2006-10-14 02:41:41 · 22 answers · asked by TAG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can probably get some toys or something.
2006-10-14 02:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by bor_rabnud 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tough qestion with great responces. I do not know if what I am about to type will help at all after reading the Hallmark card from Cobra, however, lets give it a shot.
Everyone sex life is different what you are looking for might differ from the person who has been married for a while and has the flame but no place to go with it.
Sometimes keeping that drive a live is just a phase that we go through, for you it could be the loss that you are experiencing, or the desire to find something new. The best way to start is to discover your body first. Find those things that you like sexually. There are some great books out there that will outline the woman's body. Get one, read it, touch yourself and find what really feels good to you.
Then start to get out. Some places that offer you a variety of people to chose from would be coffee houses or book stores. Do things that you like to do or find something old that use you used to like to do. Here is one, Antiques, I know that might sound strange but they are great ways to bring us back to some of the things we use to love and some of the people that you meet there are looking for the same things you are. It is okay to strike up a conversation with some one drinking a coffee, or someone that is looking in the same section of the books that you are, or laughing at the old twister game in the store.
Keep those wonderful feeling fresh in you mind and best of luck.
2006-10-14 10:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't listen to the answers you have received so far. Geezz go to a bar, buy a vibrator? C'MON ALREADY!
How about having some self respect.
You don't mention if you lost your husband to unfaithfulness or death...but either way, is that really the most important thing to you right now...how to keep your sex life going?
You know people actually can live without sex. Get ahobby..Work out at the gym..go to church..buy read to blind people...feed the homeless...do SOMETHING!
I am very sorry for your loss...but don't think just of yourself...thats whats wrong with the world today..
2006-10-14 09:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by heresyhunter@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would start by going out and getting a hobby and you will meet some men with your same interest, If sex is all your worried about then go to the club and I am sure you will be hit on and busy in no time. Good luck.
2006-10-14 09:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least a few days, sweetie, until you get over this terrible loss. Did somebody actually say "Read to the blind?" If they are blind, you can do whatever you want to them. Now THAT will spice up your sex life. OK, This is an example of the kind of crap you get when you put the word SEX, or PORN in a ques. on this site. avg answers about 12, add sex, avg answers 35. Next time give details.
2006-10-14 09:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I assume your husband died, and you didn't say how long ago. I'm sorry for your loss. I have lost two husbands myself, so I know it's hard. I missed being held, the intimacy, hated sleeping alone. Given that you've allowed yourself some time, while you get back into meeting people, it's healthy for you to masturbate, with or without a vibrator. It helps maintain your muscles and natural lubricant as well as relieving tension.
2006-10-14 10:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I' m sorry you lost your man. Sex is great but dangerous.
God says only have sex with your mate. often we don't really listen to God. if you have a pastor/Rabbi/ or someone you trust and who isn't too uptite about the subject ask them. of course, then you gotta worry about them hitting on you.
there are sexual aid sites, that are really not too dirty and don't especailly want to sell you all their nasty videos.
probably the best thing is to find other women who've been through a loss like yours and openly share your thoughts.
best wishes, frankie chocolate
2006-10-14 09:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you havent got a live replacement you'll have to handle matters yourself. Fantasy, books, movies etc, along with equipment from your local shop or the net, can keep the fires alive until you are ready to go back into circulation.
2006-10-14 09:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-14 10:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try playing with toys, if thats not your thing, then try finding a same sex partner, (By the way its normal to play with yourself) if that still is not your things, then go out and find someone who you can slowly start a relationship with.
2006-10-14 09:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do depends on whether "sex life" includes solo activities or you must have partners. Go very, very slowly and carefully with the second but full steam ahead on the frist (with machines of your choice--they won't harm you).
2006-10-14 09:45:45 · answer #11 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋