Marriage & Divorce - 14 October 2006

Please im serious ,My husband does not give me enough I need more ,and I seem to be the one to always ,start it or totally controll it .what is wrong ?,I do everything to please him and a month or more will pass by he dont touch me there .I should not tell him ,because if he is not doing it I should not even want it myself .help thank u .

2006-10-14 19:45:30 · 20 answers · asked by Holly 5

2006-10-14 19:36:25 · 8 answers · asked by Shineonu 1

If I get into an argument with my husband about anything at all, he tells me that it's my failt and insults me, even if we were working on it tofether. He has mood swingd and he cheated on me with a stranger that me met on the side of the road. He's still proud of it. He tells me all the time how he would hava her again. Now I'm out of money for school and my husband is spending the money that I have saved ion the bar. He says it is my fault that there isn't more left. He says that he has a mental disorder and I am supposted to be patient while he deals with it. It soulds to me like he's just a manipulative liar and his only mental disorder comes from constantly drinking. What now?

This is the end of the tline. I don't know who to call or what steps to take to get out. This is my only homw. I need him to get out of it.

2006-10-14 19:35:11 · 12 answers · asked by Em 5

2006-10-14 19:03:43 · 5 answers · asked by lucifer h. christ 1

husband did not ever physically abuse wife or kids. he was a great father who worked hard for family. of course husband had flaws and issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. wife led secret life and the closer the husband came to catching her the more the wife cried and made husband out to be abusive and "mental" to family and friends. wife cheated, lied, and plotted the ruin of husband for a lengthy period of time. wife is lying to authorities, the state of ca., doctors and everything in between. wife is using two maybe three different names(which is illegal) wife is trying to make it so husband can no longer see or talk to children ever again. every time husband caught or called wife on lies and deceit wife would bring about more lies to authorities so husband had to keep distance so husband could not keep track of her. all husband wants is to see and be apart of childrens life. wife wants free ride for the rest of wifes life.

2006-10-14 18:58:24 · 9 answers · asked by lucifer h. christ 1

2006-10-14 18:52:04 · 33 answers · asked by Fartbuster 4

2006-10-14 18:39:53 · 12 answers · asked by r.banga 2

Love me without fear
Trust me without questioning
Need me without demanding
Want me without restrictions
Accept me without change
Desire me without inhibitions
For a love so free....
Will never fly away.
~ by Dick Sutphen ~

2006-10-14 18:39:46 · 28 answers · asked by ? 5

My Girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years. I'm 23, she's 22. We were waiting till I could afford a ring, but, while we were waiting for that, I became less sure.
She got irritated waiting for the ring, which made me irritated at her. She called me one day, out of know-where, telling me that she decided to move in with me. Her mom later talked her out of it, but then she yelled at me because I talked her into it. And don't get me started about the massive drop-off in our sex-life.
My experience is that things get slightly better after marriage then get much worse. I'm a guy, and I don't think I could take it, if my sex life got worse.
Did I wait so long to get married that I'm already neck-deep in married life, or are things going to get much worse if I propose?
I Love Her, I really do, but her parents make her crazy, which makes my life hard. She's such a pleasant person when she's away from her parents for awhile. Considering all this, should I get engaged?

2006-10-14 18:23:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok i have posted here about 3 weeks ago on me accusing my husband of cheating, and he didnt.....still having problems.

We have been married 9 years and I understand him needing to get away from me...lol we need a little space from each other. He goes to the local bars about 3-4 times a week to deal and play poker and now hes going with a friend to help him with his karaoke nights. I am here at home with 3 kids alone every night sometimes till 4 am. We are going through some financial difficulties right now and we dont have a vehicle, so I go for a week or more without leaving the house, not even to go to the grocery store.......I dont know how to explain to him that I need him , without sounding too needy. I have friends, but they have children also, and I cant go out on my own to occupy my time......I am about to go insane. How do I get him to listen to me without him saying im a b*tch or im just jealous.......Please help

2006-10-14 18:21:47 · 11 answers · asked by sifford844 2

Since so many are seeking help. Your input has got to be valuable.

2006-10-14 18:20:03 · 16 answers · asked by Charlie Kicksass 7

Tonight my husband came back to base from a gig with the military at 6:30pm. I knew this but did not tell him I knew this. I waited for him to come home by now it was 7pm so I called him. I asked him if he was on his way home and the first thing he said was oh there was an accident on the way back to base so it took them longer to get back,...I told him I knew that they got back at 6:30p. Then he said he was playing some foosball game......its not a big deal if he's playing some games before comming home. But I HATE the fact that he doesn't tell me what is really going on and says something else to cover up why he's not on his way home, etc... he does this to me often. Why does he do this? Why can't the guy just tell the truth about what is going on instead of using some kind of cover up?

2006-10-14 18:19:29 · 16 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

I used to have a serious problem of watching porn, till I realized it isnt healthy anymore. Although many attempts to get rid of them completely, the wife seems to find them in places I totally forget to search in. I just want her to know that I was serious when I told her im not into it anymore, & dont want her to believe Im trying to lie or hide them from her. She didnt show she was annoyed, instead she was very sweet and asked politely to get rid of them. Yet, I believe it didnt feel nice when she keeps finding them, & that I should really say or do something about this situation, which will hopefully never happen again. Any suggestions?

2006-10-14 18:18:35 · 17 answers · asked by Zwerg 3

2006-10-14 18:17:49 · 12 answers · asked by latinababy72 2

My husband and I have gone so far off the deep end it is rediculous. We fight over every little damn petty thing. We both have a problem with having to be right. We will argue and argue friggen details that don't even matter in the big picture, but if we don't remember something right we will fight and fight. It's almost as though we are two people living side by side and sharing a child as opposed to a married couple. Has anyone had success turning a situation like this into a happy marraige? If so, how and what did you do (I'd like to do counceling, but my husband is not up for it)?

2006-10-14 18:17:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

she is totally self employed, and i am just the average joe.

2006-10-14 18:16:43 · 3 answers · asked by vernon shadow 1

My fiance told me she stopped smoking, but I know for a fact she still does. I confronted her twice, and she told me to stop being crazy and even spun the web that I didnt trust her. I went with my gut and found out that she is still smoking. Not sure how to bring this up to her or how to handle it. I feel betrayed and lied to. I feel like a fool.

2006-10-14 17:50:17 · 16 answers · asked by Rich 3

Just curious: How many of those in arranged marriages are truly happy with their partners, and have managed to fall in love?
How many of those in arranged marriages do not believe that "happiness" or "love" in the marriage is important?
How many in arranged marriage would define "happiness" or "love" differently, in the context of an arranged marriage?
I'm wondering. I'm about to do a "love" marriage with a man whose arranged marriage ended in unhappiness and divorce.

2006-10-14 17:48:42 · 15 answers · asked by whatagrl44 1

... a vibrator? Are there husbands who would be turned off by that? Do you think she should surprise him with a show or should she talk to him about it before buying it? What do you husband and wives think? If he doesn't like it should she just keep it for herself to use when he is not around?
AND, do guys like to use them for the stimulating vibrating sensation against their body's?

2006-10-14 17:47:54 · 24 answers · asked by my2cents 3

my little girl turned eight years old today and i have been sitting here think about how people take life for granted. people need to take every min of everyday as if it was the last. i think back at when she was laying in my arms so help less and now she can do for herself in all most everything she does. and i didnt realize that until today. people tdont think about how much they miss out on life until it is too late and cant get it back so just take a min now if u are reading this to think about the things u take for granted. do it for it is too late. make sure that u tell family u love them dont think well they know that tell them anyways everyday because u never know when u may not get to again. help everyone u can stop and think stop taking life fir granted before it is to late

2006-10-14 17:47:39 · 8 answers · asked by whiteangel 2

would u leave da relationship after like 6 or more years dat u and da person had or move on and have to start fresh wit some1 from ur past but ur past dont want to really be in a relationship like dat but ur past might just want to try wat with u do stay or u stay and work it out wit ur partner or move on wit an old flame??????

2006-10-14 17:44:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

any quote famous or not.................

2006-10-14 17:44:36 · 20 answers · asked by tim'slove 3

what does a wife have to do to keep you completly satisfied happily and faithfully in marriage ?!!! Be honest I just want to understand a mans point of view ..women to what do you want from a man to be completly satisfied and happy in marriage ?

2006-10-14 17:42:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been having problems for quite a while. 6 months ago I hired a marriage counselor, but it doesn't seem to be helping enough. We have problems with trust and cooperation. Because of our lack of progress and because the problems are immediate and pressing I am beginning to feel that time is running out. I want to send up a metaphorical warning flare for my wife meaning "pay attention, this is serious, time to take action!!" I think it makes sense to let her know I'm feeling near desperation. I know it will sound like I'm threatening her with divorce if she doesn't change: I don't think coercing her to change to my way of thinking makes any sense. I'm wondering if there is a way of communicating my feelings of seriousness and urgency without it sounding like a threat. Maybe it isn't possible. Serious, balanced, and thoughtful answers please.

2006-10-14 17:41:54 · 22 answers · asked by Dale R 1

2006-10-14 17:40:05 · 9 answers · asked by Chuck Dhue 4

I have been married for 5 years and am afraid I am not in love with my husband anymore. He is more like a friend and to that point I am not attracted to him at all. He senses somthing and I just don't know what to do.

2006-10-14 17:30:40 · 21 answers · asked by SexyScorp 1

So the other night as me and my husband are about to fall asleep he tries to initiate sex. I was so tired (btw I work as a retail pharmacist, at a CVS in Manhattan, so just imagine my workload) and I try to explain that to him but he was determined so I acquiesce. Afterward I try to have an important convo w/ him and he ignores me. The other day he was complaing about me being apathetic and never making food which is a lie b/c I do sometimes. I'm no feminist but its 2006 and he knows how to drive to Burger King. Yesterday it started out as a playful squabble over Mcdreamy vs. Mcsteamy and then it became this huge fight over everything and anything like my intrusive parents and his video game obession etc. We're still kinda newly wed. Is this what I should expect? Any suggestions/ideas. I'm considering marriage couneling.

2006-10-14 17:29:25 · 7 answers · asked by amina 1

II am good looking. My husband has never said i love you to me after we got married, never hugged me, held my hands and now for the last 2-3 years we hardly have sex, infact zilch. He says he is faithful to me when I try to discuss this. We are good friends and talk about everything on the earth but there is no intimacy, he doesnt even touch me..what should I do

2006-10-14 17:12:47 · 22 answers · asked by Maye12 1

I've never asked for advice on any type of board, so bear with me! I'm in a 2nd marriage. My 1st was over mainly because of ex's drug habits after 15 yrs. Married my 8th gr sweetheart 10yrs Sounds like a fairy tale, but he's butted heads with one of my kids pretty bad, we argue about little things always. A friend moved back to town about a yr ago, who left town years ago because of drug and gambling debt. This guy friend of his calls him numerous times every day and gets mad when he doesn't return his calls, it's a weird relationship. I dont like the guy and def. dont trust him, he brags to my husband how unfaithful he is. They planned a trip to see an out of town football game, I was ok w/it, until they added on a few extra days in vegas. So now my husb. is in vegas with this guy who has a gambling problem, and with another guy who likes his nose candy. It's dejavu! I'm goin crazy this weekend, crying and being angry. I start counseling in2 wks. How do I get thru this?

2006-10-14 17:10:01 · 33 answers · asked by cathymrehr 2

if your married or in a relationship,do any of you check out any other guys or women?

2006-10-14 16:52:46 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous