I have an ex-boyfriend that I was madly in love with when we dated. However I relationship ended because he was not ready for the type of relationship I wanted at that time (1996). Anyway, we remained friends. Years later (1998), my best friend invited some relatives to move in with us. Her two cousins moved in and all was great for a while. After some time, I moved out and into another apt bldg in the same complex. Shortly after I started dating a co-worker and things progressed until I moved back home in 2000. Four months after my ex called me to advise me that he was dating my ex roommate. My ex roommate called me upset and irrate becasue she felt like he was asking my permission to date her. Anyway, they got married two years ago and had a baby two months ago. I was the wedding decorator, and the hostess for the baby shower (at her request). She continue to be suspicious of our friendhsip, with no reason for concern. Why does she continue to invite me into her life events?
2006-11-30 06:16:43 · 9 answers · asked by Jay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She obviously feels threatened. It was nice of him to let you know - out of respect. Too bad she didn't have the same respect for you. It seems that she has no problem trusting you with doing all the work for her special occasions, but not near her man. You should keep your distance - she's using you.
2006-11-30 06:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While she didnt actually do anything wrong dating him, as you had already broken up, she feels guilty. Your ex did the right thing telling you so that you didnt find out from somebody else. She is proving to him that you are ok with it. What is happening though means you should move on and tell her you feel if she is suspicious it is better not to have contact at all , wish them both well. Its too much to expect you to be that close knowing the history. You can try to keep the friendship but it wont work in the long run.
2006-11-30 14:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is torn. She feels uncomfortable knowing that you and her husband had a relationship. She probably remembers it as being quite intense, as no doubt, you would have confided in her during the relationship and when it broke up. In her mind, she probably still sees you as THAT broken hearted girl. You have moved on, but she may still think that you want him back.
At the same time I think she wants you in her life. That's why she keeps involving you in it. I don't know if you can truly be close, as this mistrust will always hang over you both. If you want to be close with her. Keep reinforcing that you are over him, by talking about your new relationships. I think though, it may be best to pull back and let things cool down between you and her, as well as him. Move on.
2006-11-30 14:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be the whole idea of "keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer" - she's keeping tabs on you. She might also want to keep your friendship alive that way you won't think of getting with her man, because she'll know you'll feel guilty. If I was you I would just let it go - she isn't a true friend and who needs the extra drama.
2006-11-30 14:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to keep a eye on you. It seems that if she keeps you close as friends then you won't be a likely to cheat. She sounds like a very insecure person.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-30 14:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably wants to keep an eye on you...or maybe she's not suspicious at all.
2006-11-30 14:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becuz you are her friend and a guy should not come between yall
2006-11-30 14:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by the one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because shes trying to show you how he is her man now.....
2006-11-30 14:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should dump her as your friend.
2006-11-30 14:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋