Please im serious ,My husband does not give me enough I need more ,and I seem to be the one to always ,start it or totally controll it .what is wrong ?,I do everything to please him and a month or more will pass by he dont touch me there .I should not tell him ,because if he is not doing it I should not even want it myself .help thank u .
2006-10-14 19:45:30 · 20 answers · asked by Holly 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wait would you ask your man to touch you more Not me because he should want it ,and if he is not already doing it then he dont want to .
2006-10-14 19:54:00 · update #1
Well first start by coming on to him more. He probably feels the same way you do. Maybe he is to shy to ask you for it in fear of rejection. I would have sex with my wife more if she would only ask. But keep in mind if your husband has been going through alot of stress this can cause sexual disorders too. this doesnt mean he doesnt love you. Well best of luck with your sexlife as for me my wife is the dominate one in the relationship and thats the way i like it.
2006-10-14 19:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband (and for you men.. you wife) should be the one person you can talk to about anything. Even the most difficult thing as "satisfaction".
Talk openly and honestly to him about this... but don't blame him or shoot holes through his ego. He may be going through something at work, and be very stressed.. he may have undiagnosed medical issues brought on by stress (high blood pressure) or he could be depressed. He may be feeling like he has let you down by not being the man he had hoped to be for you.
Unfortunately some men feel like failures because they make less then $100k a year and their wives drive used mini vans rather than some high end luxury car. They feel like failures because they didn't put their family in that 300k house in a gated community and they can't give their kids everything the kids think they need.
But they don't feel like true heros for coming home every day after a hard days work, being there for and loving their families. For reading and playing with their children, and being true to their wives. For making a loving secure enviornment and loving the mother of his children so they can grow and flurish in an intact family (a rarity these days). For walking the dog and picking up the poop in the yard that he mowed. And for just being a good husband, father when they should.
Because society puts a higher value on what you wear, what you drive and where you live. My wife wants Prada but all I can give her is Sears. Men who believe they are falling short and can't measure.. no matter how good a man he really is.. will feel defeated and a like he has failed you. And that will suck the sexy out of any man.
And depending on his age.. he may be just getting older and needing less.. as you get older and are just getting reved up.
Talk to him with love and concern.. not anger and resentment. Let him know what ever he says is OK... and you will be there for him and work through this together. That you love him and need to be close with him (and that could be cuddling with or without the whoopie). Relieve some of his stress over the issue and it might just fire up his engine again.
Oh and get yourself checked out.. YOU could be the one with overly sexed issues. Just a thought.
I wish you the best!
2006-10-14 20:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by D F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very pratical question and let me try my best answering from ur husband side.
Perhaps he must b tired coming late from office or mentally stressed out. Why don't u start first talking to him about different issues that he interested in i.e. Baseball or cooking.?
At the mean time do not forget to prepare the best dish he like for dinner and dress up with very sexy night gown that reveal you out.
Tender him and approach him and wishper he looks so handsome tonight. If possible tune the TV into some sexual content or play a prono to stimulate him.
Continue different tactics for everyday to attract him, try various sexual position and make him learn them too so that he can be the master of Sex in a month or so.
Hope it helps if you need more advise pls feel free to IM me
Thank you.
2006-10-14 19:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ozone3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't tell him then how will he know you wan to be touched, he may think your happy with the present amount you get.
People often ask what the best to have really great sex? Communication: Getting physically intimate won't guarantee good sex. Emotional intimacy will really make it worthwhile for you both. Share your desires and fantasies, and be honest about the things that turn you off and on. The more you discuss sex, the better it has to be for the two of you.
2006-10-14 22:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sara_V. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't have to tell him anything. Second, you need to ask yourself these 2 questions: Are there any signs, or confirmations that he may be involved in an affair? And, have you changed in any way; both mentally and physically? I hate to say it, but if your body image has changed drastically over the past few months this is probably why. As shallow as this sounds, this is the number one factor in the sudden cease in physical and emotional contact. If not, I would start checking both phone logs and credit card receipts to look for any suspicious activity.
2006-10-14 19:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by dnstvn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem- my parnter has no problem taking but a huge problem giving. I can't even remember the last time he gave me an orgasm. Sex is all about him. I put his hand there the other night after we fooled around (all based on him) and he almost fell asleep literally after 30 seconds, and he hadn't even touched me there in a few months (3 or 4). I feel your pain.
Oh yeah, and he should WANT to touch you and please you and satisfy you. I want my partner to be satisfied in bed, shouldn't he want the same for me?
2006-10-14 19:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(1)Leave him a note saying, there will be sex in this bedroom 3 nites a week whether your here or not. Any questions?
(2) sex toys are an option
(3) counselling for him
(4) give him some viagra and a case of red bull energy drink
2006-10-14 20:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by show_em_your_badge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing...who the heck brainwashed you...You are human and you have needs!!!! You need to communicate to him that you need more or find yourself a lover...I'm not talking about a pocket rocket either because we all know that a mini-vibe can't give you that hard core up against the wall pull your hair sensation that you're longing for...You might need to simply move on...be careful and best wishes.
If he doesn't want you- then you should find someone who does.
Be consistent...be sexy all the time, let him know that you want him all the time and if he still doesn't respond, you need to find out who else he is giving it to...and find someone who makes you feel lusted after and wanted and sexy and NEEDED...
2006-10-14 19:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my husband I didn't get enough intimacy, touch , sex etc.
I relized he wasn't capable of it. So....with other troulbles in the marriage, I left him.
I will never marry again unless I KNOW for sure the man would meet my needs and have an agreement that is one of us would lose interest in sexuality that we would go to the doctor and get help.
2006-10-14 19:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your man, needs to wake up.
Drop some hints about what happens to couples who fail to keep each other happy in the sex department.
Remind him, if he don't keep you happy , ((Sancho)) the guy next door, will be happy to take care of business.
Sancho, will be there in no time to take care of your needs, and will do you at least twice, just in case he missed some thing good the first time.
2006-10-15 00:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by meatball288001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋