Family - December 2007

Im in my mid 20's and my family is completely dysfunctional.

I've stopped looking to them for the traditional family roles, at this point, mom as mom, sister as sister, dad as dad. Thats just not them, apparently.

I dont use this as a crutch, at least I try not to, but Ive been let down a lot in my life.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this, and if so. How do you make it, how do you help yourself be happy and satisfied? I dont want to fall into the same cycle as they did, where nothing is ever good enough for them, and they cant let themselves be happy. It's not a way to live! I want to be happy!

Even one of my friends noticed, that there's no light in my eyes, in pictures. Its like im smiling, but its not coming from inside, its just on the surface?

2007-12-23 17:00:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-12-23 16:57:41 · 14 answers · asked by Chamillitary Mayne 6

Ever since I've met my sis in law 10 years ago, she is constantly starting arguments with her family. She's verbally attacked me and my husband all because she misunderstood something, &never apologized once she realized she was wrong. She's rude to her mother, she bosses her boyfriend around and everyone else in her family. She is starting to make it to where no one wants to get together for the holidays. Her family usually sticks me and my brother in law's wife, C with the cooking at their own houses. Then they insist everyone be there at a specific time because the sis in law wants it that way. This year, me and C bowed out gracefully to try to get her to understand how it is to plan it around everyone. She was hateful again saying she was "ready to get this shite over with"! After she was the one causing the uproar about where to have it and what time again! Should I suggest she get on some medication or is she just a ******

2007-12-23 16:56:43 · 6 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3

My mom gets so easily offended that it's hard to even talk to her sometimes. For example, some creepy guy she used to work with was giving my sister and I the eye... (the last time he saw us we were very young so it was very gross). Anyway, we kept joking about it later and she got mad and said "I can't do or say anything right." uh... it had nothing to do with her. She worked with the guy YEARS ago and it's not like they're friends. We were just joking around and she flipped. I almost just left... what do you say to that? She stormed off. It's so annoying.. like she's 10.

2007-12-23 16:54:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my moms side and my dads side are both having big parties for christmas
problem:which one do i go to
this thanksgiving was the same problem so me and my cousin came up with a plan i go thanksgiving with my mom and christmas with my dad only my cousin from my moms side just came from the navy boot camp and it would mean alot to her if i went but everybody at my dads side already expects me to go and to make things worse none of my brothers and sister can go!so they will know i had a choice and didnt choose them plus my dads side always gives a lot of presents but this year my parents couldnt buy anything and i dont want to show up without presents and then leave with presents for myself!help!please!

2007-12-23 16:38:01 · 3 answers · asked by ........ 1

here is the issue, My girlfriend never seen her dad even in a picture. Her mam told her that he lives in a different state.but I got to know who is her real father and he lives in the same town. She always tells me that she wants to see and know her father. I want to tell her who is her father but in the same time I don't think I'm the right person to tell her that. I'm afried she whould hate me if she found out that I knew and i did not tell her. she is now 20 years old

please tell me what to do

2007-12-23 16:29:03 · 15 answers · asked by The King's Accord 2

So, I'm 18 and have been with a guy for awhile now. I believe with all my heart that he is the guy for me. He loves me and I love him. He's asked me to marry him and I told him I would after I finish college because I believe it's wise to get an education.

My parents don't know the extent of our relationship, but they have a hunch.I haven't told my parents about it all because he's much older than I am. Like, he's 39. Many people will assume that because he's so much older that his intentions are not honorable. That is totally untrue.

My problem is that my parents now want me to cut off all communcation with him because they don't approve of the idea of me being with him (they know and like him, but don't like the idea of me being with a guy that much older than myself). I want to obey my parents, but I love my boyfriend. I don't know what to do now. I understand it from my parent's point of view, but they don't see mine. What should I do? I

2007-12-23 16:17:43 · 7 answers · asked by Dancing Stars 1

Like, seriously.

Brother 1: He is the hugest wannabe gangster who does drugs/swears/no job etc.

Brother 2: Fails almost every subject in school/tries to mold himself into someone that others will like more/in a way perverted

Mom: Always sticks up for my youngest brother (2) because he's the 'baby' and I'm normally forgot about because I really don't need any help (both of my brothers have disorders-OCD, ADD, bipolar, one has seizures)...so i always have to fend for myself.

Step-dad-dropped out of school in the fourth grade/only talks about what he likes(which I hate)...but I try to listen

Dad-I only see him once a week...lives 100 miles away

I mean, why must I be put in a family like this...I love most of them (except for brother #1 and maybe 2)...like I'm third in my class/no disorders/no drugs etc.)

You think I could mold them into people I would actually feel comfortable talking to (I got many friends but I want a family too)...so could I?

2007-12-23 16:13:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

if your son was in his third year of college, started to do a lot of drugs and got so messed up that he didnt want to go back to school the next semester to try and figure things out and sort out his life? i think i need to do this bc this past semester i got into a lot of drugs...coke x...etc...
i go to school in miami and i dont think i can handle going back in jan bc i think ill just keep doing wat i was doing and mess up in school.
im scared to have this talk with my parents bc i dont think they will understand and will just go nuts on me and tell me im wasting there money and stop paying for my school.
i know i messed up and thats why i want to stop but i just think they will not understand and will just flip out on me......

2007-12-23 16:06:26 · 5 answers · asked by CollegeKid 1

Normally, every Christmas we go to my cousins (which is 1 1/2 hrs away), and the WHOLE family is there.

I have 2 sons and this year I'm not going for these reasons:

There are guns in that house (locked up ... but still).
They (my uncles, aunts) smoke pot in the basement.
And .... my 6 year old son LOVES playing with his 8 y/o cousin, BUT, this kid has the worst grammar in the world: "I ain't got no toys like that" ... "She don't got no boyfriend." .... that kind of talk. In fact, they ALL talk like that!

My mom doesn't know this is why we're not going anymore. She keeps offering to take my kids, because she thinks I'm not going because it's far and a hassle to take them.

It would hurt her feelings if I told her the truth, this is her family.

What would you do? Just keep making up dumb reasons why you're not going?

2007-12-23 15:58:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wouldn't say I'm spoiled but I wouldn't say I am deprived either, but when I get straight A's, I expect something in return. My friend usually gets a B or two, but this semester, she got all A's. Her parents gave her $100. I asked my mom, and she said that I have somewhere to sleep tonight. I am just asking if it is fair that my friend, who gets A's occasionally gets rewarded and I, who consistantly is receiving A's doesn't get anything. I feel that since I work hard all the time, it is not a big deal when I succeed. Whereas my friend works hard once and gets soo much.Is this fair or am I asking to much?

2007-12-23 15:57:00 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley P 2

And........what is the best thing they can do?

2007-12-23 15:46:57 · 5 answers · asked by Love and Happiness 2

like.. keeping her room clean.. showering everyday... not leaving the house looking like a slob...
she also always loses her socks and underwear, god knows where they go i always find them everywhere.
how can i get a sense of hygenine and organization in her? help her set up a schedule? like.. shower every morning, put dirty socks and underwear in a special place? we live together and this has got to stop.

2007-12-23 15:40:35 · 14 answers · asked by Me 1

Tomorrow is Christmas Eve and of course that's the day for the WHOLE family to get together. I don't mind this, because I'm not a scrooge and I enjoy Christmas just as much as the next person but...it's some of my family that I don't enjoy seeing. Half of them are snobs and act like the world revolves around them. I always try my best to be nice, but it's pretty obvious that they don't like me and I don't like them. Frankly, I know that some of them judge me for my past and they don't seem to understand that I'm not that person anymore. I've been dealing with alot of things lately that's made me feel depressed and I'm trying to deal with everything in the best way that I know how, but I just feel like seeing them tomorrow will make me pull my hair out. How can I get through it without losing my mind in the process?

2007-12-23 15:32:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do you do when your finace's brother puts the move on you. Its a very close family, and you dont want any family rivalry. What do you do? Do you tell your fiance?

2007-12-23 15:22:26 · 70 answers · asked by just ask 5

Why? Why during Christmas? I hate when my cousins comeover. The always find 1 reason to make fun of me. I just watch 1 soap opera and they always laug at me. They say im horrible, suck, and they say im a loser. when i show em a new vid game i got, they make fun of it. I ignore them. Then theyre 5 year old cousin who also makes fun of me follows me. I dont want to tell him go away. I dont want him to cry. Whats a good way to tell him to leave me alone? plz no useless answers

2007-12-23 15:11:12 · 20 answers · asked by Coca-Cola Lova 1

Christmas Eve, (which is probably right now) my boyfriend and I have reservations at a fancy restaurant and after we might have sex. Then he's gonna take me back to my parents house. Obviously, I'm gonna wear something nice. So what can I do to avoid coming back looking all "flustered?"

wear a shirt that doesn't wrinkle? Pack a change of clothes? Need help please.

2007-12-23 15:11:08 · 13 answers · asked by SiMpLy.HaPpiE 5

At first I was flattered that she would ask me to host dinner but then I realized it was to show off the house to family. After the first year, she has come late EVERY dinner since!!! Once 3 hours late with NO excuse, so I had to entertain the rest of her family. Today, I reminded her of the time -2 pm. She told me that she wasn't sure what time she would arrive since she is opening gifts with her other son's family & then going to visit her mother in the nursing home. I didn't know what to say except please call me when you are on your way to my home (I live 45 min away). I hung up & realized that she wouldn't be finished with my BIL until 2! Then she still has to visit her mother. I asked my hubby (her son) to call her & put a seed in her head to possibly visit grandma in the morning so she wouldn't be as late. I have other dinner guests that still have places to go after my home so dinner needs to be on time. Is it rude to start without her? Should I say anything else to her

2007-12-23 14:58:34 · 14 answers · asked by Sherry26 2

dont you miss those days when your kids were like bottles of fizzy pop xmas week !

2007-12-23 14:37:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi,well i have a brother a mom and dad my brother is just plain mean..anything my mom does or gets hes like throwing it whole awaya dn he didnt even try it..since he has been on myspace with these ppl he has changed i tried everything and im tired of crying because my mom buys something good he just doesnt pay attention to it or when my mom calls from work he answres and if we dont answer his question he hangs up while my mom is still giving him instructions he doesnt listen plz help me i am still crying even this momenr...*tear**tear*

2007-12-23 14:29:25 · 5 answers · asked by ~♥Amina♥~ 2

2007-12-23 14:26:03 · 14 answers · asked by Billy Hughes 1

yeah It will be two years that my mom died in jan of 06. But the last time I saw her and the last memory of her was on Christmas Eve... pasted out on the couch half drugged up. Not a good memory. I don't no if this is really a question. I no I only can let go but I don't no if I'm not letting go because it's the last memory and image in my mind of her before I found out she was dead.. any opinion or help.... I miss her so much...:(

2007-12-23 14:17:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was taken from my mom when i was young.there was 4 of us .They put use in two differnt homes and i was just looking for the last 2 of us.So if anyone knows a sight that could help i would apperact it

2007-12-23 14:04:35 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

i hate my cousin she yells at me she thinks she is so popular she also laughs at me bc i have pimples

2007-12-23 13:58:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am going insane over here......I often hear people say that you cannot really love someone unless you trust them. I beg to differ. I love my boyfriend to DEATH. I would do absolutely anything for him and I REALLY want to be with him. But I DON'T trust him. Here's Why: We broke up a couple of months ago and he immediately began messing around with his ex. It bothered me because I felt he didn't even give us anytime to be apart first. Well. A month or two passed and he tried to get back with me, implying that his ex was just a "rebound" because he had so much on his mind and blah blah blah.....anyway. I forgave him for acting so nonchalant and being a total and complete asshole about everything and making all those stupid choices...but I cannot forget. Today is his birthday and when I called he didn't answer. he called back after 2 hours (very unusual) and told me he fell asleep after one of his guy friends bought him out to eat and to the mall.. I Do Not believe him.


He has definitely been letting his actions speak for him and his intentions seem to be good, but I just can't trust him no matter how hard I try........has anyone ever had to regain their trust with you and if so, how long did it take and how did you shake those feelings of resentment?

2007-12-23 13:49:45 · 2 answers · asked by Tnisha 1

They all say happy holidays.

2007-12-23 13:46:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is FINALLY all done with her radiation and chemo (yay!) and I want to make her something special, but I'm not sure what to make. Nothing food-related, because she is home a lot and would see me baking, and we have baked a lot lately. What are some things I could do/make?

Any help is appreciated!

2007-12-23 13:33:38 · 18 answers · asked by Moi 6

i am not sure if he meant to or not but last night he touched my chest while i was watching tv. is it incest?

2007-12-23 13:33:35 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

its for the most part ruined. i can't open presents and i just want to be with my imediate family thats it.

2007-12-23 13:03:26 · 4 answers · asked by LeTourDeFrance 4

my mum was given the choice to take care of me and my sister on the condition she left my dad because he was an unfit parent, but she chose to stay with him which resulted me and my sister goign into care getting separated and leaving home at 13, I am now 17 and have had 2 foster families, it has been tough adjusting to new places and in all honesty i have never felt i belong anywhere, my sister had nothing to do with our parents since our mum chose dad over us, but i remained loyal because at the end of the day, they are my parents, does that make me an idiot? does it mean my mum doesnt love me if she chose him over me? its so hard because i hate my mum for choosing a man i spent most of my childhood protecting her from, and in the end she didnt protect me, and it hurts even more when they say to me they have done nothing wrong.

2007-12-23 12:53:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous