Family - December 2007

My sister is third youngest and wants to get married!
i feel guilty as im the eldest and if only i was normal i would have been first to get married.
She hasnt told mum shes found someone but once told me via text. I know im les and mums been pressurising me to marry and i keep saying no but why do i feel guilty.
Its not that im unattractive, or anything like that just feel like the ugly old sister at the moment as people will probably talk.
I hate being les, if i was normal i would have been first to marry. Mum is a single parent brought us up on her own although im a girl i looked after my siblings as though they were my kids sad i know, i acted like their dad. I worked hard along with mum to makesure my siblings never missed out.
I am in love with a married woman, and no i didnt fall for her she fell for me. Even she doesnt know i feel the same and i knw i should not feel the same as her but i do. My life is pointless no happiness at all.

Please advise me what too do..

thanks

2007-12-24 09:35:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

who you can rarely see due to finances? He is 1000 miles away, near most of the family. But I cannot afford to travel or stay in a hotel, so we see each other maybe once a year. Christmas seems to be getting sadder for both of us. Would appreciate hearing from others with the same heart ache. Thanks and blessings to all.

2007-12-24 09:12:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok im not going to type some long story but... i really want to move my mom does as well she's just holding back on it,were i live now i cant go to the better school cause i live on the border of two citys :{ and we have had trobule like people following me home & this or and and people have tryed to break in,i jsut really wnat her to see that we need to move and it's not jsut a want for me it's for the both of us, i really want to move into a better house so i can go to a real school and be safe :{
what do i tell her???

2007-12-24 09:08:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 09:06:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-24 08:34:13 · 7 answers · asked by frogeekim 1

every time i go to my daughters house i feel very uncomfortable because her husbands always belittling her in front of me i dont even think she relizes it your probally gonna say mind your own business its her choice ok good but i still cant stop feeling uncomfortable when im around them its weird like hes trying to be her father or something its just puts me in a awakward postion how i feel about it i never said anything to her or him about it
how do i get rid of my weird feelings?

2007-12-24 08:33:06 · 3 answers · asked by LittleLady 4

most of the people in my family don't give me the time of day unless they want money or need me to do something for them. I have come to look at it as a blessing because I have gotten over the emotional side of wanting them to love me... here is this one child that has a smile on her face not just for me but for all others and these same family members believe that she has a problem! she loves to read and draw pictures.. I love my family no matter what and a bleeding heart I am not I just believe that we are at the times mentioned in 2 timothy 3:1-5 and that there is nothing that can be done because we are so far gone in this system of things... Yes I have have met many that are in agreement about the times because they study the bible as I do... and the love of many have cooled off. and we are being delivered up by the love for the GOD of this system and all that he offers those that are blind that that they can not see and deaf that they can not see

2007-12-24 08:30:32 · 5 answers · asked by bay 2

I just turned 55 and I am starting to get this feeling that it's time to move out of my parents house. I don't know! I know it's kind of stupid to feel this way and I should just be comfortable with my self, but I don't know... maybe it's time to get my own place. I have lived here since I was born and I have never been gainfully employed, I didn't finish college either so I don't believe it's appropriate for me to try to move out. More importantly tho, I am not emotionally ready. I remember someone telling me how I should move out when I am ready as a young adult and I have followed that advice. I have actually been thinking about moving out in about ten years to live with my children or something. Most people are moving in with their children at about 65 nowadays. Yea, yea, yea! Maybe I should stop this crazy thoughts and just decided WHEN I'm ready... u know. It's not up to anyone but me. Hang on! g2g my mom just came home. I am going to sneak and see what she got me for christmas

2007-12-24 07:29:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sons father has been paying me so much a week to stay home with our son (we are not together). I wanted to get a job but he talked me out of it, saying it was better for our boy if I was home to raise him. Over the last several months he has complained that he has not had the money, and that I need to get a job because I am just a golddigger. I finally found a job but will not be able to start until the first of the year and will not recieve a paycheck until end of Jan. My problem is that he has only sent 2 out of the last six checks and I have had to sell everything of ANY value to buy food for my child, I have nothing left to sell and three weeks until have more money coming in and I do not qualify for welfare or unimployment. I have even had to sell plasma twice a week. My sons father stores his belongings in my home, including two antique rifles belonging to his grandfather. I am desperate enough now that I feel I have no choice but to sell one of them to make ends meet.

2007-12-24 07:00:27 · 3 answers · asked by Sunny D 1

Ok, I turned 21 in Sept and I am confused and it is mainly because of yahoo answerers. Last year, I was concerned that I was too old to be living at home, but the majority answers 20 is not too old to be living at home and I have until I am about 24 before it's considered inappropriate to live at home with my parents. But it's ok until then, but that I should be working or at college while I live here. So I felt comfortable with that. Anyway, I recently asked a question and I added that my 27 year old brother who never went to college recently moved back in. He was living here for a few months earlier this year but got a girlfriend and moved in with her. Anyway, they apparently got in a fight and she kicked him out. He ended up in jail and my father got him out. Nothing like that has ever happened to me. Anyway, now whenever I speak of this situation on yahoo answerers, now the majority is saying we're both too old to be living at home and need to move out. ) : / so I am confused 21

2007-12-24 06:53:49 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 19 yrs old and this morning my father took my car to put gas in it and wash it Without my permission. I was very upset and said that he should have asked first. He said i should be thankful that he did a favor for me. I feel that it is disrespectful to use my car without my permission. Am I wrong for being upset? Or am i just unappreciative?

2007-12-24 06:38:23 · 21 answers · asked by Ben D 2

I have done literally EVERYTHING for christmas. I did the shopping, I cleaned the house for realatives visting on Christmas day (husbands) I've wrapped all the presents, etc.. All I have asked of my husband is that he come home today from work during his 2 hour lunch break (works 5 mins away) so I can shower before we go out tonight to visit family. We were suppose to go to his aunt and uncles (last minute plans made yesterday without me knowing) and then to my moms to celebrate christmas tonight (have had the plans for monthes!!!) We have 2 kids one is going through the terrible 2's and the other has SERVE behavior problems that we are currently working with a doctor with. I literally cant shower to go out with out my daughter getting into god knows what with her disorders and he chose not to come home during lunch because they had a nice christmas lunch there. I ready to pack up my kids and go to my moms and blow off the aunt and uncle thing because MY family is willing to help

2007-12-24 06:31:41 · 8 answers · asked by Luv_My_Baby 4

Johnny Depp!!! ne way i wanna see sweeney todd and i was wondering if you could give me ideas on how to let them let me gpo see it... THANKS!! in 14 by the way and its rated R

2007-12-24 06:19:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Children are blessings (most of the time anyway). So,not that you could ever put a put a price tag on the amount of love parents give to their children but, if you had to had to, parents, how much money would you want for raising your children until the age of 18?? Please dont give me any answers like "its priceless" or "i love them so much, there isn't an amount". Assuming you had to come up with a figure , how much would you choose?? I'm taking a poll, so your answers would be appreciated.

2007-12-24 05:47:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Grandpa died of a heart attack at age 62, his mom (my g-grandmother) lived up to age 86, and his dad lived up till about 70 ( give or take 7 years). My grandma lived to about 72 she had diabetes and strokes. Her mom lived up till 96 years old and her dad died at age 40 from suicide. On her side neither of her parents had diabetes.

How come my grandparents had to get all the bad luck and die so young?

2007-12-24 05:36:36 · 20 answers · asked by hhh 2

2007-12-24 05:28:18 · 8 answers · asked by biff_the_santa_impersonator 3

My parents have been divorced, and i want to make sure that i spend time with both of them on Christmas. HELP ME!!!!!!!! SEEING TODAY IS X-MAS EVE.

2007-12-24 05:18:43 · 3 answers · asked by rochelle.paez 2

I am 21 years old. Just turned 21 in September. Anyway, my parents don't get a long. My mom went out and bought a dinky Christmas tree that her and my brother could handle according to them because she said my father doesn't put up the tree. You see, they haven't been speaking to each other for a real long time because they're not getting a long, so she said she didn't want to ask him to put it up and put it up herself the week before last. My father actually put up are actual big artificial tree just yesterday because my mom through down the other one after a family fight we had last Monday in which I insulted the small dinky tree because she was nagging at me and my brother. My brother just turned 27 and recently moved back in so she was fighting with him and me. Anyway last year, my dad put up the real tree real late, like on Christmas eve or something, and my mom got all mad at him. Anyway who's side are u on?

2007-12-24 05:03:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My lil sis is turning 13 in like 1 month... I need ideas!!! she has already done a sleepover soo... we need new ideas... HELP!!

2007-12-24 04:59:23 · 19 answers · asked by unknown person 2

Hi all. okay so about 1 week ago I found out i was pregnant. But this is a huge situation! im 25 and my boyfriend (who i have known for some time but we only went out for about 3 months and we werent too serious) was 26. The situation is, is about 1 month ago (he travels alot for work) he was in a car accident, had to go to the er and died in surgery. It was very upsetting and i cant even imagin how it was for his family. Now i dont know what to do. How do i tell his family im pregnant?? We only really met once. Please Please help!! Thankyou

Ps. I am also 100% sure it is his baby.

2007-12-24 04:18:49 · 8 answers · asked by Stephanie 2

2007-12-24 03:57:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I are barely making it financially right now. We have a 7 mos. old and he just started a job Friday. He's been out of work for over 30 days and I only work part-time. I bought our son a ceramic stocking for $1.00 and painted it for Christmas, that is all we could afford. My fiance keeps joking (I hope) that he is excited about his gift from me on Christmas. I've tried telling him I have no money and no way to buy him a gift but he acts as though I'm just building to a great surprise tomorrow morning. Any suggestions for a money free gift? I feel terrible but it's just not possible to buy anything. I think he knows this, but I know his mother will buy something for me and say it's from him, making me look even worse.

2007-12-24 03:56:25 · 25 answers · asked by ? 6

My dad and I have had the hardest time getting in touch with my little brother solely because of his mother. They live in a different part of the state and she's always saying their moving across the country and when we call and she picks up she acts like he doesn't want to speak to us, but she feeds him lies. Many times we call and no one picks up or returns our call. I knew So it's really hard to get in touch with him. Now it's gotten more serious because he tried to commit suicide and was in the hospital. The mother blamed my dad for it and told him to stop trying to contact him. My brother thinks we don't care about him. It's the mother's fault because she keeps him away from us despite our many efforts. When my dad gets things in order where he can drive out to see him he's gonna take this to court for father's rights, but in the meantime my brother is thinking we don't love him or care about him. How do we convince him? He's 14 and somewhat spoiled, but troubled at the same time

2007-12-24 03:42:47 · 10 answers · asked by Story Unknown 5

OK, here goes. I am a 13 year old musician who plays cello. I just finished the 8th grade in a preforming arts middle school in florida. I thought i would be going to the school next door, because we were a middle class family, and my mom couldn't really afford some fancy school. My mom is a very experienced photojournalist, with 20+ years of experience. She love doing photography, but for some reason gets very depressed when she is forced to work with something else besides photography. Before I graduated, my band director (I play clarinet 2, plus lots of other instruments) gave me this wonderful scholarship to French Woods Festival of the performing arts in New York for that summer. So i fly up, and i join the symphony within the camp. The conductor likes me so much, that he gets me an audition with La Guardia high in NY! My mom desperatly struggle to find a house, but found one in Staten island. I got in, all good right? no. i have to finish in dif. q. find it through my account thx

2007-12-24 03:34:42 · 3 answers · asked by shadow2945two 1

we love each other to death, although i believe she deserve something better and i wish her every good things, but i feel she is not open to me. in the other side I have a close relative, old man, who I loved but now i just have fear feling toward him, i told him that, but he haven't reply yet... any suggestion plz?

2007-12-24 02:18:19 · 7 answers · asked by saned 3

do you think my wish will come true?i hate my mother so much that she ruined my concert, ruined everything i do and plus she controls everybody, all i want this christmas is have a better life

2007-12-24 01:55:04 · 13 answers · asked by andrea a 1

my b/f is coming over for a few min to give me my pres.
and i don't want my parents in the room...or at least....not at first.any tips to keep them busy?

2007-12-24 01:31:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i want to go see a psychologist. but i dont want to ruin my moms christmas. should i tell her b4 christmas or after christmas? when is a good time to tell my mom? sometime this year.

2007-12-24 01:31:38 · 7 answers · asked by =/ 1

I have a 14 year old son who is being bullied by a kid his age. Many threats in various forms, which is effecting his school and social life. I am a single mum and this kid is not listening to the school or to his peers and is continuing the threats of violence. Can you take out a restraining order on a teenager? I guess it sounds a little extreme, but I'm seeing such a once outgoing nice natured kid become withdrawn and a loner. Just anyone have any ideas on what I can do? The school can't do much as the child has been suspended, but that won't help outside of school hours.

2007-12-24 01:15:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, my brother has anger issues!
This is long, if you don’t like reading that much then don’t read it & blame me for wasting your time please. Sorry if I sound rude, I’m just rlly mad.
He has anger management just like my dad so whenever we play a game like arm wrestling & I win he takes his hand & slaps me across the face & kicks & punches me! WTF is his problem? One time, he got soooo mad at me he grabbed a pair of scissors and started walking toward me holding the pair of scissors like that crazy Chucky doll & my mom was right there with her eyeballs glued to the computer screen & when I couldn't back away any longer, I got shocked until I moved the other way & then I started screaming, crying, & yelling at the top of my lungs because my mom didn't go anything then she told me to go to MY room & that everything was my fault & because I was screaming, yelling, & crying....she thought  I  had anger management. Isn’t anger management when you can't control your anger? I can control mine deffinently but Alex & stupid dad can't! Since I’m the older one, I’m the one who gets in trouble & yelled at most of the time, gosh. He even throws things & knocks things down. I’ve been fed up so many times, I’ve always gotten the feeling about reporting this to the counselor but whenever I’m about to [when mom & Alex finds out] Alex starts burst out crying, screaming & throwing a tantrum & mom says all these really mean harsh things to me saying that she doesn’t want to live with me anymore, she just wants to runaway from me, why am I chosen to be her child, I never cause any happiness, that I’m never nice, & says all this crap even though I always help her & tries to cheer her up when she’s down most of the time. And whenever we get in a fight, & only a few of the times, he gets in trouble & then when my dad is lecturing him, my mom’s giving me this evil glare at me saying that I’m the child of the devil. Wth? Something seriously is wrong in my family & I’m sick of it! Why is my mom doing this to me? And one time, my dad abused me leaving me with marks, head damage with blood dripping from my head, muscle/bone aches, & all these harsh remarks & he’s been doing that to me until I told in him & I’ve been having flashbacks ever since I was 3 yrs old when that crazy bastard humped me with clothes on & I was really depressed at that time & I’ve been holding a grudge at him for so long & I still do b/c he got away with it & made me look bad instead saying that I lied because my mom told me to [there’s more to it but that’s not what the main problem is right now]! I have no idea what to do! I can’t ******* live like this nomore! So anyone, help? I would love to run away & start a fresh new life in 2 years when I turn 16 yrs old!

2007-12-24 01:04:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous