
Although movies and the media seem to show us otherwise, it is actually the man who should be taking the initiative to protect himself and his future wife from falling into this before marriage (or for that matter, someone else's future wife). Otherwise, it becomes very, very difficult for the couple to continue to save themselves for their spouses.
I would recommend telling your bf that you do not want to have sex. If he agrees to this and is trustworthy, you can go. If he starts trying to massage you or touch you, leave--I mean, leave the house. He has been dishonest. If he does not agree to not having sex, don't go to his house when he invites you. That is very disrespectful of you and your feelings--not the kind of guy you would want to father your children one day, you know?
And don't forget! God is on your side and He will help you through it all!!! Stay strong!!!! God bless!!!
2006-11-30 05:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't want to have sex with him because your virginity is sacred to you and you want to wait for marriage. I probably wouldn't go on the night swim with him because I'm sure he has other motives, especially if only the two of you will be there for the swimming. If he doesn't respect that, or gives you a hard time about it, then dump him and don't look back. You should never, ever be with someone who doesn't respect you. If you have to dump him, don't feel bad about it.
2006-11-30 05:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'ts humorous because maximum folk with a sufferer mentality that are authentic believers in God, blame God , no longer the devil even as they hit all-time low. authentic believers, or in different words, contributors of God's eternal family contributors have alway's realized that God is in administration of each and every thing which includes devil. They keep in mind that Lucifer would haven't any ability except given by God. it really is why even as they could take no extra Lucifer steps in and tells them it really is Gods fault. surely it really is our fault for sinning and straying far flung from God. that's the way Lucifer keeps you far flung from God lengthy adequate till he convinces the guy that he's the all sensible one. once he has done this then the guy starts a life of entire sin. After that the guy will continually blame The devil because he has develop into this persons new god.
2016-11-29 23:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a guy that respects your virginity. Don't think that this guy is the only guy in the world. Open up your eyes sweetheart, and take notice of all the other men out there!
2006-11-30 05:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by eh! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is a gift that should be not be opened until marriage. Does your boyfriend know how important it is that you wait for marriage? If so, he should respect that and not pressure you. If not, maybe it's time for you to move on. Peace :-)
2006-11-30 05:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest you bring some friends along and stay around them.
When you decide to no longer be a virgin it should be something that you've decided and not something that just happened.
Listen to what you head is telling you.
2006-11-30 05:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very wise. Maybe you should tell him your thoughts on waiting for marriage to have sex, so if he has any thoughts of having sex now, he can either know to move on or have to wait.
2006-11-30 05:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go swimming unless you take a friend. Don't put yourself in any situation that you would be alone with him. So invite friends or family members or make excuses for being busy.
2006-11-30 05:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋