I am serious,to me it is as if children to a man are just what happens after sex and nothing more! With all the abandonment,abuse,sexuall and otherwise,I am curious if it is possible?
2006-11-27 08:28:58 · 21 answers · asked by sandra b 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been abandoned by both men and women.
This is not a gender trait, it's a character trait.
My father abandoned my mother.
My wife abandoned me.
There are other examples. However, from my experience, it's not gender that causes people to abandon children or spouses, it's a character defect.
2006-11-27 08:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men who have kids even if they didn't innitially want them love their kids. Children are so innocent they have a way of creeping into hearts.I have witnessed several occassions of men not wanting children or not being ready to have them but once the children arrive everything changes. For some it's instant in some cases it takes awhile .You just have to be patient. There are a few who can't be trusted with kids but they are in the minority so don't let the statistics scare you.For every abusive or unloving man I'm sure there are ten out there who are crazy about children including those that aren't theirs. Hang in there and allow God and the love of those around you to heal you. You'll be surprised how many people care about you once you open up and let people in.
2006-11-27 08:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by kathleen t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to make this as clear as I can considering the massive amounts of variables the reality is that yes a man can and a man will. Now here is another reality the circumstances of the childs conception matter as well whether or not the child is product of love or some inane emotionless sexual experience if the father loves the mother he will love the child providing of course this is a healthy person ( mentally and emotionally) all of that aside look at every man you have sex with as the father of your children it will cut down on the sex happening because most men are not good parental figures and that is just that.
2016-05-23 14:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only angry hun. Men love their children as much as women do. We have an extra special connection naturally, but some women don't even respond to that well.
Often times people are just selfish... it is hard for those left behind. At first we are in denial, then we are sad, mad, sad, then mad some more...then eventually we accept it and lastly we move on. It is not fair but nothing is, in this life. It can always be worse or it could be better. We do the best we can with what we have and be grateful for that...nothing more, nothing less. I am sorry for your pain sweetie.
mandy
2006-11-27 08:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by cking_pOise... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally possible. My best friend since I was four had a father that was just as you described above, but then her stepdad became her real dad when she was five. He loved her and her brother completely and he was by no means their biological father. Even having his own biological child with their mother you can't tell the difference of who is "really" his kids if you don't already know. Don't be so quick to write off men's ability to love their children. If you need more proof my cousin married a woman who had a 7-year old at the time who was not his. But he loves him like he is his own and people who know them for only a short time or at the beginning of the couples friendship are shocked to find out their not really related. We as a society do a lot to undermine mens roles with their children and your question shows that. A wonderful book is Ideas for Action by Cynthia Kaufman.
2006-11-27 08:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most MEN, yes, but there are a lot of guys who don't want to step up to the plate and BE a MAN.
Boys who grow up without knowing what a real man is like have trouble becoming a man themselves, and they thus abandon, abuse, etc, their own kids.
2006-11-27 08:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some men are like what you speak of but there are many men out there who truly adore their children, and would stop at nothing to do whatever they can for them. That is the case with women too, there are some that are terrific mother's and those who don't have the right to even be called one.
2006-11-27 08:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can. My husband honestly loves our children. I think it all depends on 1) the man 2) if he wanted kids and 3) to a lesser extent, how he feels about their mother. I think a man who is married with kids is more likely to love his kids than a guy who screws around and has 3 million kids all with different baby mamas.
2006-11-27 08:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there are a lot of horror stories but just as many if not more of happy parenting by males. I was lucky enough to be the father of 3 sons who are all grown up and on their own now and loved them all as they grew into the fine young men they are today. And I continue to love, support and be proud of each of these men. I know of many males who are the same.
2006-11-27 08:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless there are millions of men faking it I would say yes they can honestly love their children. There are plenty of cases where the woman did those horrible things. Does that mean women can't love their children too.
2006-11-27 08:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋