he said that he doesnt know why he did it he said he thinks he was maybe in love at first site but it would have never worked because he couldnt stop thinking about us and our family, but he also said maybe it could have been that we were having problems and he needed attention or something he saw in her he didnt think he was getting from me ( we just had a baby 8 months ago).
2006-11-29 04:08:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
men think with their *****
2006-11-29 04:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and him a favor and realize that most men are only as faithful as their options. I don't mean this to be denegrating, or demeaning of either men or women. However, you must always understand that man, that is humans are only placed within this moral condition due to an outdated moral concept generated by the various religous and social orders over the ages. The notion of fidelity is based upon the premise of property, as if one human can truly own another.
Please understand I am not trying to give him an excuse, nor am I trying to take sides. I am saying only that true and real love must be unconditional. If it is real it cannot be cast aside with the slip-up of a partner, especially over such an antiquated concept as whether or not sex was involved. Sex is always involved, in everything, either the physical act, or the thought, or the visually pleasing attributes of another. If you base your love on any concept beyond the true feelings you have for this person, then you do yourself and him an injustice. This must go both ways though, there can be no basis for love, beyond love.
Were I you I would examine the basis of my love for him, if you find yourself unable to love him without condition, then you should not be mated. However, if your love is true, genuine and unconditional, then any foibles, dalliances, or other physical problems that get in the way should not affect the love. That being said, let me continue that most people do not love unconditionally, nor do they in many cases understand or examine the basis of their love. I cannot advise you truly, it is up to you, your conscience, and your ability to forgive. Remember always that words are just the face of meaning, and that you must place the values on each word spoken using actions to give them weight. All the best to you.
2006-11-29 12:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil would say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater". How can he know? "The best indicator of future actions is past ones". cliche'cliche'cliche'. The most important factor is this: How important is manogomy to you? If it's NOT the most important thing in the marriage to you, you will forgive and move on until you can't forgive again. If on the other hand it's a deal breaker and to "cheat" is love's death sentence; then show him the door; and get a head start on the healing process.
2006-11-29 12:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will give you a guy's perspective. Guys like different things to keep them interested. I have always found that sex is a really big issue and unfortunately the glamor of its initial beginning wears off pretty quickly. I do not know if it is that way for women, but it is for men. It seems that guys are searching for something. Guys generally have fantasies and therein lies an important thing. They usually do not share these with anyone unless they can pick up vibes that their fantasies are shared by their mate, ie, their mate has the same ones. When that happens, you will find eternal sexual bliss.
2006-11-29 12:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tony T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is missing something....Maybe you need to communicate better with each other.... I have friends that have cheat and the reason they said they do it is because they can and I tell them thats not a good answer and you will lose everything if you dont smarten up. Good luck
2006-11-29 12:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by Quinton S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men want & need attention and affection just as bad as children. You're probably focusing on the baby and he is a little jealous. HE WILL DO IT AGAIN! LET HIM GO!!! GET YOUR SELF ESTEEM BACK from having that baby and make him regret every single thing he has EVER done........
2006-11-29 15:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by wondermom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's finding something that he cant' see in you that he sees in that another woman. I know its hard to trust to someone especially that he cheated you once. But for the sake of the baby, try to give him another chance. And talk to him, ask him what does he want that is still missing in you. Try to be the best wife you can for your husband. But if he cheats again, then it's over. And good if your marriage works for the best! Good luck
2006-11-29 12:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by aNGie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they get obsessed very easily by a new body at work or the bar or where ever. Any distraction to take them away from reality is what they want. Of course all men are pigs and I believe 98% of men cheat.
2006-11-29 12:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by maggee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for cheating, regardless of the heap of garbage he's feeding you.
He's done it once, and there's a very good chance that he'll do it again. If he starts to think that you will take him back if he cheats, eventually, he'll do it whenever he wants, and you will just "have to deal with it".
Show him how easy it is to walk away.
2006-11-29 12:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear LYN....you really want the answer? I mean honest to God up front real truth? Okay..here it is. It affords the oppurtunity for a man (or woman) to get a piece of as* that is not normally available to them. plus its an enormous boost to one's ego because lets face it...we all like to be liked, admired and considered attractive to someone else.
So...in a nutshell...makes our egos feel great and its sex, sex, sex. Thats all. nothing more. Not love...not "you don't pay attention to me"...none of that crap...period. Anyone who tells you anything different is a liar.
"maybe he needed attention or saw something he wasn't getting from you" What a crock of sh*t. Madam.....your husband is a jerk-off. Make it your last baby from him and to ensure so kick him square in the balls. Worthless cad.
'Nuff said
2006-11-29 12:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After all he's just a man! (Loretta Lynn)
You've come to tell me something you say I ought to know
That he don't love me anymore and I'll have to let him go
You say you're gonna take him oh but I don't think you can
Cause you ain't woman enough to take my man
Women like you they're a dime a dozen you can buy 'em anywhere
For you to get to him I'd have to move over and I'm gonna stand right here
It'll be over my dead body so get out while you can
Cause you ain't woman enough to take my man
[ dobro ]
Sometimes a man start lookin' at things that he don't need
He took a second look at you but he's in love with me
Well I don't know where they leave you oh but I know where I'll stand
And you ain't woman enough to take my man
Women like you they're a dime...
No you ain't woman enough to take my man
2006-11-29 12:18:19 · answer #11 · answered by lifewriter2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋