Marrying your boss?????????kinda??????

Question

Hi i am 23 years old and in public relations job and my bf is 14 years older than me.We have been together a year we started dating the second year i was working there.Even though when we first met i was 19 and an intern but nothing happened because of my age.I love him so much he is hot and he takes such good care of me buying me nothing but the best of everything and going to Paris on vacation as well as other great places.Weird thing is he is a partial owner of the firm i work for and i dont now if that is moral or if that would change things after we marry?We will be getting married in the spring i am so excited but friends say i am just in love with an image.?He was also known as a ladies man before we met but never married.

Could be married to your boss for all purposes cause problems?

Answer 1

The age difference should matter as long as the two of you are censenting adults and are ok with it. It doesn't sound like you've tried to hide this relationship from anyone, but to be safe, the two of you should have a talk with his partners about the upcoming wedding. The issues would seem to be: 1)Do they have any problems with the two of you getting married? 2) Can you continue to work as before, without expecting special treatment from anyone (including hubby)? 3) Will there be any ethical problems with the two of you working together in such a business? If the partners think there may be a problem, you may need to think about finding a job elsewhere.

Answer 2

Many people meet and marry at work. Your situation doesn't sound uncommon; I know a few company owners who have their wives working for them in the company; yes, the dynamics are different when it's a wife rather than a regular employee - but if both people are wise and reasonable, it shouldn't cause too much of a problem.

As far as the age difference - so what. It's not a big deal - as long as you're realistic about it. 14 years isn't that terribly much. Whether or not you're in love with an "image" - time will tell. You're still young, and will be growing and learning in the years to come. You and your husband may grow together, but you may also grow apart. It's a risk you take every time you commit to a serious relationship. Use your common sense, try to make the best decision possible in the light of what you know and feel now, just do your best. Many times, risks are worth taking; even if something does go wrong in the long run, you will have gained valuable experience to use in the future.

Answer 3

You got it made, don't even think about leaving. Their isn't anything immoral about dating your boss. He May have been a ladies man that is why you think he is hot all the other woman thought the same thing. 14 years is not to old for a 23 year old woman, he already has his own company, he offers so much security and he is fixed for life. No, your not in love with a image, your friends are just jealous. I'm sure he is a fantastic lover most older men.are better lovers any old day.
Don't let that man get away, you have a beautiful life ahead of you, take it and run with it. I wish you all the happiness in the world.
I think you are such a lucky, lucky girl. Best of Wishes.

Answer 4

Believe it or not there is a difference between what you're feeling for him, and the stuff that makes a marriage work. You've heard people say that marriage is hard work - because it is. And, marriage changes people.

I know I'll get slammed for this but I suggest living together for a little while to see if it can be done. And honey, any man who is 14 years older than you and was a cad before does not sound like a good gamble, trust me. I think I see an ace up his sleeve that you don't see; and its a red flag.

One more thing - what do your friends and family say about it? They are often a good gauge when you're blinded by "love."

Answer 5

tell your friends to shut up and stop raining on your parade!

if you are getting married, no big deal. it's the whole dating the boss that is really frowned upon. once it's in a commited relationship, it's not longer an ethic issue. however, if it makes either of you more comfortable, you may want to change jobs, or maybe just departments. less work interaction.

but no worries.

Answer 6

Based on what you've just said, I kind of agree with your friends. What you guys have going sounds very superficial. You sound more in love with how he looks and the things he's able to do for you financially than anything else.

Plus, if you're in love with him and want to marry him, the age difference and fact that he's your boss should be of no concern to you. Why are you worried about that? I think it would be best for you to hold off on marrying him and just keep dating him.

Answer 7

After dating a year he must be more than an image to you. As far as working for his firm, morality has nothing to do with it. I think you should go for it. Best wishes.

Answer 8

i became engaged whilst i became 24 and married whilst i became 26 Our wedding ceremony colours have been a faded peach and chocolate brown We each and each had our brothers as witnesses (2 entire), it became a very small wedding ceremony (14 people have been there inclusive people and our reverend) Our reception became held a month after our wedding ceremony, and we did no longer have assigned seating, maximum persons did no longer sit down, it became a dinner occasion We had a small chocolate cake and then a sort of cakes for persons to choose for, i think of there have been 5 diverse alternatives We went to Maui for 2 weeks We have been given married in Gleneden sea coast, OR, a tiny city on the coast, basically outdoors of Lincoln city

Answer 9

Id say take a breather and regroup.

when your 30 he will be 44 and 36 he will be 50, very rarly do these work out.

Answer 10

20 years old is too young to get married. Period.