2006-11-29 10:27:26 · 25 answers · asked by kramer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uhm, let me weigh the pros and cons of that:
Cons: I hurt my husband emotionally, damage our relationship, lose my self-respect, lose his respect and trust, possibly have to go through a divorce and drag my children thru it, break my vows that I made with him and GOD, live with the fact that the person that I had an affair did not want to take it further than just an affair, and potential health or pregnancy risk.
Pros: I had sex
I think I'd rather stay with my loving husband and have ten more years of a trustworthy, loving, respectful, completely satisfying marriage. I have a beautiful family why would I destroy that.
2006-11-29 11:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kramer? Are you married? Do you love your spouse? Did you take your vows seriously?
If you said yes to any of these questions then I do not understand why would you want to do such a thing to the person you stood up in front of family & friends as well as God and made such a promise and now all of a sudden ready to throw it all away for a fling that may never be nothing more.
That's what I would say to a person I thought was ready to have an affair but, was afriad to to. There's a reason why they are afraid, because in your hearts of hearts you know it's not right, How would you think or feel if you thought your wife was ready to do such a thing to you? and not to mention what it would do to your children and the family who loves and adore you.
I think I have said enough here, anymore questions?
I hope this question is just that, and not thoughts of really doing such a bad thing especially this time of year.................................
2006-11-29 18:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I admit it. I have thought about the excitement of having an affair. My husaband works hard and is loyal and caring, but not very exciting (in and out of the bedroom) or spontaneous, which are things I thrive on. So the excitement aspect of an affair intrigues me. Then I think of all I would lose if he found out and left me, and the guilt I would feel for being untrue to a very true man, and I can't go through with it. I just put my energies in to building my relationship with my husband rather than dreaming up an affair. It pays off, believe me!
2006-11-29 20:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone answering with their "It' so wrong because *I'm* so happy." Thats them. Their happy or they are afraid of lightning coming down once a vow is broken. I dont care about whether cheating is right, wrong, whatever. Cheating is not a black and white issue. The true question to address is WHY do you want to cheat? Are you unhappy in your marriage? Do you not get anough attention? Is it purely sexual or is it seeking affection as well? Take a look at your relationship and see if its what you want. If you dont want to lose it then you'll be happy to reassure yourself of it...and maybe do something sweet with your wife to put some spark back into it all, and if not, then you should leave the relationship before you go on a mission to complicate something that should already be up for a mercy-killing.
2006-11-29 21:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by uberzwitter67 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's very normal to fantasize about being with someone other than your spouse, especially if you have been with the same person for a long time or the marriage is rocky.
The problem is when you step over the line and turn the fantasy into reality.
It's darn good that there is fear to hold people back because if there was no fear, then the stepping over the line would be all to easy to do.
2006-11-29 18:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not want to have an affair. I am happily married with 3 lovely kids. Adding another man into life is like SUICIDE!
2006-11-29 18:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side of the fence. You made a vow, so be a man of integrity. If it happens, then it may happen again, and I feel eventually you'll get caught. It's not worth hurting the ones that you love, or that love you. It's also not worth giving them a disease. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-29 18:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No have no reason to have an affair, Pretty happy and content in my marriage.Anyhow why ruin my families life just to cheat, I would never want to put THEM in that position..They mean to much to me
2006-11-29 18:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Shem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple, NO. You love your spouse and don't want to lose them then dont do any bone head things becuase women do find out. It may not be today or tomorrow but we will find out.
Bare in mind any decisions you make affect everyone around you. So if you have a good thing don't mess it up.
2006-11-29 18:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about what you are saying **********
Ask that to your spouse?
1. To cut down problems don't think about it
2 If you Love the one your'r with don't think about it
3. If you don't want that to happen vice-virse don't think about it
4. If you can go to sleep at night and get up and get a kiss before you brush your teeth don't think about it.
5. If you have children and love them and want to set a good example for them don't think about it
6. If you have to go to deep prepration for the moment don't think about it.
In short: If you are not happy GET OUT FIRST.
2006-11-29 18:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by ocie w 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋