I watching this talk show the other day (the name escapes me) where this husband admitted to forcing his new bride to consume no less than 4000 calories a day in an effort to fatten her up (she was 120 when they got married) so that other men would not look at her and she would not be tempted to cheat on him. She was on the show as well and had ballooned to about 200 lbs..
And there was another husband who forced his wife to cut her waist-lenght hair after the wedding ceremony. She came out on stage sporting a men's military flattop. Again, the hubby did not want other men ogling his wife and she be not tempted to cheat.
I found such behavior from these insecure guys appalling!
So have you had a similar experience or know someone who is or has?
2006-11-27 08:16:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the first two answerers, you're right! No woman in her right mind (that's the operative phrase there) would put up with that. These women who allow themselves to be physically altered by their controlling husbands are themselves insecure and have self-esteem issues to boot.
2006-11-27 08:35:06 · update #1
yes absolutley that happened to me too. When I was dating my ex husgand then boyfriend he didn't have a problem . Although when guys would look at me he would make sure he had his arm around me or pushed them out of the way from being nect to me but when we got married it started as it was my fault guys look at me. he wanted to put me in a hajab its a type of scarf that covers your face. then he wanted me to wear a long dress. to cover up when i said no to both these requests he started saying were not going out anymore cause you cause me problems when were out people look at you then i have to get mad at you and we fight.
he also didn't want me wearing any makeup or anything where i would show skin or any bright colours. he also worked for many companys and this one company was a chocolate factory he made sure he would bring home a garbage bag full of chocolates i told him i possible couldn't eat all that to take them away but he left them there and kept bringing them home every week. i gave alot away to the kids in the building and threw alot away but he would get angry fro throwing good stuff away. and i asked him if we could go for walks and he always would say no. anything to do with fun was no also.
Yes its a terrible life that way. Your made to feel that your the cause of all the fights by the way you look.
2006-11-27 16:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you are spot on. It is nothing but a control issue. Sometimes it's the opposite, and the husband wants the women to change her appearance to suit him, such as losing weight or having cosmetic surgery. Obviously, any normal woman would not put up with it, but the type of women who are drawn to these control freaks are insecure and vulnerable like you say.
I'm glad to know there are still men out there who can see that is totally unnacceptable behaviour. Take care : )
2006-11-29 23:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my first marriage he never would let me wear make-up or any thing really nice but he would look at women who did and lust after them. Needless to say our marriage ended in a disaster. In my marriage now i have a great husband who would never ask me to do something to myself or my appearance that i would not want to do... He lets me be me! I act like i am married too and dont even look at other men and dont ever want another man either. I am totally committend to my husband as he is to me. You are right this is very appalling to think that any man would ever do this to his wife.
2006-11-27 08:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, my husband doesn't do things like that. It sounds horrible though! But I'm not surprised. There are a lot of insecure men out there, and a lot of equally insecure women who will tolerate it. Sad!
2006-11-27 08:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband knows I'm not a child he dose not make choices for me or force anything on me. Any women who stays married to a man who belittles and controls her needs to seek counseling.
2006-11-27 08:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had that experience. I find it equally appalling that a woman would allow a man to do that to her.
2006-11-27 08:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Gallifrey's Gone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dated a man who didnt like me to wear makeup or fix my hair differently. i stood my ground and he had to deal with it. those men are extremely insecure.
2006-11-27 08:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋