I am serious,to me it is as if children to a man are just what happens after sex and nothing more! With all the abandonment,abuse,sexuall and otherwise,I am curious if it is possible?
2006-11-27 08:29:54 · 19 answers · asked by sandra b 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can only speak from my own experience. I am 42 years old. Personally I have never had any desire to have children. Not once have I ever heard any man say how he looks forward to being a dad. I see them as being a financial burden. They also get in the way in a relationship. Call me selfish, stupid, a dog, whatever you want, I was also responsible. I had a vasectomy at 19 and have never been the cause of an abortion or abandoned child.
2006-11-27 08:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by trynshockme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going to make this as clear as I can considering the massive amounts of variables the reality is that yes a man can and a man will. Now here is another reality the circumstances of the childs conception matter as well whether or not the child is product of love or some inane emotionless sexual experience if the father loves the mother he will love the child providing of course this is a healthy person ( mentally and emotionally) all of that aside look at every man you have sex with as the father of your children it will cut down on the sex happening because most men are not good parental figures and that is just that.
2006-11-27 08:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by t_j_watkins 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men who have kids even if they didn't innitially want them love their kids. Children are so innocent they have a way of creeping into hearts.I have witnessed several occassions of men not wanting children or not being ready to have them but once the children arrive everything changes. For some it's instant in some cases it takes awhile .You just have to be patient. There are a few who can't be trusted with kids but they are in the minority so don't let the statistics scare you.For every abusive or unloving man I'm sure there are ten out there who are crazy about children including those that aren't theirs. Hang in there and allow God and the love of those around you to heal you. You'll be surprised how many people care about you once you open up and let people in.
2016-05-23 14:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes, most fathers do love thier children but they can't express thier love emotions on the outside as obvious as women do and some men are worse than others , it mainly has to do with the way men and women are created different. The socially unacceptable issues that you raised are commited more by moms except sexual abuse which is committed more by males for the same reasons I mentioned.
2006-11-27 08:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know my son's dad LOVES HIM. He has made every effort possible to be there for his kid. Our son is 11 we were only together a few months. We were not together most of the pregnancy and no time after have we been together. His dad has always paid support he fought in court for more visitation. This is his only child. He says he gets depressed when our son goes home he misses him. They are like best friends. I know full well that is rare i know another man with 8 KIDS from 2 mom's he sees not a one pays for none of em. All men are diffrent YES there are men who love and are devoted to their kids there are men who don't give a rats A*s.
2006-11-27 08:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yeah, there are some loosers out there but there are also men who love their children more than life itself. Same for some mothers out there.
When I think back to the day my son was born, the first thing I always think of is my husband's reaction- those tears of joy dripping down his face and that unforgettable smile. As each day passes, he only loves him more and more.
I mean the world to my dad so I know this to be true.
2006-11-27 08:39:57 · answer #6 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess your seeing only the men near you. I have two sons, I love, talk, argue and respect both their views and their actions simply because they are both great people that make great decisions on their own and with our help. Sorry your not able to see beyond " abandonment,abuse,sexuall and otherwise" but beyond that I find it hard to believe you are only curious about men who do not have those weakness' and traits.
2006-11-27 08:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by YONSU 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did your father not love you? I am asking this honestly. I understand where your question may come from with all the single mothers. For GOOD fathers the children are his blood too. He goes to work everyday for the kids and takes care of them when they are sick and when they are hungry. If he doesn't then he is not a man. My father was there for me more than my mother and my husband is a great father.
2006-11-27 08:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Donkey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I find the question personally insulting. I love my children beyond the capacity of words to describe. The birth of my first child changed me as a person for the better, and I would even go so far as to say that her birth made me realize what love really is. Now, one child is 13, the other is 8, and I would give my life for either of them. They are the most brightly shining lights of my life.
2006-11-27 08:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course,a man loving his kids should come natrually.Even though he dont have the bond the mother and child do from the womb.the first time you see ur child you should feel all the love bursting in your heart ,holding ur kid knowing that what you made.unless ur a dead beat father then mabey you dont feel the love a normal father should.
2006-11-27 10:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by babyphat.1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋