Strip Clubs cheating? Do you agree with me?

Question

I told my husband that I think him going to a strip club would be the same as him cheating on me. There are naked women there that put their "parts" in mens faces. If I found out that my husband went that's how I would look at it....cheating. So many women are ok with this though. If I walked into a room on a normal day and saw boobs in my husbands face, I would think it was cheating so what's the difference, What do you guys think? Some of my friends think that that's too harsh. Either way that's how I feel. Just wanted some input.

Answer 1

Strip clubs are not cheating.

Lap dances in private rooms might be pushing the boundaries.
Men like to LOOK, but it doesn't mean they are cheating, it means you are insecure.

Now, if he goes after you express a wish that he doens't - it still isn't cheating, but it is disrespectful - and you can't have a good marriage without mutual respect.

Answer 2

I agree with you 100%. And I am even a male. Exactly, what would be the difference if you came home and he had a set a boobs in his face. I think you should have a long talk with him about this. Also give him a few examples of what you could do. Or bertter yet, maybe this Friday night, you need to make plans with him, and then at the last minute, tell him you can't go because your girlfriends are picking you up and you are all going to see the male stripper tonight. You don't really have to go, but go somewhere with your friends and let him sit home alone and think about it for the evening. If that still does not knock some sense in his nogging, maybe you have to explain in more detail about how he would feel if he came home and some man was in his house swinging his tool in your face.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you. It must be a real feeling of distrust when you husband can not respect your wishes on this matter, and quite honestly, it will cause bitter feeling between the two of you to the point of where you will want to leave him if he does not shape up. As I said, I am a male and I did go to a few strip clubs before I met my wife, but after I met her, I refuesd to go to them when my friends wanted to out of respect for my wife. Besides, YES, the thought did cross my mind that if I went, what would stop her from going, and to be very honestly, I would not appreciate that one bit!

Answer 3

I understand what you are saying but realize that if you're not stripping for him at home and giving him a reason to get hot and bothered then he is going to go look somewhere else. Why don't you try acting like a stripper at home for him. Throw your money maker in his face and give him a reason to stick his tongue out. Throw some whipped cream down there and tell him it is a bananna split. We often forget as wives the reason why our husbands fell in love with us. Just cause you got the man doesn't mean you blow out the flames. Also remember trust plays a major part in our lives as well. Trust that when your husband goes out that he is doing the right thing. Don't automatically assume he is doing what every other man does.

Answer 4

I think it's cheating! I'm glad my husband doesn't go to strip clubs. Why would a man have to go to the strip club anyway??? If he's married, he already have someone at home he can look at. I feel the same way you do.

Answer 5

I used to be a stripper while I put myself through college, and I'd ring my husband's NECK if I caught him in one of those places. Truth be told, I know what happens, there, and it IS NOT just dancing.

There are girls willing to give a BJ for $50.00. Don't believe it? Check on that. I'm not kidding you. There are also your strain of drug addicts that will be more than happy to "satisfy" your husband to get their next bump or rock. You should look into that before you're so quick to take people's advice that it's okay.

If your husband is a strong man, and you two are not going through a rough patch, I would say that it's not as risky... If you think, though, that he would EVER cheat on you, I wouldn't let him go. Those opportunities will be there... Even if he doesn't stick it in, for an extra $20.00 per table dance, some of the girls will let him, um, "play".

Answer 6

I'd say no. But if you have insecurities about him going to a place such as a strip club, then he should be willing to avoid doing this for your sake. But if your are secure in your relationship, then being entertained like this every now and then should not be a problem. If he is lying about it though, then you know it is an issue.

Good luck!!

Answer 7

I would not consider it cheating only because those girls are only after his money. It has nothing to do with his sparkling personality or good looks. They don't want him in other words. He is a fool for throwing his money away on that, and that would upset me. If he knows how it makes you feel, he should respect your feelings enough to not go. Turn it around on him, ask how he would feel if you went to a male strip club, had a pecker shaken in your face then fed the guy $50. Is that okay honey???

Answer 8

To me, cheating is a boundry that's set by the people in a relationship. If you feel that going to a strip club, constitutes him cheating, then he needs to not go to strip clubs out of respect for your feelings...regardless of his views on the subject. To other people in society, they may not view it that way...but their view isn't what's important. What's important is how you feel about the subject, and how the action makes you feel as his wife. If you don't like it, then he needs to stop.

Answer 9

Geeze how much more uptight can you be? Yeah, keep that strangle hold on him, so that he feels he has to lie and cheat to have some fun. You are directly driving him into the arms of another woman. Mark my words.

First off, anything he does that he is not open about I would consider cheating. If he goes to play poker, lies about it, he's cheating on you. He could have played poker with you, but he wanted a distraction. A man should not feel he has to lie to his wife about what he wants to do.

Second, the chances of your husband scoring at a strip club are ZERO. Strippers have no interest in sex from your husband. They want his MONEY. That's all. He's a walking ATM machine. Now, if he went out to a regular bar, stuck up a conversation with a woman, bought her a few drinks, there is much better chance he'd wind up in her bed than with a stripper. Oh, and it would probably be cheaper that way, so think of the money he'd save.

MEN LIKE TO LOOK AT NAKED HOT CHICKS. It really is that simple. If you weren't so henpecking and controlling, he might just come home from the strip club all sexed up and give you a night of passion you would enjoy, but the way it is now, he sneaks home, and likely takes care of himself in the bathroom in secret afraid you'll find out.

Answer 10

By the same logic, is pornography cheating? Masturbation? If he happens to notice an attractive girl... cheating? If you do consider that cheating, thats fine... Im just playing Devils Advocate.

If anything, I would think that would help your sex life. He goes to the club, gets all excited and goes home to have great sex with you. Thats just the way men are, its science. We are visually stimulated. Its like restricting women from shopping.

Answer 11

Him going to a strip bar alone would be cheating, if we go there together that would be fine. I do understand that men likes to look at women (naked!), thats why when we have time I do invite him to go with me and he is ok with it. Try asking him that you go together.