Marriage & Divorce - 27 November 2006

2006-11-27 08:52:59 · 10 answers · asked by cookie 1

My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. We have both cheated at least three times on eachother. All of this came out in April when I told him I wanted a divorce. We have three children. The two older are his from an X, but bio mom talks to them about five times a year if they are lucky. I have been mom for the past 9 1/2 years (not legally). We decided to stay and try to work it out for everyone's best interest. Since then I have been able to accept the fact that he cheated and move past it, (after all I did the same thing, who am I to cast stones). He still has a problem with my cheating. Sometimes we are good and then sometimes he brings it up just to start arguments. I've tried to leave but can't bring myself to do it. I still care for him, but I don't see us together forever. I am afraid of causing more hurt than I have already caused. I'm also afraid of losing the two older children. I'm caught between what I want and what I should do.

2006-11-27 08:51:21 · 13 answers · asked by Chick 1

hi. need help with a dilemma. me & my ex split ages ago now & shes married now. we have a little daughter who is 5 & with christmas coming up, we buy each other presents 4 each other but write on the tag that its from our daughter (with me so far?) my dilemma is last year i spend £30 on her present (perfume) while she spent about £5 on me (the dreaded socks!) this year should i get her something cheap? or limit it to say a tenner? i dont want her husband to think im buying her expensive gifts (cos to tell you the truth i hardly speak 2 her) but i need 2 get her something from her daughter. i know its not about the cost but i didn,t think it was fair last year. thanks

2006-11-27 08:50:53 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-27 08:48:06 · 8 answers · asked by Kayla C 4

I want him to feel it, not just by me telling him.

2006-11-27 08:46:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hear my friends say there man doesnt hardly ever want sex like they use too.And we are the same age and want it.And no we all still look good at our age.Whats up?

2006-11-27 08:46:23 · 6 answers · asked by jessy 3

husbands old gf saw my husbands profile on my space(we both have one) and sent him a private msg and he responded.you could tell she still had a interest in him and he avoided any talk of me.i should have waited and let things play out to see what would have happened but after a week i had to say something to him.he played it off as no big deal but as soon as he was alone he deleted his account that he had for mons.when i asked him about it he said it was like a dating sight and all these people were sending him private msgs so he wanted out.my question is how come it never bothered him before and why would he not tell me he was chatting with his ex.this may look innocent but he has a history of cheating with this person.she broke-up his last marrage so this is why i'm concerned.

2006-11-27 08:43:35 · 18 answers · asked by jakievincent07 1

He has a three month old little boy that we are now getting to see. my ex mother inlaw has a issue with my daughter being around his son. she says that it is going to make my daughter resent me. If anyone has been in this situation before, please help me. I feel like slowly introducing her to him is the right way to do it. we only see him for an hour at time right now.

2006-11-27 08:40:24 · 15 answers · asked by mommy 2k 1

Okay, I know two people that have been seperated for over 3 years, now they want to get divorced, is there a quick and simple way of doing this?

2006-11-27 08:39:10 · 5 answers · asked by cuteshyghost 1

I don't undesrtand the concept of showing appreciation.
My husband runs his own business and pays all the bills and he says that I need to show appreciation for what he does.
I manage our house. (including the dogs) Plus I work part time for him without pay.
I'm also a full time college student and I'm always busy.
he wants me to work more at the house, making him special dinners all the time. I'm not even a cook. but I try. (actually, I hate the kitchen) but he wants me to go buy ingredients that we don't have late at night when I'm done for the day. He is into food and likes to be treated like a king. I don't give in all the time. I think that he is being abusive. He asks too much and he makes a mess in the house.

he says that I don't show appreciation and that I just don't get it.

2006-11-27 08:37:59 · 10 answers · asked by .... 1

I thing most of the time life is easy and we can make it happy but it is neglected and we remember the sad things and naging too much.Absulutely being positive in mind will help us to think more logicaly to improve us.

2006-11-27 08:36:13 · 8 answers · asked by mohamad b 1

With what you have accomplished in your life?

What would you do to make it better?

2006-11-27 08:34:35 · 19 answers · asked by BitchBox 2

2006-11-27 08:33:33 · 16 answers · asked by tysexy25 2

single women fighting to stay above water with child care expenses, bills and food.

2006-11-27 08:33:17 · 7 answers · asked by DNigg 1

she had an afair with a co-worker for about two months. she claims to have only slept with this guy once but has been to his house several times. while at his house she said they use to talk about her problems and he would try to console her. as the friendship grew so this the desire to be intimate with this young man. after trying 4 times she finnaly gave in to him. she claims that the young man couldn't keep an erection because he had been drinking and he took some ecstacy. i don't believe a word of it. she claims that he was smaller than me and that she felt bad afterwards and she couldn't believe what she had done. i wanted to believe that she was sorry but she went back to him. she said that it was no sex involved but that they just talked because she knew she couldn't talk to me. do i trust her and let her back in my life we share three kids and a beautiful home. i love her and want to forgive her but i cant stop thinking about the past.

2006-11-27 08:30:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am serious,to me it is as if children to a man are just what happens after sex and nothing more! With all the abandonment,abuse,sexuall and otherwise,I am curious if it is possible?

2006-11-27 08:29:54 · 19 answers · asked by sandra b 5

I am serious,to me it is as if children to a man are just what happens after sex and nothing more! With all the abandonment,abuse,sexuall and otherwise,I am curious if it is possible?

2006-11-27 08:28:58 · 21 answers · asked by sandra b 5

ok, we've been togather for 2yrs decmeber and we have a 5month baby girl. Were engaged but he doesn't want to set a date to get married he's afraid of commentment and we've been threw so much in the last 2 yrs . i don't understand were both faithful and we respect nither of us is abusive its not perfect but no relastionship is he's afriad that his past is going to catch up to him or he's going to be like his dad been marred a few times and never faithful. but i said to him if he loves me and he wants this to work if he wants to grow old with me and be togather that way then he won't let nothing bad happen. I don't know what to do cause it feels like im not good enough to get married to.

2006-11-27 08:27:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

anyone know how I would go about talking my wife into greek sex?

2006-11-27 08:26:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

For instance , how often do you say , your sexy , or your hot, or turn me on, ya know thing of that nature that would generally make someone feel good about themselves to your husband or boyfriend?

2006-11-27 08:26:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

She has no faith at all in me or how I manage to keep things running around here. So she sleeps on the couch. I ask her to come to bed with me and she says "NO WAY!" and says she is afraid she will come home one day and find that the bank has taken the house and had the locks changed. My question is this: Should I make up a fake eviction notice with all the pertinent legal mumbo-jumbo, paste it onto the door, and change the lock? Would this give her what she wants? She says she is normal and I am the one who is sick. She has been worrying needlessly about this and using it as an excuse to sleep on the couch for years. I am at my wits end and I thought it might be good to give her what she expects.

2006-11-27 08:23:07 · 12 answers · asked by Kokopelli 7

How many wives out there have sex with their husbands because they feel they need to, maybe it should be how often do you do it for that reason. I ask this because for the little amount my wife and I have sex (some of the time once a week, sometimes less, once in a while more) it seems like my wife is just doing it for me. in the end we are both very satisfied but it still feels like she does it for me because it always seems like I am the one who says and does everything. If I wanted to just have sex with no care about how the other person feels about me I would have found a prostitute when I had the chance years ago but I am not that way..... If your going to suggest going on dates , me helping out with things, and all that stuff , belive be , I have done it and still do it. I have never felt like I have tried so hard for something with such little outcome. I have even lost 30 lbs (5'10 190 now) in hopes that I may seem more attractive to her but still to no avail.

2006-11-27 08:21:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

HATRED AND RESENTMENT ARE EATING ME ALIVE! HOW CAN I FREE MYSELF ? THEY HAVE WEAVED THEMSELVES SO DEEP IN MY SPIRIT I CAN HARDLY BREATH! LEFT HUSBAND AFTER 26 YEARS OF MARRAIGE DUE TO HIS PORN ADDICTION AND LIES! RAGE HAS GOT IT,S HANDS AROUND MY NECK! ANY ADVICE?

2006-11-27 08:21:15 · 9 answers · asked by sandra b 5

My husband and I work our butts off to pay for what we want. And we want to start saving for a down payment for a house. However the problem is that I know if we get a house my husband's ex wife is going to take us to court to get more money. She has had everything handed to her by her boyfriends parents. Her and her boyfriend were given a house and cars by his parents. Is child support just based on his income, or mine too? His kids are well taken care of, but what about me and my husband why should we have to work so hard to have it handed over to her?

2006-11-27 08:16:45 · 15 answers · asked by angel32984 3

I watching this talk show the other day (the name escapes me) where this husband admitted to forcing his new bride to consume no less than 4000 calories a day in an effort to fatten her up (she was 120 when they got married) so that other men would not look at her and she would not be tempted to cheat on him. She was on the show as well and had ballooned to about 200 lbs..

And there was another husband who forced his wife to cut her waist-lenght hair after the wedding ceremony. She came out on stage sporting a men's military flattop. Again, the hubby did not want other men ogling his wife and she be not tempted to cheat.

I found such behavior from these insecure guys appalling!

So have you had a similar experience or know someone who is or has?

2006-11-27 08:16:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have given up everything for this guy.i alienated my kids, divorced my husbsnd of 19 years, lost my house, had to file bankruptcy, and worst of all, we work together.he left me on friday to go back to his wife

2006-11-27 08:13:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please, no smart comments (I have heard those on here before) I really need serious advice & serious answers. I have been dating a man named Keith for 8 months. At the very first he told me upfront that he was married but separated. It did bother me because of that but he told me they had been living apart for 1 ½ years but just hadn’t gotten a divorce because he had an 11 year old daughter named Sara that didn’t know they were separated. He has this construction job that only allowed him to come home twice a month on the weekends. So when he did get home he would pick up Sara and stay at his cousins house (this is where he moved into after he moved from his wife) He never explained to Sara they were separated and she never asked. She just enjoyed the time with her dad. Shortly before he and I started talking he got a local job where I live (his daughter lives 100 miles away) He also got an apartment here.

2006-11-27 08:11:46 · 16 answers · asked by Amber 1

I am a 43 year old, divorced woman. Tall, blonde, college-educated, and happy so far with my business'es success.

I was married for 17 years when my ex came home and told me he had been having a relationship with a woman in her 20s & he wanted to do things without me knowing. Things like trying drugs, having sex with multiple people (yes, both male and female), jump out of an airplane, go in a deep-sea submarine to the deepest part of the ocean, go on a walk until he couldn't anymore and not care where he ended up...he jumped an airplane and left me and three kids in a state that was thousands of miles away from any of my family. He decided he didn't feel it was his responsibility anymore to our children because he had already given up so much over the past 17 years.

After somewhat recovering from this hit upside the head, I have met someone else. He absolutely adores me, values me, and has stepped up to the plate many times....why can't I seem to enjoy making love anymore?

2006-11-27 08:11:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have cheated on my wife several times in the past. when we met we were cheating. one thing led to another and we fell in love. she stopped cheating but i was so use to it i kept going. recently she found out that i had sex with a young lady and that it was a possibility thaty she was pregnant by me. at this point my wife decided to cheat with a co-worker. we sat down and talked about it and we decided to give it one last try. i have let every woman in my life alone and have totally committed my life to my wife because i want to keep my family together. we have three beautiful kids and i want to do the right thing so that i could watch my children grow up. i have joined thye church and have given my life to god. it has only been two months but i have not had the desire to be with another woman. i love my wife very much but cheating had become so addictive that i felt like i had to do it. a large reason for the cheating was because i knew she would forgive me if she caught me.

2006-11-27 08:10:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know to most people this sounds penty and selfish. I've been married for 25 years and it seems like my husband would like helping others than me. We have to get into an arguement before he'll do some of the things I ask him to do for me. Which it sould be anything in the house and he starts calling himself a house b-----.He'll be in the middle of doing something for me and somebody else gets his attention. He then drops what he's doing for me and go help them. It's not just for women either. So guys help me understand my man.

2006-11-27 08:08:30 · 17 answers · asked by butterfly 2