So the other night as me and my husband are about to fall asleep he tries to initiate sex. I was so tired (btw I work as a retail pharmacist, at a CVS in Manhattan, so just imagine my workload) and I try to explain that to him but he was determined so I acquiesce. Afterward I try to have an important convo w/ him and he ignores me. The other day he was complaing about me being apathetic and never making food which is a lie b/c I do sometimes. I'm no feminist but its 2006 and he knows how to drive to Burger King. Yesterday it started out as a playful squabble over Mcdreamy vs. Mcsteamy and then it became this huge fight over everything and anything like my intrusive parents and his video game obession etc. We're still kinda newly wed. Is this what I should expect? Any suggestions/ideas. I'm considering marriage couneling.
2006-10-14 17:29:25 · 7 answers · asked by amina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MAN THAT IS A TOUGH ONE YOU NEED TO SIT HIM DOWN AND TALK TO HIM FIRST.IF THAT DON'T WORK AFTER SEVERAL TIMES THEN GO TO A MARRIAGE COUNELER
2006-10-14 17:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a newlywed is tough. The first couple of years are all about adjustment and that can be very difficult. Marriage counseling is a great idea. It can help you to discuss your feelings and to also establish some plans for your household that will make things easier. Try to think of the good times. If you can remember a lot of them and feel like you have more to look forward to, then you're probably going to be ok. But if it's hard to remember any good times, then you need to really get some help in making this work and planning a way to make better memories in the future.
2006-10-14 17:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal to have disagreements until you adjust to each other and your separate famillies. And I am with you on the whole food prep thing, especially if both of you work full time. Maybe you can both compromise and share the cooking? You one day or week, and then it is his turn for a day or week. As for the other stuff, he needs to understand that you are not his personal sex toy. When you say no, you mean no, and not that you intend for him to beg or pout til he gets his way. I don't see that marriage counseling would hurt if it would help to get some of the issues out in the open and help you to come to sort of compromise on them..
Good luck
2006-10-14 17:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just got married..... I'm sure he had an video game obsession, and your parents were intrusive before you two got married.. Marriage counseling sounds like a good idea
2006-10-14 17:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly you already comprehend what to do... you in basic terms p.c. a 2d appinion huh?.. you suggested your self that "i'm head over heels in love" inclusive of your bf!! hi.. you in love with the guy you're with. so stay with him of path.. in no way take earnings of what you have.. its continually greater constructive to maintain what you recognize you have then to replace it for a secret container.. in case you recognize what i advise.. you in no way now what's going to ensue in case you circulate with yet another guy and in case you do you will destroy what you have now.. you lovehim stay with him.. your ex weigh down. is basically that.. your EX weigh down ok.. plus he had the nerve to assert he hated you.. thats harsh .. and im particular with a assertion like that he easily doesnt love you greater then the lady he's with.. or that could in no way got here out his mouth.. he basically could be losing interest together with his woman. and p.c. to alter.. and due to the previous he believes you nevertheless like him... and he thinks you're a undeniable ingredient.. so tutor him incorrect and tell him no.. which you dont like him anymore.. and that your in love already with a great guy. reason he could be in case you like him.. and this finished time you have had a great buddy thats a boy and he concept he could be greater then pals.. and has been attempting to while you concept you jsut pals.. so wht you may do is confirm which you do make sparkling with him which you 2 will in basic terms be pals.. and which you love his friendship and love him as a brother.. and which you would be able to in no way be greater then pals.. he needs to comprehend this so he can circulate on and attempt to get a woman which will actualy love him decrease back... even once you tell him this he will nevertheless think of he has of challenge with you for a whilst.. yet with a bit of luck he will come to comprehend presently... goodluck and that i'm hoping all of it works out for you.. dr icebreaker
2016-12-26 19:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
C O M M U N I C A T I O N..........is the key. Work on it.
2006-10-14 17:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to real life
2006-10-14 17:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋