Marriage & Divorce - 14 October 2006

loved him for 24 yrs still do.......he cheated and is gone now....i feel lost and alone.......im 42 with 4 children.....i work 2 jobs to stay afloat..im not into bars and have lost my selfconfidence.....how do i deal with all this?

2006-10-14 03:58:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-14 03:41:03 · 24 answers · asked by ladybird 3

2006-10-14 03:39:43 · 25 answers · asked by The Bird 3

he cheated and now lives with the girl he cheated with he is 42 she is 21.......kids go over to stay there once a week...he asks like i dont even exsist like we didnt have a life........we were married 24 yrs......and happy so i thought...how do i mend my heart?

2006-10-14 03:31:40 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-14 03:18:25 · 14 answers · asked by Bubbles 2

I just broke up with my fiancee because of diferences, arguments, etc. We are both in pain from this & both still love each other but know now is not the time for US. I miss being intimate with her & really want to have sex with her. How do I talk to her about this without giving her any implications that I want to get back together with her right now, or without offending her? Should I just walk away & forget it for now? I know this is part of relationship withdrawal but I can't stop thinking about the times we were intimate and it is driving me crazy. I want her so bad. HELP!

2006-10-14 03:06:15 · 15 answers · asked by fletcher333 1

anyone know about custody cases or went thru one?
OK I HAVE BEEN CUSTODIAL PARENT FOR 10 1/2 YRS HE HAD PARTIAL HE ONLY WANTED TO BE WITH HIS KIDS ON HIS WEEKEND VISITS NEVER WANTED THEM MORE...HE WAS ONLY PAYING ME 50 AWEEK FOR FOUR BOYS FOR 10 YRS ,THE REASON WHY I ONLY RECIEVED 50 AWEEK WAS CAUSE HE TOLD ME HE WOULD GIVE UP HIS RIGHTS TO OUR BOYS I DIDNT WANT TO BE THE BLAME FOR THE KIDS NOT TO HAVE THERE FATHER SO I AGREED TO WHAT HE WANTED TO PAY .SO I WENT TO THE COURT HOUSE AND SUED FOR CUSTODY I GOT CUSTODIAL AND HE GOT PARTIAL HE AGREED TO EVERYTHING.IT WAS EVERY WEDNESDAY AND EVERYOTHER WEEKEND .WELL HE STUCK WITH IT FOR ABOUT A MONTH TOLD ME HE WAS DROPPING WEDNESDAYS CAUSE IT WAS TO MUCH.I GUESS IT WAS INTERFERING WITH HIS SINGLE LIFE I DIDNT CARE I HAD MORE TIME WITH MY SONS...I DID EVERYTHING DOC APPTS DENTIST ,ER RUNS WHEN THE BOYS GOT HURT I WOULD CALL HIM AND TELL HIM I WAS AT THE ER HE SAID WELL JUST CALL ME I AM SORRY BUT IF IT WAS ON THE OTHER END MY BUTT WOULD BE THERE .(RUNNING OUT OF ROOM WILL BE WRITING MORE)

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17 hours ago
LIKE I DID EVERYTHING AND STILL DO I TOOK CARE OF ALL OUR SONS NEEDS CLOTHES ,FOOD,SHELTER,DOCS,TOOK CARE OF THEM WHEN THEY WERE SICK WENT WITH MY ONE SON TO ALL HIS SURGERIES ETC....HIS FATHER DIDNT GO CAUSE HE SAID HE COULDNT GET OFF WORK TO BE THERE BUT THEN THE WEEK AFTER HIS FATHER WENT WITH HIS GF AND HER SON TO GET HIS FOOT CHECK BUT COULDNT BE THERE FOR HIS SONS SURGERY ON HIS KNEE AND IT WAS BAD.THIS IS THE FATHER AND GF THAT ACCUSED MY SON OF FAKING HIS INJURY WHOM HAD TO HAVE MAJOR SURGERY,ALSO THERE FATHER GRAB OUR SON BY THE THROAT AND YES I REPORTED TO THE DOCTORS AND SO ON HOPING THEY WOULD REPORT IT CAUSE I AM AFRAID OF MY EX HE WAS ABUSIVE TO ME WHILE WE WERE MARRIED I STILL FEARED HIM SO I WENT TO THE DOCS KNOWING THEY HAD TO REPORT IT .I DIDNT NEGLECT MY SON I HAD HIM CHECKED OUT AND TOLD THE DOC.JUST SO EVERYONE DOESNT THINK I AM A ROTTEN MOM I WANTED TO HURT HIM FOR HURTING MY SON .WELL MY TWO YOUNGER SONS STOPPED SEEING THERE FATHER SO HE STOPPED PAYING HIS CONTIN

17 hours ago
SO WHEN HE STOPPED PAYING HIS BIG 50 AWEEK WHICH DID NOT RAISE FOUR SONS I WENT TO THE COURT HOUSE AND SUED HIM FOR THE SUPPORT MY SONS NEEDED AND DESERVED WELL HE TURNED AROUND AND IS NOW TRYING TO SUE ME FOR CUSTODY WE WENT TO A COURT MEDIATOR WHO ORDER A HOME EVALUATION ...WE BOTH HAVE TO PAY 1050 WELL I PAID MY HALF ,HE DIDNT WE ARE GOING INFRONT OF A JUDGE THIS FRIDAY CAUSE HE IS BEING HELD IN CONTEMPT OF COURT,,,,THIS IS A MAN WHOM IS STILL MARRIED TO HIS SECOND WIFE WHOM HE LEFT ONE NITE WENT TO A BAR AND NEVER WENT HOME LEFT HER WITH THERE 2 YR OLD SON AND SHE WAS 5 MONTHS PREGNANT...NOW HE IS SHACKED UP WITH HIS GF AND HER 2 KIDS IN A 2 BEDROOM HOME SHE HAS A 5 YR OLD GIRL WHOM SLEEPS IN THE BEDROOM WITH HIM AND HIS GF AND THE GF'S SON HAS HIS OWN ROOM HE IS 10 AND MY BOYS ARE ON THE LIVING ROOM FLOOR ...THEN WHEN HE GETS HIS SECOND SET OF CHILDREN FROM HIS WIFE THEY SLEEP IN THE BEDROOM WITH MY EX AND HIS GF ALSO THEY ARE 3YR OLD AND 1.

17 hours ago
MY 18 YR OLD TOLD HIM THE WAY HE FELT NOW THEY DONT SPEAK MY 18 YR OLD TOLD HIM HE REMEMBERS EVERYTHING FROM WHAT HE DID TO ME AND MY 18 YR OLD TOLD HIM HE REMEMBERS WHEN HE GRABBED HIM BY THE THROAT CAUSE HE WANTED TO QUIT BASEBALL,AND HE TOLD HIM HE REM WHEN HE GRABBED ME AND ALMOST CHOKED ME TO DEATH INFRONT OF HIM HE SAID DAD IF I WOULDNT HAVE SCREAMED YOU WOULD HAVE KILLED HER ,WELL MY EX TURNED TO HIM AND SAID YOUR MOM BEAT ME MY SON LAUGHED AND SAID DAD YOUR 6 1 300 PDS.MOM IS 5 6 160 AND I WAS THERE I REMEMBER IT ALL ...THEN HE TOLD MY EX ALL HE CARED ABOUT WAS HIS NEW GF AND HER KIDS WELL HE TOLD HIM THATS RITE THEY ARE MY LIFE NOW I HAVE NO OTHER LIFE THEN THEM .WELL THEY HAVENT SPOKEN SINCE FATHERS DAY....THEN MY 14 YR OLD TOLD HIM OFF ABOUT HOW HE FELT TELLING HIS DAD HE DOESNT THINK ITS RIGHT FOR HIM TO TRY TO TAKE THEM FROM SOMEONE WHOM HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR THEM AND THE WOMEN WHO TOOK CARE OF US ON HER OWN FOR 10 YRS WITH NO HELP FROM YOU .

17 hours ago
I WAS SCARED WHEN MY 14 YR OLD TOLD HIM OFF I SAID MAYBE YOU SHOULDNT HAVE SAID THAT THEY MIGHT USE THAT AGAINST ME MY SON SAID MOM HOW CAN THEY I SAID HOW I FELT...SO I CALLED MY ATTORNEY SHE SAID YOU CAN NOT CONTROL WHAT COMES OUT OF YOUR 14 YR OLDS MOUTH...WELL HE DIDNT PAY HIS HALF OF THE HOME EVAL SO HE IS BEING HELD IN CONTEMPT OF COURT ,,I PAID MINE THAT SHOULD GO TO SHOW I LOVE MY KIDS AND WILL DO ANYTHING FOR THEM ....I WENT TO ALL THE SCHOOL MEETINGS AND WENT TO GET ALL MY BOYS HELP THAT THEY NEEDED ,,I HAVE TWO SONS WITH ADHD SO THEY STRUGGLE SO I GO TO THE SCHOOLS GET HELP OF COURSE HIS FAVORITE SAYING IS THEY DONT NEED ANY HELP THEY ARE JUST LAZY AND THEY NEED A FOOT IN THERE ***.

WELL ON XMAS VACATION LAST YR I ASKED FOR ANY KIND OF HOMEWORK THAT WILL HELP WITH THERE GRADES YOU KNOW MAKE UP WORK IT WAS STACKED FOR ALL MY SONS SO I ASKED AHOLE IF HE COULD HELP YEA HE HELPED I GOT A CALL FROM THE SCHOOL STATING THEY WOULDNT BE GETTING CREDIT I SAID WHY NOT

17 hours ago
CAUSE THE SCHOOL SAID THERE FATHER DID IT FOR THEM THE ONLY TIME IN 10 YRS I ASKED FOR HELP THAT IS WHAT I GOT...I AM SCARED I AM A GOOD MOM I DONT DRINK I DONT SMOKE I DO NOT GO OUT PARTYING UNLIKE HIM I STAY AT HOME WITH MY SONS THAT IS MY PLACE THAT IS WHERE I BELONG..THEY ARE MY LIFE....SO DO YOU THINK HE HAS ANY CHANCE...THANKS

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1 day ago
IM SORRY BUT I NEVER DID ANYTHING WRONG HE SUED ME CAUSE I SUED HIM FOR CHILD SUPPORT ..HE ONLY PAID ME 5O AWEEK FOR 10 YRS FOR FOUR BOYS THERE OLDER AND THEY NEED MORE ..I DID IT ON MY OWN FOR 10 1/2 YRS IF HE THINKS HIS BIG 50 AWEEK RAISED HIS SONS HE NEEDS TO GET A REALITY CHECK

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3 hours ago
MY KIDS AGES ARE 16 14 13 SORRY IF I DIDNT ADD THAT,,,THANKS

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4 days ago
well we were suppose to have a contempt hearing against him for not paying his half of the eval he never showed up neither did his attorney the judge rescheduled it for him to give him a second chance which i think is bs he started this cause i sued him now he wont pay the eval and didnt show up tellin the court he never got notice of the hearing come on his lawyer got it why wasnt he there.dont you think its kinda funny there is proof at the court house that his lawyer got the letter.

4 days ago
now the new date is oct 18th 130 pm lets see if he shows up

2 days ago
im sorry if some ppl think this question is getting old i would just like different views from ppl some ppl didnt get to see my post...i am sorry for the ones that keep ready my post...i am a mom worried about her kids someone that has taken care of them since 1996 then you have someone that didnt bother them all theses years that wants to take your kids from you cause you want child support cause they need more things as they get older ...im sorry if i got on anyone nerves with my posting

2006-10-14 03:03:09 · 11 answers · asked by tinalee1972 1

I'm Having trust issues...my wife walked out last year saying she wasn't sure what she wanted anymore, she was gone for 3 months. This year we have moved into a new home, I have a new job and things seem to be going well, but I keep worrying she will go again and feel myself starting to brace for it...preparing for another split...how can I learn to trust her again, ive spoken to her and she says shes not going anywhere and not to worry...but if she done so once...help!

2006-10-14 03:00:35 · 26 answers · asked by Neil M 2

2006-10-14 02:48:40 · 9 answers · asked by xepov 1

but the other person loves you, and what you will say if he/she want get marry with you .. would you say "YES" ???

2006-10-14 02:47:35 · 13 answers · asked by The Wizard 2

2006-10-14 02:41:41 · 22 answers · asked by TAG 1

i love this proverb

it's Jewish by the way

what are your thoughts...

2006-10-14 02:40:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Serious answers only please.

2006-10-14 02:34:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-14 02:28:12 · 37 answers · asked by Brendon B 2

My question is, what financial obligations do I have to my future ex, He has alot of credit card and mortgage obligations and my name is on some of it. I sold my home prior to our wedding and made 37.000 and also came into a settlement (prior to our marriage) of 29.000 . All of which went into our joint acct. he told me he had little or no debt issues only to find out after the fact that he has loads of debt. I have a daughter who is 15 from a prvious marriage and receive child support and also I work full time as a RN. We have only been married 1 1/2 years. I really want out but dont want to get stuck with half his debt.

2006-10-14 02:24:13 · 19 answers · asked by cinlu45 1

i want to share issue concerning marriage life

2006-10-14 02:24:06 · 7 answers · asked by stellus 1

I'll be heading down to Bridgewood in Ipswich this evening with my wife to go dogging. She's really up for it, and I just can't manage it anymore as I'm getting a bit old nowadays. I'll be heading down there around 9pm.

If anyone fancies coming down to give me a helping hand, or maybe take some pictures, please feel free.
I'll be in the big black BMW estate, but if you want us to meet at your car, just give me a ring on 01473 712672 to pass on your vehicle details.

Alternatively, if you fancy a bit of a social drink beforehand, and a chance to get to know the wife and myself (and maybe more), drop round to 12 Beatty Road, Ipswich around 8-pm.

See you all tonight you dirty little monkeys.

2006-10-14 02:19:31 · 8 answers · asked by Smicker 1

My wife of 33 years I think is going through the change she tells me she don't like me the better I am to here the worser she treats me she take no medicine any women out there had similar problems or can tell me what to do ouhter than wait time is running out for me Thanks

2006-10-14 02:19:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

and get marry with him/her ???

2006-10-14 02:16:26 · 11 answers · asked by The Wizard 2

She opened the curtain while I was making sewer babies. I need a good story to tell her why I was...

2006-10-14 02:15:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-14 02:12:11 · 22 answers · asked by Tom 1

i have a group of friends (5 of them) .. i only found out recently that one of them had gotten engaged and did not invite me ... i was quite upset as i tght we are quite close (we were schoolmates and tries to make effort meet once in a while). the rest did not bother to update me or anything.. i only found out from an aquaiintance when she ask why i wasnt dere...

i was thinking like when i have my engagement or wedding reception .. i will invite all 4 of them to my event... its to show that hey im not as petty as them about things.. or should i just not invite them at all

which will the "revenge" work??

or any other suggestions.
i need help thanks

2006-10-14 02:04:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Quickly please!

2006-10-14 02:02:07 · 16 answers · asked by Omar 1

Are second marriages apt to be more successful because presumably people have learned from earlier mistakes or are those mistakes replicated in the second marriages? If people had difficulty keeping a first marriage intact, does that necessarily mean that they lack the necessary conflict resolution skills?

2006-10-14 01:48:19 · 16 answers · asked by Jo 4

He is in Iraq and got this online divorce he wanted my information for. He says its paid in full and he got it without my consent or information. Is that even legal?

2006-10-14 01:44:15 · 8 answers · asked by bbdl 1

hi i realy want 2 know specially 4 my boy frd
he has stoped giving me attention
bas esa lagta hai ki pyar chal raha hai to jabardasti chala rahe hai
both can not say that bas now i dont want 2 talk?
we love each other
but he is very sttuborn meri koi bat nahi manta
kya use mujse space chahiye
although i hv freed him frm. everytng ????/ help me to recover my relationship plz thanx

2006-10-14 01:43:31 · 9 answers · asked by pracs 1

My husband and I are trying to work through an affair he had last year.He has just announced that he is choosing to go overseas for 7 months-Afghanistan .He did not discuss this with me-just announced that he was going.Nothing really has changed in our relationship and the trust has definitely not been renewed.It is hard to give up on someone you once loved but I feel he is trying to tell me something!He has an anger problem and has a hard time with our three children.Life is fine as long as there are no 'hiccups'.Unfortunately(or fortunately!)family life is not like that.I know my husband feels like a failure.He thinks this tour will help him.I don't know if there is enough to hold onto after all that has happened.Any advice?

2006-10-14 01:41:41 · 18 answers · asked by Rosie 1

Is your relationship better or worst?

2006-10-14 01:39:38 · 9 answers · asked by 10 pts for me? 4

doesn't speak english. I am from Houston, Texas and she is from El Salvador......I speak her language and I met her in the US!!!! She understands alot but won't go to english school. She reads and writes Spanish, shes not stupid......... What can I do to get her to feel secure about taking on a task as big as learning another language? Anybody with a solution?

2006-10-14 01:22:00 · 20 answers · asked by 6ft5inallman 2

2006-10-14 01:19:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous