My husband e-mails her and she e-mails him constantly. He doesn't know that I know about the e-mails. He tells her he wishes he could hold her. This has been going on for about 6 months. The other twist to all of this crap is she tells him constantly that she wants to be with him and that she's single. But I have proof she's been married for almost a year now.
Do i contact her husband and send him copies of the e-mails? I'm going to leave my husband as it is.
2006-11-29 09:39:44 · 15 answers · asked by sarah m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you are going to leave your husband anyway than I would definitely contact her husband and send him copies of the e-mails...good luck, it's gonna get ugly
2006-11-29 09:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I think that if I was you, I would have some serious fun with this. As you have said you are leaving him anyway and I assume it is because you found out that he was cheating on you. You apparently have a lot of proof on your hands right now and that is good, I assume that is what you have been gathering for the last 6 months. What I would do is make at least 3 copies of the emails that they have been sending back an forth to each other. One for her husband, one for your husband, and one for your own records. I would also get what ever proof it is that you have that she is in fact married and get 2 copies of that as well, one for your husband and one for your own records.
When the time comes for you to leave him, I would mail her husband the copies of the emails, to his work so that she will not be able to get them first, leaving no forwarding address as you don't want him to know where they came from.
Leave a copy of the emails and the proof that she is married behind for you husband to find, so when he comes home to an empty house, he will know why you left him.
I wish you the best of luck in what ever happens. I just wish there was a lot more of you out there. You are like me, as I don't believe in cheating at all. Since your husband is thinking that the grass is greener on the other side where he was before, let him have it back, with a little twist to it that is. Have fun!
2006-11-29 10:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be straight forward with him and tell him that you know about his indiscretions. There are too many incurable diseases out there that are being passed onto faithful spouses. Seek counsel for yourself right away and invite him to go to council, he needs to address his own issues and recognize he is not only hurting you but himself. He is abusive psychologically.
He's a Carrot Dangler
This other woman needs to ask herself a few questions: If he is doing this to you, what on earth does she think he will do for her? She is attracted to someone she knows she will not ever have in spirit or emotionally.
Have some solice in knowing that she is opening the door for him to do the same thing to her or worse. She is giving him permission to walk all over her. He's using the both of you.
2006-11-29 10:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait that long it will be like cheating at your own home!!!
So confront him and her too so she can know that you know about this and her husband can find out because of you !!! And I wwill also leave and move out because he has NO respect at all for your and the relationship, so why still be with him, you will no longer trust him even thougth there are only e-mails as far as you know!!! So let them both know that you know about the e-mails & get proofs just in case you need them in the future GOOD LUCK !!!
2006-11-29 09:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're a class act, you'll just excuse yourself from the mess and just leave, and file or tell him to. If he asks, as mine did, I just asked in return if the marriage was crowded. When he denied it, I said, 'I don't think so' and left it at that (It all came out later, but hey, the trust was gone)....told him to file, I'd sign anything, he could tell his friends whatever since I was leaving the state. It's a mess, anyway, don't lower yourself to their level, nor tell him you have seen the e-mails
2006-11-29 09:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why give them what they want, you would be doing them, I should say HER a favor by giving her husband the proof to divorce her. Don't help her be free to be with your husband.
2006-11-29 11:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would confront your husband, tell him you know about the corresponsences with his ex wife, and let him know that she is indeed married, IF you have solid evidence that she is. Sending copies of emails to her husband lowers you down to her level, and your husbands level. Don't waste your time. If she's married, and cheating, her hubby will find out eventually.
2006-11-29 09:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hell, yeah you should send it to her husband! I reckon if she wants to be a home wrecker, you can do the same.
At this point, I don't think that you have anything to lose, anyways. She, however, will lose her ability to take her cake and eat it, too.
2006-11-29 09:50:04 · answer #8 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would, he needs to know as well, but do it anonymously unless you want your husband to know that you know. Good luck in the future.
2006-11-29 09:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes send him copies to see he what her wife is doing,then talk to your husband what's going on,if he means seriously what talks with her ex,ore that is just waisting time?!
2006-11-29 09:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by miki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋