I know - crazy question. But here's why I ask. Eight months ago my husband (now ex) decided to separate - he said he was not happy. Two days later I find out (from his mom) that he was "in love" with a co-worker. I kicked him out and filed for divorce. Six weeks later he wrote me a letter telling me that he had made a mistake - that I was the one he loved and will always loved. I thought we could work things out. I was naive enough to believe that maybe he had not slept with this woman yet. I was wrong. Not only had he slept with her but they actually bought a house together! Needless to say we are now divorced. He is moving in that house with her this week. I have no idea why it bothers me still. I know he is with her, our son had been introduced to her - I am doing my best to move on. I think this still bothers me because the house represents the level of my ex's deception. Any thoughts? Or am I crazy??
2006-11-29 05:24:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you said it right there
"the house represents the level of my ex's deception"
....also it may be safer for you to have negative feelings toward an inanimate object than to have negative feelings for some-one you once loved....
you've suffered a great injustice, and it's hard to see people who have so greatly wronged us prosper and be happy....even tho we may not wish them harm, it still kind of messes with our ideas of justice and fairness......why do we do the right thing all the time and get hurt while these jerks do everything they aren't supposed to and they still get to live happily ever after??
one day you will look back on this event as something that you are grateful that happened, because your life will get so much better than it ever could have with some-one who was so uncaring to you
2006-11-29 05:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. How dare him to buy a house with her after asking you back. He is a definite loser and you are way better off without him. It bothers you because of the house. He was making final preparations with her and still being married to you. It's like a slap in the face to you. You could restrict her involvement with your son, and his too. Forget it, move on. Not even worth the anger. You divorced him which is the best thing you could of done. You are a strong woman. You WILL survive. Good luck.
2006-11-29 05:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the house represents what u should have had with him, in a way she stole your happiness, but u have to move on, and u have to forgive him, forgiveness is not to let him off the hook for the wrong he did u, it's for u, without forgiveness u will remain bitter and hurt. u have to release him from the expectation that he will ever be sorry or even realiaze the pain he has inflicted on u. the key is forgiving the sin he did, it is hard to even think after what they did to u that they now are prospering, while u are still hurting. but karma will come to them, u may not see it, but they will not find the happiness they seek. u are stuck in this bitterness, because u won't release the anger u feel. u are angry because u believed him when he said he had made a mistake, and u feel as if he made a fool of u. they will seem to do well, atleast for awhile but something will happen to them.
2006-11-29 13:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a couple of things: don't play with matches , have flammable liquids or access to earth moving equipment - bulldozers - in the vicinity of their house.
Just out of curiosity , were you and your husband still married at the time he bought the house with his gf ? If so would the house be considered a marital asset ? Would you then a legal right to a significant portion of the value of that house? just asking
2006-11-29 06:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, contact me I perform blessings on many homes as this removes the negative energy that is infusing the infrastructure of your home. The guy slept on you- that is a new one, your hate towards him will most likely manifest itself in a homicide. Seek out a strong pair of kitchen shears- used for cutting chicken bone and make sure the wretch never uses it again.
Enjoy the madness!
2006-11-29 05:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by RHJ Cortez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 08:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain you're feeling is normal. He lied to you, cheated on you, and bought a house with her......so, go ahead...HATE the house! You're not crazy......far from it!
2006-11-29 05:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negative vibes are never good for a house hold. It can be filled with your tension.
2006-11-29 05:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are NOT crazy. he bought a house with her and what, just "forgot" to mention that to you?
you are WAY better off without that guy!
2006-11-29 05:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋