I don’t know what to do! Does this help the marriage? I’m thinking its only going to make me hate him.
2006-11-29 10:23:17 · 15 answers · asked by lostlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seperation always leads to divorce most of the time. Try to stay friends with him during the seperation to help things try to get back
2006-11-29 10:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by cutiepie21106 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately majority of the time this happens its the beginning of the end. Your husband probably reached a point in your marriage where hes thinking "is this all there is?" and is trying to see if he wants to stay married or be single again. This is probably not your fault, but the honeymoon period of your marriage is over and reality of married life with all its stress and challenges are setting in and he didnt plan on married life being like this so hes discouraged and trying to figure out what to do next. There is a possibility that he will discover he is actually better off with you and return, but this will always be in your mind and will wonder if it will happen again whenever he cant deal with life. You probably wont have much choice but to go along with this as you wont be able to force him to stay. He needs his time to get his priorities in order and decide for himself. Just let him know that youll be available to talk if he wants. But just in case prepare for the worse and develop an alternate plan to fall back on and this could take some time. I wish I had a better answer for you but this is real and reality isnt always pretty, but wish you the best of luck no matter what happens
2006-11-29 11:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants a divorce, cause he has found someone else, and really there is nothing that can be done about it, just can't hold on to someone who doesn't want to be there.it is hard to loose what u know, to loose our love and security, and what we know. best to give him what he wants. to fight it with logic will do no good, as he can't see what's in your heart, or how much u love him. all he can see is his own selfish impulses. separation doesn't help a thing, it's basically just running away from it. u need to get some help with this, a trusted friend, or family member, maybe a support group at your church. in life good people who haven't done a thing to deserve it get hurt. first u got to accept it for what it really is, not be in denial about it, or think he will come home in a while, rarely works that way. if he were interested in reconciliation he would have suggested marriage counciling.
2006-11-29 11:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you can give it one more trial by seeking professional help. You can spend more quality times together. Go out and do something fun, be creative and always remind him how much you love him.
Sometimes people may not know what they have until they loose it. If a person lets a bird loose or even if its the bird that lets itself loose but keeps coming back to the owner, it may mean that the birds home belongs there if not, it was not mean't to be and live must go on.
This is just a subjective opinion which in itself may not necesarily address your concern but I hope it can help. If you have faith belief, you can express it together, sometimes, we don't even think about it.
2006-11-29 10:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your right!....seperation isnt always the best thing to decide. If you seperate and get back together, you may end up resenting him. Dont rty to keep a man who doesnt want to be kept, you are only gonna hate him for not wanting you in the way you need to be wanted. Many other men may appreciate your company more than him right now aneway!....drop the zero and find your hero! good luck!
2006-11-29 10:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear this But really, what can you do? If you convince him to stay now, he'll eventually leave anyway. I would imagine that there is another reason or situation into play.....most probably another woman. So start thinking, now is the time you need to think about you, and if you have children, then you'll need to think of them also. Think out things throughly, and don't make any quick decisions. Best of luck to you...........
2006-11-29 10:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to f**k someone else.
Hang in there, no room for hate, well, for a long period anyway.
You can't stop people from doing what they want to do, if he wants a separate and you told him that you would rather stay together and work it out with counseling and he still said "No", then what are you going to do? You are going to let him leave, there is nothing else you can do.
keep in touch with your family and friends during this time and keep up with your self-esteem.
2006-11-29 10:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't keep someone who wants to go. Let him go.
You never know, the grass could be greener on the other side of this.
2006-11-29 10:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same thing, except now he is wanting to divorce. that is what is going to happen, just prepare yourself
2006-11-29 11:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help if we knew why he wanted a separation. Can you provide more details?
2006-11-29 10:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋