Marriage & Divorce - 29 November 2006

I am wondering what to do? My soon to be ex-husband has partical custody of our son, and last year he had him for thanksgiving, christmas and new years. No this year he gave me an altimatum about this upcomming holiday, he either gets him for one or the other. I do not think this is fair. I need some real advice, no bullshit. Thank you for your help!!

2006-11-29 10:59:40 · 15 answers · asked by jamielynn3517@yahoo.com 2

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We live together, and have both met the important family and friends in each others lives. Christmas time is upon us, and I find myself a little bit lost as to how I would sign the Christmas cards this year. We are both divorced with children from our first marriages. My children live with us in one city. His children live about 800 miles away with their mother. Our children have spent some time together, as much as distance will permit. I have an amicable relationship with his ex-wife and I love his children as my own. My question is, how to sign the card? One suggestion a co-worker gave me was Him, Me and the Kids. I'm not sure if putting all the children's name would be okay. Please let me know what you think. THank you.

2006-11-29 10:55:42 · 26 answers · asked by answrsplz 1

I just need to know if anyone else has ever so goal focosed that they can always only think of how to better a situation?
I am married with 3 children. I haven't noticed all at once, and I don't how I let it happen or go on for so long, but ever since my I stared my own business, everthing takes second place. I don't hang out with anyone, & seem to exclude everyone who is closest to me , but can always make time gfor a customer. I Truly don't remember how to have fun. Even when work should be over I search for ways to improve the financial situation which is never good.
How do I lift this horrible burder of never being able to focus on anything else. It seems like I can't concentrate on anything else in a very bad way. I love my family, but I think I have practicaly ran my husband away. He says I never want to do anything and he is right. He and my kids are to the point of not even asking anymore.
Please if anybody has gone through this before, please help me find a soluton.

2006-11-29 10:51:35 · 8 answers · asked by Ruthie38 2

My hubby got an inheritence from his father when he died. So he caught up all the Bills and purchased new vehicles plus bought new furnishings for the house. I need some extension dental work done so he is taking care of that. He also bought me and our daughter new glasses and then bought her contacts to. With all this said he did this because he wanted to or thats what he told me at the time.
Now he's saying since the money is almost gone I am not happy with him. Which is not true. He has changed since all of this has taken place. I have told him money doesn't mean anything to me but he refuses to listen to my facts ..He has his own logic,. This is driving me nuts what should I do...
I only want serious answers ..this is something I need to know.

2006-11-29 10:50:47 · 15 answers · asked by curious_59 3

2006-11-29 10:48:13 · 11 answers · asked by tritran5555(poetri) 5

I did try to sell it, but there are so many on e-bay that I didn't get one bid! Consignment shops around here don't take them. I put it on for kicks and I really do love it. It would make a great "little black dress" if I could get it altered and dyed, but I don't know where to find a service to do that.

2006-11-29 10:40:04 · 20 answers · asked by Robin Blue 1

We married in June 2006. I came into the marriage with doubts because he behaved in a controlling manner while we dated and especially around his own family when they came from a foreign country to visit us and be a part of the wedding. At times things are good between us, but at many other times he becomes anxious about bills, money, and either my "lack of organization" (meaning my method is not to his liking) or my "irresponsibility" (not calling a service provider right away like when I just get home after work tired, open a letter and barely read it), or even yet, my failure to put his needs above and beyond my commitments to my mother or brothers. I'm tired of feeling so controlled.

2006-11-29 10:36:51 · 8 answers · asked by El Pajaro Loco 3

2006-11-29 10:27:26 · 25 answers · asked by kramer 1

I really need some advice from you . Im 19 years old and my husband is 21. Our marriage is okay but he looks at internet porn when i leave the house. Even if we have sex he will still look at it and "pleasure himself". I asked him to not do it, he said he wouldnt. Then i found out he was lying to me about it and I dont know how to get through this. I even tell him that im open to anything he wants to do but it still doesnt help. Should i tell the man that I love to choose between porn or the relationship?

2006-11-29 10:23:37 · 38 answers · asked by cutiepie21106 1

I don’t know what to do! Does this help the marriage? I’m thinking its only going to make me hate him.

2006-11-29 10:23:17 · 15 answers · asked by lostlove 1

2006-11-29 10:19:50 · 9 answers · asked by hulyaagoz 1

My husband always says I only have loved 3 woman .My xwife,my mom,and you! Gee thanx what do you think of that?

2006-11-29 10:16:17 · 14 answers · asked by jessy 3

2006-11-29 10:12:10 · 12 answers · asked by kramer 1

I mean they left at one point ..said they were done...then for whatever reason...they come back..maybe even after filing...has it happened?

2006-11-29 10:08:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

December is always a tough month for me as far as gifts for my wife, because her birthday is 2 weeks before Christmas, and I'm doing something VERY special for her for her birthday, but I want to get her something very special for Christmas as well, any ideas about what I could get her for Christmas?

2006-11-29 10:02:29 · 37 answers · asked by Bryan M 5

I was told there was financial aid for people who need but afford divorces where and how can I find information?

2006-11-29 10:00:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've just recently started to feel like a robot doing the same thing day in and day out. I want to put a little spice back in our lives. I'm 18 with a one month old child, my husband is in the Marine Corps and we are away from our family. So we just can't drop her off at grandma's house and go out. What are something you do to keep your life alive and fun.

2006-11-29 09:59:39 · 8 answers · asked by MarineCorpsWife 2

i love my boyfriend with all my heart, but im 18 years old and i want to be able to hang out with friends, and do my own thing when i please. not on his terms. i live with him so he feels hes in complete control of me, i just want to live my life and be a party animal while i still can before i grow up and have to be a serious adult for the rest of my life. he doesnt have much of a life for himself, other than me, which is why its so hard for me to just tell him. but with the way he thinks, i know when and if i bring this up, he will think im trying to break up with him and just want to be single to mingle and do my own thing without him...but thats not it at all.....on top of that im sick of all my friends being able to buy nice clothes for themselves etc, and i have to worry about grocries and rent bcz i live with my boyfriend who always needs help with the bills...please someone help me i love this guy but i cant be with him without losing myself......

2006-11-29 09:51:20 · 22 answers · asked by samsam 1

We have only been married ten months. We had a fight over something stupid (I don't even rember what) but he went out and got drunk with some friends(who for the record have wanted to do a threesome with him) while he was drunk at their house they planned a way to get him involved and he had sex with the women. I don't know what to do, I cant' afford financially a divorce but my trust is no longer in him. Help

2006-11-29 09:50:55 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby is going on a business trip tomorrow for one week.I am pregnant with my 3rd but he would not even touch me or show me any affection.He treats me like the volunteer live in housekeeper/babysitter.I know he has other women in his life and its getting really hard not to go ballistic about it.I love him very much.Now he wants to pack his suitcase because he's going out.When Iasked him where he said to mind my own business.
I use to be so sharp tongued and that had once gotten him to end his first affair but now its like he just does not seem to care about how our family will be affected by his behavior.He hasn't touched me in months

2006-11-29 09:49:09 · 33 answers · asked by JUSEve 2

I really don't know the guy I am getting married to, it is our tradition that our family select the perfect groom for us. I am in love with someone else I have been with him since 8 months. He loves me too but he works in a sensitive politic position that he is not aloud to get married to any lady that has a parent from certain countries, as my mum she is from one of these countries, we can get married. The thing is till when we will be like this??? I am just confused I need some advice.

2006-11-29 09:47:32 · 13 answers · asked by JO JO 1

Sometimes married people form friendships that are not 'work related' with peope at work without the knowledge of their spouse. I have heard of SOOO many infidelities coming out of these situations and I feel they are innapropriate. What do you think?

2006-11-29 09:47:11 · 19 answers · asked by Bet S 1

I am currently in the process of a seperation, her decision not mine. She had pulled away from me and from our son for a few months while I was starting our business and was not working. This caused many fight and led to me getting some serious depression, which lead me down very dark path in my life and I had said and done things that were very hurtful to our marriage. My wife has recently told me that she does not love me and that she has not been in love with me for a long time and that is why she has been pulling away. She had metioned alot of our "small problems" that had been occuring for the past 3 1/2 years and has told me that she beieves that she was acting that way becuase of her inablity to show love. We had split and both moved on a few years ago and she came back to me out of the blue and I took her back. So my question is if did not feel any love towards me why did she come back in the first place and why didn't she leave before we got married, had a son, etc?

2006-11-29 09:45:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 2 boys 13 and 15 have been residing in Florida for the past 2 and 1/2 years and when I told there father that I would be picking them up he filed papers so that I could not take them out of the state. I have sole and legal custody of them and have raised them except for the past 2 years. He has spent months in jail for domestic violence against me in California. What are my options?

2006-11-29 09:44:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband e-mails her and she e-mails him constantly. He doesn't know that I know about the e-mails. He tells her he wishes he could hold her. This has been going on for about 6 months. The other twist to all of this crap is she tells him constantly that she wants to be with him and that she's single. But I have proof she's been married for almost a year now.

Do i contact her husband and send him copies of the e-mails? I'm going to leave my husband as it is.

2006-11-29 09:39:44 · 15 answers · asked by sarah m 1

2006-11-29 09:34:58 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-29 09:33:31 · 8 answers · asked by dr steveo 1

when do you think is the best time to start dating after a divorce? my husband is divorcing me and says i should start dating right away

2006-11-29 09:29:34 · 13 answers · asked by m 1

I find my wife, makes statements like " you never ect ect " or " you always do this or that.
In reality, what she really wants is me to pay attention to her,at that time. but why cant she just come out and say it , without the blaming, or malipulation

2006-11-29 09:27:27 · 14 answers · asked by tommytwotone 2

We were married for 15 days when I left India. After 3 months I called my wife abroad. While she stayed in India she lived with my mother. When she came here she started stealing small things from my uncle's house (we stay close to each other) and I caught her doing so. Then after 3 months I found out that she had stolen large amounts from my mother's and sister's house in India too. She tried to commit suicide when I scolded her once. I even got to know that she had some relationship with guys while she stayed in India after marriage. Now I have sent her back to India and am seeking divorce. The girl refuses to give me divorce. How do I get one? Can I claim damages too? Altough i won't accept it but just to make my case strong. thanks

2006-11-29 09:19:11 · 8 answers · asked by indiguy 1