I DO NOT trust him..........help!!!!!!!!?

Question

I am going insane over here......I often hear people say that you cannot really love someone unless you trust them. I beg to differ. I love my boyfriend to DEATH. I would do absolutely anything for him and I REALLY want to be with him. But I DON'T trust him. Here's Why: We broke up a couple of months ago and he immediately began messing around with his ex. It bothered me because I felt he didn't even give us anytime to be apart first. Well. A month or two passed and he tried to get back with me, implying that his ex was just a "rebound" because he had so much on his mind and blah blah blah.....anyway. I forgave him for acting so nonchalant and being a total and complete asshole about everything and making all those stupid choices...but I cannot forget. Today is his birthday and when I called he didn't answer. he called back after 2 hours (very unusual) and told me he fell asleep after one of his guy friends bought him out to eat and to the mall.. I Do Not believe him.


He has definitely been letting his actions speak for him and his intentions seem to be good, but I just can't trust him no matter how hard I try........has anyone ever had to regain their trust with you and if so, how long did it take and how did you shake those feelings of resentment?

Answer 1

The fact that he's been bouncing between you and his ex means that he is incapable of making a mature decision and sticking with it. He has a lot of growing up to do.
Most of the time when they pull this, they are trying to keep a number of girls on the line so when they have a dry spell on their little circuit, they have someone to revert back to.

I would suggest occasionally dating him, but being open to meeting newer and more mature guys to date.

Listen to your gut.

Answer 2

Go with your woman's intuition.

If you love him more than he loves you that may make you let him do whatever. Not good for you.

Rebuilding trust takes time..But I don't think a cheater knows to do anything else.