Marriage & Divorce - 29 November 2006

we got maried 4 years ago, every thing was perfect till i got sick becuse of his behaviour with me . and for 1 month that i was really sick. he told me to go back to my country to change my mood but when i came back i realized that he is cheating with brithish lady.
so could you please kindly tell me why when i ask him to come and divoce me . he says no . when i tell him ok come back home and try to prove me every thing is finished , he says no. he is telling me that he is confiused . and he dose not know what he what from his life. and try to put all the blame on me that ileft him for a week . so what should i do with him?

2006-11-29 05:32:44 · 17 answers · asked by solmaz_z 1

This morning I mentioned to my boyfriend, I might want to become a teacher. He quickly responded "You could never be a teacher, you couldn't handle it." As far as I am concered I am completely capable of doing so. I got mad/upset because no matter what I feel like persuing he should be supportive and tell me to go for my goals. He said that I was "overreacting, and blowing it out of proportion.", when I continued to be mad about this. I don't feel wrong for being hurt about this. But am I?

2006-11-29 05:29:42 · 19 answers · asked by Fallon 2

I think I may have let my "one" go, I was in a FWB relationship and I fell in love with her, unfortunately she didn't return this love.

2006-11-29 05:28:41 · 9 answers · asked by dfsd d 1

I am struggling to find anything good in my life anymore due to not having anyone to look forward to it with. Have just gotten out of FWB relationship and I miss her so much I don't think I can look forward to anything the same as I used to without her

2006-11-29 05:26:28 · 12 answers · asked by dfsd d 1

I know - crazy question. But here's why I ask. Eight months ago my husband (now ex) decided to separate - he said he was not happy. Two days later I find out (from his mom) that he was "in love" with a co-worker. I kicked him out and filed for divorce. Six weeks later he wrote me a letter telling me that he had made a mistake - that I was the one he loved and will always loved. I thought we could work things out. I was naive enough to believe that maybe he had not slept with this woman yet. I was wrong. Not only had he slept with her but they actually bought a house together! Needless to say we are now divorced. He is moving in that house with her this week. I have no idea why it bothers me still. I know he is with her, our son had been introduced to her - I am doing my best to move on. I think this still bothers me because the house represents the level of my ex's deception. Any thoughts? Or am I crazy??

2006-11-29 05:24:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for 6 yrs. and have two boys by my husband. But I've been in this affair with a married man for a year now. I've already met his wife and yes my husband knows about him too. I will always care for my husband cause of our boys together, but I fell in love with the guy I'm having the affair with and he also says the same thing. Me, his wife and him has already all met together and she told him to make a decision, well he said he loves both. Now we are planning on getting a apartment together, do you think it'll work with us? What should I do? My husband still loves me very much but just wants me happy and to make a right decision too. I'm 29 and the guy I'm having an affair with is 42. My husband is 32. I know age doesn't matter. I really need help with all of this. My boys has met this other guy as well and they like him, and they love their dad. I just want to make the right decision.... HELP.....

2006-11-29 05:24:07 · 19 answers · asked by marcella t 1

i had sex after nikhaah but before rukhsati...did i do the right thing? i feel that i did...but when i think about my family and up bringing i get depressed. i also feel that one day may be 10 years down the line he will say to me i was a bad character girl...but i have trusted him and taken this step...is their anything wrong in trusting ur husband thatn ur family?
i even said to him...i hope u dnt ever think im an easy girl thats y im taking this step...im trusting u...somebody helpp meeeeeeeeeeee

2006-11-29 05:22:49 · 11 answers · asked by sq 1

Divorce almost final and house be split later after sale. We changed the locks (my fiance and I) and she is threatening to hire locksmith to break in this weekend while we are away. Her name is on mortgage of course but she does not pay anything towards it and has her own rental.

2006-11-29 05:17:28 · 12 answers · asked by Julie H 1

2006-11-29 05:17:11 · 30 answers · asked by roxie k 1

Last week I was down at the senior center,and this lady who is about my age that I've known for over 15 years asked me if me,and my husband would like to do some partner swapping? I thought it was the craziest thing in the world,but I don't want to hurt her feelings. Should I tell her I don't wan to be friends anymore or should I try this partner swapping stuff?

2006-11-29 05:12:33 · 9 answers · asked by Gertie 2

I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years & he has been separated from his wife for 3 ½ years. The wife filed for divorce 1 ½ years ago when she filed for child support, but did not finish the divorce, just the child support case. I am not trying to pressure him into marrying me, but I am tired of him still being married or legally connected to her. It is over between them, why not file!? He always uses money as an issue, but he got a bonus from his job & spent all of the money on other things, not the divorce. A few weeks later, I got a bonus from my job, & I offered to give him the money for the divorce & he agreed to do it. Yesterday he had a day off so I gave him the money & told him he should go talk to the attorney since he had time. He gets mad & tells me that he isn't doing it today, he will deal with it later. Everytime I mention it, he changes the subject or gets mad!! I understand its not my place, but what should I do? I don't feel he can commit to me if still married.

2006-11-29 05:08:44 · 36 answers · asked by flowergirlsdy 2

ok lets face it we've all done it and some of us still do . and those who say never ,,,,LIEING,,,,, so ladies why is it if you catch your man doing it you get pissed or mad????? sometimes we all nedd a little self relaxation. i'm sure you do it too.

2006-11-29 05:08:32 · 12 answers · asked by Rooster 3

My wife and I have been married over a year & been living together for 3 yrs. We met at work. Problem is that I have been in love with another of our co-workers and good friends for several years (before I met my wife).
I do love and care about my wife and don't want to hurt her, but I'm not in love with her. My wife and her have become good friends the past few years, she was a bridesmaid in our wedding. I've never told anyone I feel this way and the stress of the secret is starting to overwhelm my thoughts.
Our friend has been with the same man since I've known her, who happens to be an alcoholic & treats her like crap. She's never been "single" so I've never really had the opportunity to ask her out, I had given up on trying to be with her, which is when I met my wife and we started dating. Her boyfriend is out of the picture now & I think she may have feelings for me. I don't want to ruin our friendship or hurt my wife, but I don't want to live wondering what might have been. Help

2006-11-29 05:04:41 · 9 answers · asked by J Walker 1

I met a girl and fell in love with her. The only problem was that we are of two separate races. Are relationship was so good and intense. I asked her to marry me and she said yes. Then her family found out about me (minus the proposal). Now she keeps telling me that she doesn't know what she wants, she doesn't think she want s to commit, and that maybe she would like to be with a man of her own race. I keep telling her not to push me too far away. She tells me that I am the best guy and that she loves how I love her, but then when family step in she gives in. She has made her mind up that she wants to be with me three times now. Each time lasts until someone inluences her. She is a people pleaser and doesn't want to do things against her parents wishes. Now my heart is broke but I'm still doing the fighting for us, but I want to know is there any hope left in this case?

2006-11-29 04:58:34 · 16 answers · asked by TheT 2

I let my husband look at porn, masterbate, watch T.V. and all that other stuff. What I ment by boobs in his face, was if I walked in the room and he was with another woman, not touching her, she was just naked and in his face I would consider that cheating. I have been to a strip club, they aren't that bad if your not sitting right at the stage or getting a lap dance. But in the situation of the women being in my husbands face, I think it's cheating. Do you think it's strange to go with him? He doesn't even go, it's just come up before. We went once while we were dating. And no it wasn't that bad, and I wouldn't care if I went with him.

2006-11-29 04:57:49 · 24 answers · asked by Regina D 1

old ?married ten years,and now its time to move on but my little guy is crushed about the idea of having to sell the house its always been home.in florida can a wife stay in the house until the child is 18 if i can make the payment? mysoon to be ex wants to sell it and wants his share,im not sure what to do

2006-11-29 04:43:25 · 3 answers · asked by resigned 5

My bf and i have been together three years i am 22 and he is 26 years old.His family is well off to put it lightly and he went to hardvard . I went to rutgers and then NYU and my family is upper middle class hard working.Recently we have started to talk about marriage but i am not really sure.He travels a lot and is obsessed with his job and we do not spend that much time together anymore. He buys me expensive bags, jewelry, new car for my b-day this year, and gives me his credit card when i go shopping.I have a job and it makes me feel usless when he pays for everything but if i say anything he get offended. He told me when we get married i need to change my wardrobe, find new friends, and take an etiquette classes to prefect my skills.Whenever we go out i feel like i am on parade and being spoken to as if i were a child.He never used to be like this and now i feel like i cant talk to him or i dont know how?I feel guilty for having feelings for another guy.

2006-11-29 04:42:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I told my husband that I think him going to a strip club would be the same as him cheating on me. There are naked women there that put their "parts" in mens faces. If I found out that my husband went that's how I would look at it....cheating. So many women are ok with this though. If I walked into a room on a normal day and saw boobs in my husbands face, I would think it was cheating so what's the difference, What do you guys think? Some of my friends think that that's too harsh. Either way that's how I feel. Just wanted some input.

2006-11-29 04:41:35 · 45 answers · asked by Regina D 1

1) what percentage of what age group marry to have kids?
2) What percentage of what age group of men marry for companionship ?

2006-11-29 04:32:48 · 7 answers · asked by Bachelor boy 2

I am not married, but have been with this man for 9 years.. I was having problems with perimenopause and yelling and screaming a lot.. I was a witch... Just found out he visited a massage parlor complete with happy ending and has been on the internet at his work with porn sites and dating services... Swears its over.. I have problems with forgiveness right now... NEVER ever would have expected this.. Tolerated low testosterone problems in the past and never thought of cheating myself.. He said it was a mistake and will never happen again.. I have trust issues.. He is wonderful with my children and was generally a very stable person.,.. Help!!!

2006-11-29 04:32:32 · 9 answers · asked by Its me!!! :) 4

I am not married, but have been with this man for 9 years.. I was having problems with perimenopause and yelling and screaming a lot.. I was a witch... Just found out he visited a massage parlor complete with happy ending and has been on the internet at his work with porn sites and dating services... Swears its over.. I have problems with forgiveness right now... NEVER ever would have expected this.. Tolerated low testosterone problems in the past and never thought of cheating myself.. He said it was a mistake and will never happen again.. I have trust issues.. He is wonderful with my children and was generally a very stable person.,.. Help!!!

2006-11-29 04:32:10 · 3 answers · asked by Its me!!! :) 4

My wife and I are separated. Things started getting better.

Then we had an arguement over the phone and she swore on her baby cousin that she wouldn't call me again. She emailed that he's ill now and she feels guilty.

Now, instead of calling me, she's been emailing me to call her and sending me text messages.

I called her and left a message that it's ok to call and her words have nothing to do with him.

She text me again and I told her "no more texts and emails, use the phone". She text me again to call her and I said "no".

What's happening here?

2006-11-29 04:31:53 · 9 answers · asked by Sexual Chocolate 1

2006-11-29 04:30:03 · 7 answers · asked by tracy r 1

How long have you been married? If the love died, how did it die? Why are you staying in the marriage if it is dead? How do you bring love back to life again?

2006-11-29 04:29:08 · 17 answers · asked by :-) literary cappy 4

Someone left a comment on another question of mine that my marriage could be made stronger. MY EA was my first love and I never felt those intense feelings I had with him with my husband. How do you fall in love with your spouse again, and it be more existant than before?

My husband and I have had a lot of differences over the years. The biggest problem we have had is a lack of communication, and no common interests except our children. Now we work opposite schedules and hardley see each other. We have been married for 13 years and have two children.

2006-11-29 04:27:02 · 15 answers · asked by :-) literary cappy 4

my mail man is realy hot! and hubby works all the time he would never know. If you could cheat without signifigant other ever finding out would you.

2006-11-29 04:26:27 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-29 04:17:23 · 16 answers · asked by a_lot_smarter_now 4

she has no concept of how much money she spends, where she spends it and what bills she should be paying and when. she's now overdrafted her checking account twice in two months, the first time it happened i advanced her $125 (which she still can't afford to pay me back yet). we're going to get married, i don't want this to come between us. she doesn't do it on purpose, she's just ignorant on finance management. I really want to just demand to take over all of our finances and take control of her accounts, but she also needs to learn this for herself and grow up, she has a horrible pride-streak that prevents her from seeking help on her own. please help

2006-11-29 04:16:20 · 13 answers · asked by Spudnic 3

he said that he doesnt know why he did it he said he thinks he was maybe in love at first site but it would have never worked because he couldnt stop thinking about us and our family, but he also said maybe it could have been that we were having problems and he needed attention or something he saw in her he didnt think he was getting from me ( we just had a baby 8 months ago).

2006-11-29 04:08:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been seperated from my wife for nearly a year and someone told me that if your seperated for 2 years the marriage gets disolved without a divorce does anyone know if this is true

2006-11-29 04:07:12 · 19 answers · asked by areyou_looking_atme 2