I am a 43 year old, divorced woman. Tall, blonde, college-educated, and happy so far with my business'es success.
I was married for 17 years when my ex came home and told me he had been having a relationship with a woman in her 20s & he wanted to do things without me knowing. Things like trying drugs, having sex with multiple people (yes, both male and female), jump out of an airplane, go in a deep-sea submarine to the deepest part of the ocean, go on a walk until he couldn't anymore and not care where he ended up...he jumped an airplane and left me and three kids in a state that was thousands of miles away from any of my family. He decided he didn't feel it was his responsibility anymore to our children because he had already given up so much over the past 17 years.
After somewhat recovering from this hit upside the head, I have met someone else. He absolutely adores me, values me, and has stepped up to the plate many times....why can't I seem to enjoy making love anymore?
2006-11-27 08:11:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know, but it's got to be you.
You can't give your ex that much control over you.
Maybe you are afraid to let loose again, but I'm just speculating.
It sounds like you are with a great man, and that he can be understanding.
Maybe you just need some more positive experiences with this man, so you feel more at ease giving in to that pleasure.
PS, watch out for the leg humpers here, LOL
2006-11-27 08:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still masturbate? Alot of it could be a fear of real intimacy. Having had that and then have it go up in smoke is something that will affect you forever. Have you seen a counselor? Talking about it, outloud and to someone who is impartial may really help.
If you once enjoyed it, you can enjoy it again!
Oh, are you anti depressants?
I found when I was on one, I could beat it with a hammer and NOTHING would happen.
I sure hope you can fix this!
You deserve to have a good sex life-with or without a man.
~Peace~
2006-11-27 08:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still healing, the hurt is still to close. Maybe you just haven't had enough time with someone who truly wants the best for you. After you've had this type of heart ache it takes a while to heal, I don't think you ever recover, but you will enjoy life and intimacy again, just give yourself and this new man time. Fear is a powerful alienator.
2006-11-27 08:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your still in the marriage mood,you need to find closure,by divorce if you got divorced,get him on abandonment .Your not trusting men anymore which is normal under what happened,give it time.
2006-11-27 08:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were betrayed and that, you will never get over. It will always be in the back of your head.
2006-11-27 08:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋